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*gone* .kate. 1 child; Kalamazoo, Michigan 379 posts
29th Aug '12

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Maegan(FAKER)'s 2 kids; Tucson, Arizona 5332 posts
29th Aug '12

Im sorry you are going through that. Have you checked into any place that could help you out with money for it? Is he opposed to adoption since he is so against abortion? I am very sorry hun I know how you feel.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36510 posts
29th Aug '12

Have you asked a friend to take you? And ask your SO to watch your kid while you go to a "dinner and a movie" andthen "miscarry"?



Im sorry. I know how you feel. I currently went thru that. If you cant get the abortion can you possible do adoption?

The Icebox {MBRD} 17 kids; New Mexico 18558 posts
29th Aug '12

Im sorry :(
do u have any friends that could loan you the money?

"The Boob" [HM] 2 kids; Kingman, Arizona 15719 posts
29th Aug '12

That really sucks. In a time like this, you need your closest family members (SO, and mother) to be supportive of you. I feel terrible that your decision was kind of unmade for you.



I think I would have a very hard time dealing with feeling like I was forced to continue a pregnancy, but that is just how that would make me feel.



I'm sorry mama :cry:

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36510 posts
29th Aug '12

Here is some info..



Oklahoma
Roe Fund
918-481-6444 http://www.wix.com/okrcrc/okrcrc
If you live in Oklahoma, you can contact the Roe Fund for help paying for an abortion. The Roe Fund is a program of the Oklahoma Religious Coalition for Reproductive Choice. Call this number and leave a voicemail slowly stating your name and your phone number, and someone will call you back within 24 hours.

Chellie Due September 19 (boy); 2 kids; Vegas, Nv, United States 4791 posts
status 29th Aug '12

I know how you feel. I was not ready to be pregnant with my second and it is causing me so many problems now that he is here. Not to mention the financial aspect of our lives. When I found out it was another boy it made me feel even worse and my husband thought I was crazy. Now here I am with a 18 month (almost 19 months) old and a 6 week old and will be finding out Friday if I have PPD or if there is something else going on. I can't bond with my baby but I can't give him up either.



Abortion was out of the question for me because DH wanted the baby, and I couldn't put myself through abortion again. I am happy I didn't do that but at the same time I am hating my life because I am stressed with my boys close together, and guilty because my older one gets jealous and because the baby constantly wants to be held I cannot spend time with DS as much as I did before the baby arrived.

Serial Mom ✄ 18 kids; Michigan 2690 posts
29th Aug '12

I'm sorry that you have no one who is supporting you at the moment. You said you can't afford it but have you checked to see if there's any resources in your community to help you get an abortion? I needed an abortion years ago but didn't have the funds but I found a resource that helped me pay for it. They paid for the whole thing. There's got to be something in your area like this. If you are able to get the abortion, then I agree with Yurvon that you should have a friend take you and then say you miscarried. If resources are available in your area, they may also be able to give you a ride. Good luck and I hope it works out for you!!

.kate. 1 child; Kalamazoo, Michigan 379 posts
29th Aug '12

I honestly don't have any friends that I feel close enough to tell about my pregnancy and wish for an abortion. I think just about all of them would feel the need to go and tell somebody, and then what I did would be out for everyone to hear...



If I had my own car, I'd attempt to do it on my own... But knowing that my mom would hate me afterwards.. There's just nothing left for me to do..



And I begged SO for adoption. I'm 'not allowed.' If I tried to put it up for adoption, he told me that he would fight for custody and that would be the end of our relationship.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36510 posts
29th Aug '12
Quoting .katelyn.:" I honestly don't have any friends that I feel close enough to tell about my pregnancy and wish for an ... [snip!] ... If I tried to put it up for adoption, he told me that he would fight for custody and that would be the end of our relationship."


Really? wow. I would be leaving already since he doesnt want you to get an abortion NOR is he is willing, NOR is he willing to "let" you do adoption. wtf are you suppose to do, raise the kid that you dont want?

The Icebox {MBRD} 17 kids; New Mexico 18558 posts
29th Aug '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting .katelyn.:</b>" I honestly don't have any friends that I feel close enough to tell about my pregnancy and wish for an ... [snip!] ... If I tried to put it up for adoption, he told me that he would fight for custody and that would be the end of our relationship."</blockquote>



I really wish I lived closer to help you out. I would get an abortion amd leave him

.kate. 1 child; Kalamazoo, Michigan 379 posts
29th Aug '12
Quoting Yurvon [♥]:" Really? wow. I would be leaving already since he doesnt want you to get an abortion NOR is he is willing, ... [snip!] ... NOR is he is willing, NOR is he willing to "let" you do adoption. wtf are you suppose to do, raise the kid that you dont want? "


Basically... It really has put a lot of strain on our relationship. I feel a lot of resentment towards him right now.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36510 posts
29th Aug '12
Quoting .katelyn.:" Basically... It really has put a lot of strain on our relationship. I feel a lot of resentment towards him right now."


I dont blame you. My ex didnt want me to get the abortion, nor did he help me fund it NOR did help with the pregnancy NOR did he want to do adoption NOR did he want to parent full time. So I seriosuyl feel your pain. I finally got what I wanted though. I did adoption.

.kate. 1 child; Kalamazoo, Michigan 379 posts
29th Aug '12
Quoting Yurvon [♥]:" I dont blame you. My ex didnt want me to get the abortion, nor did he help me fund it NOR did help ... [snip!] ... NOR did he want to parent full time. So I seriosuyl feel your pain. I finally got what I wanted though. I did adoption. "


I just feel like adoption would cause me even more pain than an abortion... Not like I'll be able to do either anyways. Ugh..

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36510 posts
29th Aug '12
Quoting .katelyn.:" I just feel like adoption would cause me even more pain than an abortion... Not like I'll be able to do either anyways. Ugh.."


I think abortion would be the best. I would do another abortion before I did another adoption again.