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Did U keep and unwanted 2nd pregnancy applelove 1 child; auburn, CA, United States 6529 posts
7th Sep '12

I only wanted to have one baby.... maybe a second in a few years, not now, while I still have a young baby. Anyway now its looking like the second will be coming in less that a year. I don't want this pregnancy. I am scared I can't handle it, my body can't handle it, I won't be a good mom to my LO because I will feel so shitty for the next 9 months.



I wonder did you have an unexpected second pregnancy that you were scared or sad about? Did you keep it? How did it work out for you? Did you not keep it? How did you feel about that.



I would LOVE your honest story, thanks

vagina. 3 kids; Titz, No, Germany 30924 posts
7th Sep '12

You might want to repost this in AS if you're considering abortion. That's a protected forum, while resources & links is not.

Rette Mich 1 child; Texas 27603 posts
7th Sep '12
Quoting i don't make vaginas.:" You might want to repost this in AS if you're considering abortion. That's a protected forum, while resources & links is not."


Not to be rude here but she cant still have one can she? She has to be around 30 weeks?

Momma rooo 3 kids; Arizona 307 posts
7th Sep '12

Are you due in Nov?

HungryHippo 2 kids; Missouri 12139 posts
7th Sep '12

I have not been through this but my advice is to weigh out your 3 options
Keep
Abort
Adopt



Make a list of pros and cons for each option.think about what's best for you and your family

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
7th Sep '12

Yes, it was unexpected and yes I kept him. He's 11 weeks old. I was really really effing scared because we were far from financially stable. I'm talking like, way below the poverty line. It worked out in the end because DH got a better job and now we're doing okay. The pregnancy and labor was great and I can't imagine living without my little guy. He's the best thing that ever happened to me. I know that sounds hokey lol but I didn't have that feeling with my first.

[♥]Mrs. Taylor 18 kids; Texas 12250 posts
7th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting i don't make vaginas.:</b>" You might want to repost this in AS if you're considering abortion. That's a protected forum, while resources & links is not."</blockquote>



Maybe she's not considering abortion? Looks like she's due in November, so its a little late for that..

Lovelylizz 2 kids; Florida 1008 posts
7th Sep '12

Wtf you're due in November? By "keeping it" I'm assuming you mean adoption not abortion?

vagina. 3 kids; Titz, No, Germany 30924 posts
7th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rette Mich:</b>" Not to be rude here but she cant still have one can she? She has to be around 30 weeks?"</blockquote>




If thts her right due date, then yeah I don't think that's possible. I didn't even notice. I figured she just found out bc "I won't be a good mom to my LObecause I will feel so shitty for the next 9 months"



*shrugs idk*

Rette Mich 1 child; Texas 27603 posts
7th Sep '12
Quoting i don't make vaginas.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Rette Mich:</b>" Not to be rude here but she cant still have ... [snip!] ... figured she just found out bc "I won't be a good mom to my LObecause I will feel so shitty for the next 9 months" *shrugs idk*"


Hmm good point. I guess it could be from her first pregnancy and she hasnt redone for her second?

DeanJade&Mak's Mom 3 kids; Covina, CA, United States 8822 posts
7th Sep '12

I had an un wanted 3rd pregnancy, I got preg with an iud in place, so I was really torn on my feelings about it for a while... my 2nd child had just turned 1 and I was looking forward to getting back to my career and putting her in school... it went all down hill when I found out I was preg. I didn't want another baby so soon and with me being at home I was going to be stuck with 2 babies and put off getting back to work another 2 years,



I made an appt. For the abortion pill, and around that time I started to feel for this baby, like it didn't ask to be "made" I was angry that the iud didn't do its damn job and I was going to either lose this baby, or have another baby...



The iud ended up moving and the baby was able to form ok, and I had my 3rd child few months later... its not the way I planned it, and deff not what I wanted to deal with at the time but he's here and he's gorgeous and I'm glad I chose to keep him, and despite the iud being in there he was able to make it...

[Boats&Hoes] 2 kids; Youngstown, Ohio 62966 posts
7th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lovelylizz:</b>" Wtf you're due in November? By "keeping it" I'm assuming you mean adoption not abortion?"</blockquote>



Or maybe she's just asking how it was once the baby.got here for the moms who did keep the baby.

vagina. 3 kids; Titz, No, Germany 30924 posts
7th Sep '12

& she posted2 days ago asking if it was a bfp/evap.

[Boats&Hoes] 2 kids; Youngstown, Ohio 62966 posts
7th Sep '12

OP, I kept this baby because I couldn't go through with an abortion. I know having another baby isn't exactly the best thing to happen to my daughter and I, and I often feel trapped but I kinda just roll with it.

hello.zombie Due December 7; 3 kids; Tennessee 501 posts
7th Sep '12

You just posted a few days ago saying you don't use any type of BC and your DH doesn't even pull out. If that isn't asking for a 2nd pregnancy I don't know what else is. Maybe you should've invested in condoms/BC if you are having a unwanted 2nd pregnancy. :roll:



ETA: "We don't even pull out hahah So its not like I would be surprised, We don't have sex often so its been about a month. Because of us not doing it often we don't even pull out or anything"