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Mami Ana 2 kids; Tallahassee, Florida 3595 posts
7th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lillie Montalvo:</b>" And maybe your ways are not right in different situations but its your child if your child is not being ... [snip!] ... a bad mom or not doing things right. and like i said it never happened again and my daughter is back to her good sleeping ways."</blockquote>




Well guess what it was abuse. And you are a bad mom for allowing it happen.

Mrs. Conan O'Brien 2 kids; Colorado 20924 posts
7th Sep '12
Quoting Lillie Montalvo:" Well you have your way and he has his even though he stopped over our fight. But thats life you bring your kids up your way and I'll do the same."


Right, but if someone makes a topic ASKING if we think if it's right or not, we answer.

His Wife & Her Mommy :-) Due April 10 (boy); 1 child; Brentwood, New York 600 posts
7th Sep '12
Quoting Mami Ana:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Lillie Montalvo:</b>" And maybe your ways are not right in different ... [snip!] ... to her good sleeping ways."</blockquote> Well guess what it was abuse. And you are a bad mom for allowing it happen."


I guess i'm a bad mom i can only live and learn and make things better no one is perfect. and to the other comment yes I asked and i'm not saying it is right i'm just trying to make it clear he was in no way trying to hurt her or hurting her I do not want you guys thinking I'm with a bad guy who abuses people and children.

Isaiah & Delilah's Mama 2 kids; Georgia 8616 posts
7th Sep '12
Quoting Lillie Montalvo:" I guess i'm a bad mom i can only live and learn and make things better no one is perfect. and to the ... [snip!] ... in no way trying to hurt her or hurting her I do not want you guys thinking I'm with a bad guy who abuses people and children."


But he WAS hurting her. :roll:
Dang, why is it so hard to admit.

Mami Ana 2 kids; Tallahassee, Florida 3595 posts
7th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lillie Montalvo:</b>" I guess i'm a bad mom i can only live and learn and make things better no one is perfect. and to the ... [snip!] ... in no way trying to hurt her or hurting her I do not want you guys thinking I'm with a bad guy who abuses people and children."</blockquote>



Get it through your head that he EMOTIONALLY AND MENTALLY harmed her. Abuse isn't only physical, you can't be serious here.

Isaiah & Delilah's Mama 2 kids; Georgia 8616 posts
7th Sep '12
Quoting Mami Ana:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Lillie Montalvo:</b>" I guess i'm a bad mom i can only live ... [snip!] ... Get it through your head that he EMOTIONALLY AND MENTALLY harmed her. Abuse isn't only physical, you can't be serious here."

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j.a.c 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Virginia 2165 posts
7th Sep '12

Okay, i didn't know she was only 9 months old... what the hell is wrong with you? My son just turned ten months, sure his sleeping habits are still whacky, but i'd never ever restrain him until he screamed himself to a pitiful slumber.. my heart breaks for your daughter, as sad as that sounds.
Poor little one, being called a drama queen by her mama when she doesn't even know any better.. she is still just a little one, have a heart OP. Really, don't fucking do that. It's just not right. She was probably so frustrated/scared.. probably wanted her mama, but you couldn't even comfort her.. they're only that small for so long.:cry::?

user banned 1 child; Jamaica, OH, United States 7126 posts
7th Sep '12
Quoting j.a.c:" Okay, i didn't know she was only 9 months old... what the hell is wrong with you? My son just turned ... [snip!] ... frustrated/scared.. probably wanted her mama, but you couldn't even comfort her.. they're only that small for so long.:cry::?"


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I used to get so frustrated with DD because she's smart, and she "knew" exactly what she was doing. Until she got old enough to know exactly what she's doing and now she laughs about it.
OP you and your SO have some serious growing up to do. Stop mistreating that poor baby.

j.a.c 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Virginia 2165 posts
7th Sep '12
Quoting Laneys*Mama:" :!: I used to get so frustrated with DD because she's smart, and she "knew" exactly what she was doing. ... [snip!] ... doing and now she laughs about it. OP you and your SO have some serious growing up to do. Stop mistreating that poor baby. "


Sometimes my kid won't sleep for the life of me, but I just suck it up and deal with it. It's not like i have a choice anyway hahaha. I often times want to ram my head in a wall. :evil:But he's only ten months, so I know he doesn't know any better.
If someone was doing what her boyfriend did to my kid, i wouldn't have stood around like a dumb ass just watching. Probably get a swift kick to the face.:wink:
I really hope that she takes everyone's advice and doesn't let it happen again. I feel awful for her baby, I really do.

user banned 1 child; Jamaica, OH, United States 7126 posts
7th Sep '12
Quoting j.a.c:" Sometimes my kid won't sleep for the life of me, but I just suck it up and deal with it. It's not like ... [snip!] ... I really hope that she takes everyone's advice and doesn't let it happen again. I feel awful for her baby, I really do."


Trust me, mine is 13 months and there are still times she refuses to sleep, and she's had a pretty set sleep schedule since she was 3 months old. On those nights, which suck, I put her in bed with me for a while and let her "play", and then after a little bit I put her back in her bed. Just to break up her routine without letting her get down and have the toys and the lights to stimulate her anymore. If worse comes to worst, I'll let her lay in her bed and whine, but as soon as she starts actually screaming/crying I go get her. That's just not okay. My daughter has never, ever been restrained for anything besides things they've done at the doctors, and occasionally diaper changes when she first learned she could roll over and crawl away.

. , Richmond, VA, United States 75060 posts
7th Sep '12
Quoting Lillie Montalvo:" My boyfriend did not hurt he or hold her the fuck down he just carried her and she did not know how ... [snip!] ... IS NOT HARMING HER IF HE WAS HE WILL BE DEAD OR IN JAIL SO SHE IS NO BEING HARMED & SHE IS SO KIND AND NOT DETACHED FROM US"

Don't ask for opinions in the future, you obviously can't handle them. You said she would fight it and cry and try to get out of it and he would hold her in. That means the same exact thing. No one said he was like punching her in the face or anything but she's obviously expressing physical discomfort, that means it's wrong. DERP.

JKBC♡ 2 kids; Somewhere, PA, United States 10297 posts
status 7th Sep '12

You both are abusing that poor baby . Restraining her for her to go to sleep is so wrong, I feel so sorry for your baby.:(