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How common? BlEsSmEbAbY TTC since Aug 2012; 32 kids; Japan 273 posts
30th Aug '12

I would like to know how common we're miscarriages in the past?



Are miscarriages happening a lot more now than then, it it because of the food and way of life that leads to increased miscarriages in today's,



Basically after how many miscarriage is a fertility treatment called for?



How much pressure did a miscarriage have on your life and mind? How long did it take for you to overcome that? Did a fear of miscarriage occur in your next pregnancy, if so how did you get rid of that thought,



My heart goes out to all moms who lost their unborn/ born at any point of time, and baby dust all the way to every women



If you are trying to cover a loss you can PM me, I'll be there to help in all possible manners.

loser mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Oslo, ,, Norway 10902 posts
status 30th Aug '12

took me a loooong time to get over my miscarriage. Like over a year....

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55983 posts
30th Aug '12

I have had 5. They are more common than people realize. The average woman has 3 in her reproductive life and may not even know.



The Dr won't even consider you a high risk until you have had more than 3. Then at most they will give you progesterone. That does have it's drawbacks as well.



I never really had a hard time dealing with them. I guess it is because of how I looked at them. I had 3 then went YEARS without getting pregnant. Not for a lack of trying. I was blessed with a set of natural fraternal twin girls. (my husband and I don't believe in medically assisted pregnancies as a personal preference) I then had 2 more m/c's (both a suprise because we weren't trying) then my son. I always viewed a m/c as (personal here so to each as their own) God's way of saying that the child wasn't ready for the world. Basically, like something wasn't right and he didn't want the child to suffer so he took it back. It was how I coped and dealt with them. Having a BSN and knowing from a scientific base, there is NOTHING you can do to prevent an early m/c and difficult to prevent a 2nd tri.



One of the major reasons a woman has a m/c is improper implantation. There is nothing that can be done about that. Blighted Ovum's are pretty common as well. That just generically means that nothing came of a fertilized egg. Most m/c's are what they call "Chemical Pregnancies". These are really the most common.



You do what you have to to help accept the sitiation. Nobody can tell you how long to grieve or how long you have until you have to get over it. Physically, at least 3 cycles before I tried again. I wanted to make sure my cycle was healthy and strong before I tried again.

BlEsSmEbAbY TTC since Aug 2012; 32 kids; Japan 273 posts
30th Aug '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Not tellin:</b>" I have had 5. They are more common than people realize. The average woman has 3 in her reproductive life ... [snip!] ... at least 3 cycles before I tried again. I wanted to make sure my cycle was healthy and strong before I tried again. "</blockquote>




I am totally in sink with the Gods way of stopping the child from being born, in fact after my second one this concept really helped me ease away very quick

Mak&Row 18 kids; Portland, Oregon 763 posts
30th Aug '12

I think that there is some validity to food and the environment and a mc, but the biggest reason as to why it seems like there are so many is because of modern science. We are able to test so soon and get a positive or negative days before we are to start our periods. Before this women would assume an early mc as thier cycle. I mc at 3 weeks and it riped me up inside I count my blessings as I have 2 beautiful girls. Because of the mc, I do believe the process of creating a life is amazing!

Squeaky McGee [6 wks] Due May 7; 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 65193 posts
30th Aug '12

I don't think miscarriages are more common than they were in the past. In fact, I think they're less common due to advances in medical technology. However, I think women are more willing to talk about them now, so it seems like they're happening more often. I've had 3 miscarriages and my OB wouldn't start any testing until after my 3rd (I'm currently waiting for my results to come back). Some women recover quickly from a miscarriage, but I wasn't one of them. My losses (especially the 2nd one, because I was further along) hit me hard. It's been over a year since that loss, and I still haven't recovered. It's a lifelong grieving process. Sometimes there is a reason, and sometimes there isn't. It's just a part of life for some women.