I was laying in bed last night thinking. I know I have a while to go before "the talk" with LO, but I had some questions that I would like yalls opinion on.
How exactly can I make sure I do everything possible to make sure my son doesnt get a girl pregnant?
Should I just give the facts and push condoms on him? Or should I push abstinence more?
I don't want to give him a "pass" to have sex, but I don't want him to be stupid about it if he DOES decide not to be a virgin anymore. :/ It's kind of confusing to me.
I just remember my mom reading this embarrassing book to me and then not saying anything else about it until I went to my first Pap where they gave me BC for PCOS. :/
What are yall planning on doing and what do you think is more effective to do?
Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:" I was laying in bed last night thinking. I know I have a while to go before "the talk" with LO, but I ... [snip!] ... first Pap where they gave me BC for PCOS. :/ What are yall planning on doing and what do you think is more effective to do? "
i think i'd give him or her all the needed information so they can also protect themselves even if they choose abstinence.
I think you should talk about condoms and how to prevent pregnancy. My mom pushed abstinence on me, and I wound up pregnant. The more you push, the more they`ll push back. Warn him of STDs - how easily pregnancy can happen, etc. That`s my plan with DS
Nothing you can do. Just teach him how to have sex safely, and that if he does get a girl pregnant, you will take no part in providing for the baby; he's on his own.
I'm going to tell my daughter and whatever other kids they have all the options they have when it comes to sex. Different forms of birth control, abstinence, and the consequences of not using birth control. I'll also offer to take them to their doctor if they aren't comfortable talking to me about it and let them figure out what form of birth control is best for them.
When we have the talk, I will let our kids lead. I will talk about abstinence, but I'm not naive enough to think they'll actually do it. So I will have condoms out where they can easily access them, and will talk about different BC options to my daughter.
I will hard core push condoms, though, even if my daughter (and son's gf) are on BC. Pregnancy isn't the only issue with sex, STDs are important too.
I will push facts and condoms and make sure he knows that he can talk to me whenver he wants to about anything.
I will tell my sons about abstinence and hope that's what they choose for a while, however I want to make sure they're always provided with the necessary protection in order to prevent pregnancy. I'm not giving them a pass, I'm trying to prevent them from getting a girl or even girls pregnant by providing them with condoms.
I will stress the importance of having only one sexual partner and std/HIV testing when they decide to have sex.
I don't want them to think in their best friend, but I don't want them to think they can't come to me either-I want them to live life before having children but sometimes that doesn't happen. If they end up teenage fathers, I want to know I gave them every opprotunity to prevent it with the accurate protection used correctly.
Personally I plan on talking about what sex really is not just physically but emotionally. I will try and explain why it is best to wait, but let them know that if they choose not to then there are steps they need to take to prevent pregnancy and STDs. And that they can always come to me if they if they want to talk about these things and I will be willing to help them get birth control if they want it.
DD will start birth control when she enters high school. I plan on also keeping condoms in the hall closet. I hope between her father and I we get through to her the importance of protection. The importance of even if she is on bc, he still needs to use a condom and STD awareness. I hope we can have an open dialogue about it and she will come to me with any questions.
My parents never had any talk with me. All my mom said was get on bc if you are planning on having sex.
I plan to tell my daughter the facts. My parents never talked to me about it until after I had had sex for the first time. I'm praying she waits but I know that is it more likely that she won't wait forever. (Although if my husband has anything to do it with daddy's little princess won't even know boys exist lol). But if she's anything like me she'll end up having to go on birth control anyways at a young age for period problems & pcos. I went on bc at 14 & my dad flipped his lid. He said it was a "free pass" for me to have sex (but I did not have sex until I was 17). I'm going to inform her about STD's and how hard it'll be to raise a baby if she gets pregnant at a young age. I'm 20 and my husband is 23 and it still won't be easy by no means to raise her. I'll tell her the struggles my mom went through when she got pregnant with me at 17 and the struggles my husband's mom went through when got pregnant & married at 15. I'm hoping that the information won't necessarily scare her but bring to reality about being safe. But I'm also not stupid and I know heat of the moment when it strikes and you throw caution to wind so I'll support her no matter what happens.
Abstinence isn't effective. Teens need to be educated so they can protect themselves if they decide to have sex. I don't see any problem with telling them the benefits of waiting and the emotional side of sex though. I'm not just going to have one talk with my LO, I think it's a good idea to answer any questions they have honestly in an age appropriate way and keep an open dialogue about it so they will come to you in the future.
All of those ways sound very effective! I guess it all depends on what kind of teen my son grows up to be on what would work on him. Im terrified of becoming like my SO's ex-wife. Her son just had a baby with a 18 year old and she is really taking it hard. I hope I am more effective then my parents were! I was just lucky I didnt get pregnant so young!