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Did U keep and unwanted 2nd pregnancy applelove 1 child; auburn, CA, United States 6529 posts
Sep 7th '12

I only wanted to have one baby.... maybe a second in a few years, not now, while I still have a young baby. Anyway now its looking like the second will be coming in less that a year. I don't want this pregnancy. I am scared I can't handle it, my body can't handle it, I won't be a good mom to my LO because I will feel so shitty for the next 9 months.



I wonder did you have an unexpected second pregnancy that you were scared or sad about? Did you keep it? How did it work out for you? Did you not keep it? How did you feel about that.



I would LOVE your honest story, thanks

vagina. 3 kids; Titz, No, Germany 30934 posts
Sep 7th '12

You might want to repost this in AS if you're considering abortion. That's a protected forum, while resources & links is not.

Rette Mich 1 child; Texas 27612 posts
Sep 7th '12
Quoting i don't make vaginas.:" You might want to repost this in AS if you're considering abortion. That's a protected forum, while resources & links is not."


Not to be rude here but she cant still have one can she? She has to be around 30 weeks?

Momma rooo 3 kids; Arizona 307 posts
Sep 7th '12

Are you due in Nov?

Chibs 2 kids; Missouri 12147 posts
Sep 7th '12

I have not been through this but my advice is to weigh out your 3 options
Keep
Abort
Adopt



Make a list of pros and cons for each option.think about what's best for you and your family

[♥]Mrs. Taylor 18 kids; Texas 12250 posts
Sep 7th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting i don't make vaginas.:</b>" You might want to repost this in AS if you're considering abortion. That's a protected forum, while resources & links is not."</blockquote>



Maybe she's not considering abortion? Looks like she's due in November, so its a little late for that..

Lovelylizz 2 kids; Florida 1008 posts
Sep 7th '12

Wtf you're due in November? By "keeping it" I'm assuming you mean adoption not abortion?

vagina. 3 kids; Titz, No, Germany 30934 posts
Sep 7th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rette Mich:</b>" Not to be rude here but she cant still have one can she? She has to be around 30 weeks?"</blockquote>




If thts her right due date, then yeah I don't think that's possible. I didn't even notice. I figured she just found out bc "I won't be a good mom to my LObecause I will feel so shitty for the next 9 months"



*shrugs idk*

Rette Mich 1 child; Texas 27612 posts
Sep 7th '12
Quoting i don't make vaginas.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Rette Mich:</b>" Not to be rude here but she cant still have ... [snip!] ... figured she just found out bc "I won't be a good mom to my LObecause I will feel so shitty for the next 9 months" *shrugs idk*"


Hmm good point. I guess it could be from her first pregnancy and she hasnt redone for her second?

DeanJade&Mak's Mom 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Los Angeles, CA, United States 8830 posts
Sep 7th '12

I had an un wanted 3rd pregnancy, I got preg with an iud in place, so I was really torn on my feelings about it for a while... my 2nd child had just turned 1 and I was looking forward to getting back to my career and putting her in school... it went all down hill when I found out I was preg. I didn't want another baby so soon and with me being at home I was going to be stuck with 2 babies and put off getting back to work another 2 years,



I made an appt. For the abortion pill, and around that time I started to feel for this baby, like it didn't ask to be "made" I was angry that the iud didn't do its damn job and I was going to either lose this baby, or have another baby...



The iud ended up moving and the baby was able to form ok, and I had my 3rd child few months later... its not the way I planned it, and deff not what I wanted to deal with at the time but he's here and he's gorgeous and I'm glad I chose to keep him, and despite the iud being in there he was able to make it...

vagina. 3 kids; Titz, No, Germany 30934 posts
Sep 7th '12

& she posted2 days ago asking if it was a bfp/evap.

hello.zombie Due August 28; 4 kids; Tennessee 501 posts
Sep 7th '12

You just posted a few days ago saying you don't use any type of BC and your DH doesn't even pull out. If that isn't asking for a 2nd pregnancy I don't know what else is. Maybe you should've invested in condoms/BC if you are having a unwanted 2nd pregnancy. :roll:



ETA: "We don't even pull out hahah So its not like I would be surprised, We don't have sex often so its been about a month. Because of us not doing it often we don't even pull out or anything"

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
Sep 7th '12

Okay, kind of.



We wanted to TTC... i thought it would take a year or so to actually get pregnant. It happened the first month. I was a wreck. I scheduled an abortion, SO and I were going to break up because he wanted to keep the baby... I canceled the appointment and we wenr to NYC to get away for a bit. Things were good, but then 2 weeks later I was in another slump and scheduled and abortion. He wanted to see his baby so bad so we went to the gyno for my appointment and we saw the baby, i was 14 weeks. I couldn't imagine killing this and didn't go to the abortion appointment. I'm 19 weeks now. I am happy, and excited, but it's nothing like it was with LO. & at that time, i was 18 living at home with no good money or drivers license or car..



I know we will be okay and I will be okay. In the third trimester, I'm going back on anti-depressants or anxiety meds, but right now it's not worth the risks. But i want something to try and counteract PPD.



Good luck.

applelove 1 child; auburn, CA, United States 6529 posts
Sep 7th '12
Quoting i don't make vaginas.:" You might want to repost this in AS if you're considering abortion. That's a protected forum, while resources & links is not."

shoot I did not mean to put it in resources and links... But I am not considering abortion

applelove 1 child; auburn, CA, United States 6529 posts
Sep 7th '12
Quoting i don't make vaginas.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Rette Mich:</b>" Not to be rude here but she cant still have ... [snip!] ... figured she just found out bc "I won't be a good mom to my LObecause I will feel so shitty for the next 9 months" *shrugs idk*"

Sorry, I have not been on BG much since my last LO was born last Nov, I just found out and have not fixed my new due date yet. Sorry! So I am only like 5 weeks. But abortion is not for me, I am having and keeping this baby. Just wondered others stories



I was worried if I just asked how did your unwanted pregnancy work out they people might just say I aborted, but I want to know how the LO fit in to the family and life things like that.



Sorry for any confusion after I posted mu LO woke up from a nap and were potty training so I had to go work on that