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cant get away fast enough what.to.do Due November 8; Nova Scotia 11 posts
29th Aug '12

my babys father has caused me nothing but stress my hole pregnancy that now even just to see him at the store i vomit he wont leave me alone but he has said he dose not care about me or my daughter iv tryed putting a peace bond on him but my court date just kept getting moved so i gave up hes threatend to take my daughter from me when shes born and said ill never see her again so now im basicly forced to move outside of the province to protect her cuzz he has a very violent temper iv had premature labor already cuzz of his bull shit and im a high risk pregnancy im not due till november 9th but my doctor said ill be induced at like 38 weeks im almost 30 weeks now and only have 2 months left maybe less it seems like i cant get out of here fast enough im scared im going to end up having her while im still living here and then ill be stuck in this town forever and have to deal with his harrassment and abuse and be unabel to keep my daughter safe :( the thought of adoption has crossed my mind a few times but i love her to much to give her up ....... he was never mean at all until i got pregnant i dont know why things changed its not like finding out i was pregnant was a surprise cuzz we ment to do it just i dont get it and if hes saying he dosent care about us and is going and f**king other girls then why wont he just let me be and his mother is just as bad iv tryed being nice to her and invited her to my baby shower and told she can come to the hospital when shes born and that ill bring her by to visit but everytime im nice and she gose and pulls some bull shit crap ...... she wants me to leave the baby with her so my ex can see her but i cant leave the baby with her cuzz hes controls her and is even worsewith her then he is with me and she just lets him do what he wants and walk all over her ...... is there anyone out there that knows how i feel a lil?

Ole' No Name TTC since Oct 2013; 1 child; Singapore, Singapore 5849 posts
29th Aug '12

That was hard to follow, no punctuation.
But from what I understood, you should cut all ties even with his mom.
Move away and don't tell anyone he knows where you're going.

.nnnb British Columbia 18155 posts
29th Aug '12

wow that was a lil hard to read. I think you are doing the right thing by moving. As soon as your LO is born file for SOLE custody. Write down everything he is doing and saying right now. Get in touch with Family Justice, let them know whats going on. Let them know he is mentally and verbally abusive and he has threatened to kidnap your LO.

Bethy-Poodles Due November 14; 2 kids; Prosser, Washington 5867 posts
29th Aug '12
Quoting Ole' No Name:" That was hard to follow, no punctuation. But from what I understood, you should cut all ties even with his mom. Move away and don't tell anyone he knows where you're going."

Lol, yeah. The run on paragraph was hard to decipher. I had to read your comment on it to get my bearings. I agree with you though.

what.to.do Due November 8; Nova Scotia 11 posts
29th Aug '12

lol sorry when i need to get something out i tend to just write and not watch my spelling or anything, And i jump from one thing to another. If i dont just write as it comes to me then i tend to leave alot out...... moving outside province would revoke the rights he has to her, and if he wanted the rights back he would have to come to where i live and file for it. Right now he dosen't even know im moving, and i dont plan on ever telling him where i am. It's a lil hard to just cut it off with his mom cuzz it's her first grandchild and unless he has anymore kids it will be her only. But im sure if he has any more kids that my daughter would just be forgoten about, so maybe it is best i cut it off with her now before my baby is like 6 or 7 or whatever age and he has another one and she gets pushed to the side.

.nnnb British Columbia 18155 posts
29th Aug '12
Quoting what.to.do:" lol sorry when i need to get something out i tend to just write and not watch my spelling or anything, ... [snip!] ... i cut it off with her now before my baby is like 6 or 7 or whatever age and he has another one and she gets pushed to the side."


It sucks that the grandmother will lose out on seeing her grandchild but you have to think about YOU and the safety of your and the LO.

what.to.do Due November 8; Nova Scotia 11 posts
29th Aug '12
Quoting SmashleynSmallyPants:" It sucks that the grandmother will lose out on seeing her grandchild but you have to think about YOU and the safety of your and the LO. "

i know and the best thing for us is to leave and just never look back :( sadly