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Kyan&Nate Due February 25; 1 child; Australia 142 posts
5th Sep '12

You don't HAVE to tell them your pregnant per se because it doesn't make any difference to your payment until the baby is actually born. I was hoping you were in WA because my mum is starting a new job at DHS in a call centre. Doing all Centrelink, Child Support and Medicare stuff.
But the fact of the matter is, it's his baby and regardless of whether or not he wants it, if his name is on the birth certificate, he has to pay child support.

Kyan&Nate Due February 25; 1 child; Australia 142 posts
5th Sep '12

And Yes, the previous post was right also, you would be eligble for the baby bonus whch is paid fortnightlynow, plus the family tax benefit. Obviously though, if you are still in a relationship, the amount of money you get would depend on your household income.

EmmaRitchie :) Australia 106 posts
5th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mum-of-2:</b>" Oh I forgot they are online lol you can find what you will be eligible for, either baby bonus or paid ... [snip!] ... an application and go on the waiting list. Until then, there's emergency housing like the salvos, do you have a salvos office?"</blockquote>




I know BD would never let me out on the street. He would always have a place for me to stay and I guess my parents would too but how could I be around my parents who would just guilt rid me til I feel awful and with zach he would let me stay rent free and food free, he's a good person and he cares about me. He's just not seeing reason on my side to why I want our baby. I just feel I couldn't go there if all he did was hate me for making the right decision for me and our baby :(
I looked online at centrelink but it was a little confusing :/

EmmaRitchie :) Australia 106 posts
5th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kyans Mummy:</b>" And Yes, the previous post was right also, you would be eligble for the baby bonus whch is paid fortnightlynow, ... [snip!] ... Obviously though, if you are still in a relationship, the amount of money you get would depend on your household income."</blockquote>



If he keeps being mean I feel like we won't be in a relationship for much longer!
I would never stop him seeing his baby ever I want him to be a good dad, but even after I said I would raise our baby alone if I had to.. That's still not good enough!

Kyan&Nate Due February 25; 1 child; Australia 142 posts
5th Sep '12

I sent you a private message :-)

justanotherchicken Alabama 2402 posts
5th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Scared & Excited:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mum-of-2:</b>" Oh I forgot they are online lol you can find ... [snip!] ... was hate me for making the right decision for me and our baby :( I looked online at centrelink but it was a little confusing :/"</blockquote>




That's really good that hell still support you, are you sure you don't think he'll come around and is just scared right now? I mean some people freak out, a baby is a big thing but it may just be a freak out? I'd still get those services in place though just in case, even if you go on the waiting list, you can decline when a house becomes available but you'll go back to end of the waiting list. (I think you can decline the house twice before your put back to the end though, I'm not entirely sure)
If you seperate but live in the same house, you'll get centrelink/government payments and you won't be able to collect child support living in the same house so unless you get an exemption then it would be a lower rate of tax benefit.
If you can't find anything on the site, you can call them and they'll be able to tell you what the eligibility for payments, you just can't apply until bub is born though and paid parental, you apply 2 or 3 months before your due date.

EmmaRitchie :) Australia 106 posts
5th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mum-of-2:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Scared & Excited:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mum-of-2:</b>" ... [snip!] ... for payments, you just can't apply until bub is born though and paid parental, you apply 2 or 3 months before your due date."</blockquote>



I'd love to think and be able to say that he will come around and I always think he is a decent person and has been the whole way through the relationship that why would he turn his back on me now. He's saying no right now.. But maybe when our babies born he will be there. But I can't count on that because the thought of him not being there after baby is here is awful.
He hasn't told any of his friends and none of his family! It makes me feel awful an so secretive.

EmmaRitchie :) Australia 106 posts
5th Sep '12

Which makes me think when he hasn't told anyone.. Why would he stay!

Claire Traynor Due December 22 (girl); 19 kids; Mayfield, United Kingdom 123 posts
5th Sep '12

My sister went through somethin like u. She done want the daddy wanted n ended the pregnancy. It's the worse thing she has ever done it haunts her not a day goes by when she doesn't think about the baby.
It's really up to u but if u really want n are excited about this baby then keep it. Ur mother will come round they always do. Just don't make the same mistake n make sure u can live with yourself after you decided. Xxx

EmmaRitchie :) Australia 106 posts
5th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Claire Traynor:</b>" My sister went through somethin like u. She done want the daddy wanted n ended the pregnancy. It's the ... [snip!] ... will come round they always do. Just don't make the same mistake n make sure u can live with yourself after you decided. Xxx"</blockquote>




Thankyou lovely :) xoxo

DanielleRenee3 Due November 4 (girl); Indiana 12 posts
5th Sep '12
Quoting Scared & Excited:" I always thought I wanted this baby, and I do, I have formed a bond with my little growing baby. But ... [snip!] ... life by wanting it. I wasn't the only one who did this to me yet I'm the only one taking responsibility for it. Rant over."

I'm 22 years old, and my first trimester was the hardest as regarding my family and their choice of my baby. The father didn't stick around, and I believe if I would've terminated my baby, or opted for adoption we wouldve stayed together, even though I was deeply in love with him. I know that I will never experience any love like that of my own child. And keeping a man was just not worth that to me, if he couldn't man up about our situation wich he hasn't so far..he really wasn't the one for me. And didn't love me like I thought. And getting pregnant just showed me his true colors. I still get comments from my family..time to time. But i'm 31 weeks now and they are actually getting excited about it, I just understand that they knew it was going to be very difficult for me raising a baby on my own. And of course other concerns...like them having to help me raise the baby. But I made it very clear that I layed down, I got pregnant..and I understand that if they wanted more kids they would've had them their self. So i'm going to take care of my respsonsibility. And after I started buying everything she needed..they started to see that I was holding true to my word and taking care of my own. Everyone comes around in their own way..and if not..they don't. Your family might just possibly miss out on a beautiful grandbaby, neice...nephew whatever and they will have to deal with that at their own time. It is very hard going through a pregnancy alone and scared with no support..and that's all I really wanted was some kind of emotional support..but regardless I'm getting through it..and I'm very excited to meet my little baby girl eventually! I just couldn't imagine giving her up for adoption then later in life deciding now may be the right time to have a baby I couldn't do it knowing I let another child go..just because the father or whoever didnt stick around. I know someday a great guy will come along for me and my daughter and she give us everything we deserve. There is a reason for everything, no child is an accident from God. And now I see I was given this gift to change myself, I've became a lot stronger..and got out of a relationship that I possibly could've stayed in for years that just wasn't healthy and not truely being able to see the guy for what he was. You're right you both got pregnant. It was his choice just as well to choose to have sex unprotected or not..but regardless still choosing to do so knowing what the consequences may be..and he really doesn't sound that great for wanting you to do such a thing. So it doesn't sound to me like he is much of a keeper, but that baby is. A lot of guys as well get scared, not saying that should be an excuse. But a lot of my friends baby dads left them during their pregnancy and came back after the child was born..to me that will not be an option..if he couldn't stick by me and support me through a very hard time then he doesn't deserve me after my daughter is born. It's up to you, it's your body and it will be the decsions you will have to live with for the rest of your life. My mother got 2 abortions before having my brother and I and said it was because my dad said he wouldn't stick by her or support her..and everyday she has to live with that. And she really ended up resenting my father for it as well. Keep your head up, and do what you want!