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Rant. EmmaRitchie :) Australia 106 posts
5th Sep '12

I always thought I wanted this baby, and I do, I have formed a bond with my little growing baby.



But EVERYONE around me except my best girl friend aren't happy about me wanting to keep it. I feel I'm being forced into abortion by my mum! And adoption OR abortion by bubs father..



I know it's my decision but I feel if I don't do what everyone else around me wants I'll lose them.. I already feel like I have nowhere to go or turn to.



It's just a rant.
I'm 10 weeks and still in turmoil about decisions.
I'm nearly 20, why are the most important people just being abusive ever since this baby news came along!



Does wanting this baby and wanting to raise this baby and be a good mum to this child make me a bitch if I keep it? Especially if BD doesn't want it and my parents will only support HIS side and decision.
Apparently I'm ruining HIS life by wanting it.
I wasn't the only one who did this to me yet I'm the only one taking responsibility for it.



Rant over.

user banned 3 kids; Washington 15083 posts
5th Sep '12

Is it possible for him to sign his rights away at the birth?

~The Lunar Flower~ 2 kids; Alabama 6748 posts
5th Sep '12
Quoting Angie Mother of Boys:" Is it possible for him to sign his rights away at the birth?"

I'd have him do that & if they can't support your decision then do you really want them around to be honest? its 100% up to YOU, its YOUR baby, & your life

EmmaRitchie :) Australia 106 posts
5th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Angie Mother of Boys:</b>" Is it possible for him to sign his rights away at the birth?"</blockquote>




I'm not sure, in Australia I think it's mandatory to pay child support. But he may be able to sign the rights away but I think for him its more the fact that he feels like he 'will have this hanging over his head for the rest of his life' both words of him and my mother!
I told him he doesn't have to have ANY responsibility. But that's still not good enough because it's his child.

CatLady Texas 1244 posts
5th Sep '12

I don't think it makes you a bitch if you keep your baby. Let people be negative it's your choice not theirs so don't let them influence you, if you wan't to keep your baby keep it.

EmmaRitchie :) Australia 106 posts
5th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting :)Amanda(::</b>" I'd have him do that & if they can't support your decision then do you really want them around to be honest? its 100% up to YOU, its YOUR baby, & your life"</blockquote>




But I'd have nowhere to go and nowhere to live.
My parents won't support me because he doesn't want it :(

EmmaRitchie :) Australia 106 posts
5th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting pigeon pair:</b>" I don't think it makes you a bitch if you keep your baby. Let people be negative it's your choice not theirs so don't let them influence you, if you wan't to keep your baby keep it."</blockquote>




But I'll basically have no means to live or support this baby, especially if my parents don't come round.. Even if they do they will guilt trip me til the baby comes.

CatLady Texas 1244 posts
5th Sep '12
Quoting Scared & Excited:" <blockquote><b>Quoting :)Amanda(::</b>" I'd have him do that & if they can't support ... [snip!] ... But I'd have nowhere to go and nowhere to live. My parents won't support me because he doesn't want it :("


There are services out there that can help you to get on your feet ... centrelink, department of housing ect. Your parents might come around in time, my mum wasn't too happy when i got pregnant with my daughter but the further along i got the more she came around and got excited about being a grandmother.

EmmaRitchie :) Australia 106 posts
5th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting pigeon pair:</b>" There are services out there that can help you to get on your feet ... centrelink, department of housing ... [snip!] ... i got pregnant with my daughter but the further along i got the more she came around and got excited about being a grandmother."</blockquote>



This is the last text she sent to me:



Its sad that u r only thinking of yourself again. U r not looking at the big picture. Zac doesnt want this baby. He will be stuck 4 18 years get real emma u wont be able 2 go out when it suits u . Think what u r doing. U will be a single mum who has nothing. Look at other single mums boyfriends they r the pits . Do the rite thing 4 u and zak. He doesnt want this. Dont do this 2 him!



Don't mind the spelling, she's old and phone dumb.
But shes just really hurtful.

~The Lunar Flower~ 2 kids; Alabama 6748 posts
5th Sep '12
Quoting Scared & Excited:" <blockquote><b>Quoting :)Amanda(::</b>" I'd have him do that & if they can't support ... [snip!] ... But I'd have nowhere to go and nowhere to live. My parents won't support me because he doesn't want it :("

I am in that same situation now. instead of telling me she wanted me out & didnt want to help me til I could get on my feet my mother booted me out & gave my room away. Since then i've been barely getting by at different hotels & friends' houses but tomorrow i'm getting an apartment finally. are you working? if not i'd get a job & start saving as much as possible. If you really want this baby then keep it. & if he didnt want a baby then he shouldnt have taken the chance on gettin you pregnant. i am so sorry things are going like this for you, I'm currently 7 months & having to look for more work to get by but if you have a program like WIC you can make it & foodstamps also if you get your own place. there are options for you out there but ultimately it can only be you that decides whats going to happen with your life

EmmaRitchie :) Australia 106 posts
5th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting :)Amanda(::</b>" I am in that same situation now. instead of telling me she wanted me out & didnt want to help me ... [snip!] ... place. there are options for you out there but ultimately it can only be you that decides whats going to happen with your life"</blockquote>




I'm not scared of being alone.. I'm scared of doing this alone :(
Why can't he take a little responsibility.. Just be there for me.
I'm working, and renting a place at the moment. Work doesn't know I'm pregnant yet.. But there about to give everyone 2 months off so then I will have nowhere to go, then when I'm showing I don't think they will let me back.
3 weeks ago I had a car accident so now I can't get from a to b easily.



My life is just awful. I feel like a bad parent already!

CatLady Texas 1244 posts
5th Sep '12
Quoting Scared & Excited:" <blockquote><b>Quoting pigeon pair:</b>" There are services out there that can help ... [snip!] ... zak. He doesnt want this. Dont do this 2 him! Don't mind the spelling, she's old and phone dumb. But shes just really hurtful."


That sucks she is being so mean. But you don't need her if she is going to be so negative, it sucks because you really need all the support you can get. Do you still live with her?

EmmaRitchie :) Australia 106 posts
5th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting pigeon pair:</b>" That sucks she is being so mean. But you don't need her if she is going to be so negative, it sucks because you really need all the support you can get. Do you still live with her?"</blockquote>




I'm down at the snow at the moment. I've worked here for 4 months and they offered me a job over the rest of the year til around Easter but baby is due Easter..
I was planning to leave end of October.. And either move in with zach or mum, but neither seem like an option now :(

CatLady Texas 1244 posts
5th Sep '12
Quoting Scared & Excited:" <blockquote><b>Quoting pigeon pair:</b>" That sucks she is being so mean. But you ... [snip!] ... Easter.. I was planning to leave end of October.. And either move in with zach or mum, but neither seem like an option now :("


If you can keep that job you might be eligible for maternity leave (i'm not sure exactly how long you have to be in a job before they can give it to you but it might be an option)

Janel_xo.♥ 1 child; California 1271 posts
5th Sep '12

If you want your child, keep your child. No one can make the decision for you. Sorry if that's your mom but she's so rude & out of line.