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Paternity test question drunk faith1 1 child; Alabama 10081 posts
11th Sep '12

So there's this crazy woman who thinks I slept with her son. His wife thinks so too, even though we have NEVER slept together. Can they get a court ordered paternity test done on my daughter, or would the 'father ' have to request it? I really don't want to have to go through all this bullshit just to prove my daughter isn't his kid, when he knows we never slept together.

I♥RYLEIGH 49 kids; Windsor, Ontario 10437 posts
11th Sep '12

That's fucked up lol

Lady Anon Due December 25 (girl); 1 child; Davenport, Iowa 4610 posts
11th Sep '12
Quoting shelbylynn [11 weeks]:" That's fucked up lol"


:!:

Angel [Mariah's Mommy] 1 child; Indianapolis, Indiana 18065 posts
11th Sep '12

Maury, ftw!

drunk faith1 1 child; Alabama 10081 posts
11th Sep '12
Quoting shelbylynn [11 weeks]:" That's fucked up lol"

Oh yeah, I know. These people are crazy. Seriously bonkers.

drunk faith1 1 child; Alabama 10081 posts
11th Sep '12
Quoting Angel [Mariah's Mommy]:" Maury, ftw!"

:? It's not like I don't know who BD is.

♥MomToSilas+1♥ Due December 9; 1 child; ., IL, United States 11489 posts
11th Sep '12

The "father" would have to take it to court.

[JadeLee] 1 child; Minnesota 12190 posts
11th Sep '12

Does your daughter have a father listed on the birth certificate?
If she does I don't think the state will pursue it, if she doesn't it is entirely possible.

I♥RYLEIGH 49 kids; Windsor, Ontario 10437 posts
11th Sep '12
Quoting Sami&Baby Silas:" The "father" would have to take it to court. "


Unless you get BD to take a paternity test so you don't have to go through the court BS.

drunk faith1 1 child; Alabama 10081 posts
11th Sep '12
Quoting [JadeLee]:" Does your daughter have a father listed on the birth certificate? If she does I don't think the state will pursue it, if she doesn't it is entirely possible."


No, she doesn't. Looks like I might be in for a headache. I know this guy won't agree to a paternity test, though, so I don't know if they would force both of us into it. They're very confused, it dated this man A YEAR before my daughter was even conceived.

LolaMcKitten Due May 30 (girl); 27 kids; Beverly Hills, California 15496 posts
11th Sep '12

Ahh....I don't think they can. Is there someone already listed as her father on the birth certificate? I think there would have to be one done privately first in order to get a court ordered one to change documentation.



When I had my son, my boyfriend signed the birth certificate, but in order to eventually have it changed to his bio fathers name, I had to do a private one and then file for child support, got a court date, presented the paternity test showing that my boyfriend was NOT the father, they gave a vacation of paternity, then they ordered one done on the bio dad.

drunk faith1 1 child; Alabama 10081 posts
11th Sep '12
Quoting LolaMcKitten:" Ahh....I don't think they can. Is there someone already listed as her father on the birth certificate? ... [snip!] ... showing that my boyfriend was NOT the father, they gave a vacation of paternity, then they ordered one done on the bio dad. "


Can I ask how long all of that took?



There's no father listen on the birth certificate, I don't want to get into it but he was abusive and dangerous, so isn't listed.

LolaMcKitten Due May 30 (girl); 27 kids; Beverly Hills, California 15496 posts
11th Sep '12
Quoting FaithLovesBaby:" Can I ask how long all of that took? There's no father listen on the birth certificate, I don't want to get into it but he was abusive and dangerous, so isn't listed."


Oh, I am in no place to judge, trust me - no worries.



After we had the private paternity test done, I had to go to court and have a vacation of paternity done, which took a couple months to get an actual court date. I then had to go to the Child Support place and file for child support under his bio dads name. It took a few weeks to get the paperwork all entered into the system, I guess, but I got a paper in the mail stating I had a court date to establish paternity in a couple of months after that. We went, I had to have my sons mouth swabbed, and it took two weeks for the results. When the reults came back, we had ANOTHER court date about a month later to settle what he would be paying for child support - which he doesn't ever pay.




Honestly - it will probably take a while, but it's mostly just a waiting game between court dates.

drunk faith1 1 child; Alabama 10081 posts
11th Sep '12
Quoting LolaMcKitten:" Oh, I am in no place to judge, trust me - no worries. After we had the private paternity test done, ... [snip!] ... he doesn't ever pay. Honestly - it will probably take a while, but it's mostly just a waiting game between court dates. "

Alright, thank you. This whole thing is just a big mess. He and his wife are getting divorced, and I think she's just reaching for anything she can use against him. I was hoping it would all take a while, if they can ever get a court order for a paternity test. It's going to be a big waste of time, for it to all end up right back where we were with no one listed as the father.

LolaMcKitten Due May 30 (girl); 27 kids; Beverly Hills, California 15496 posts
11th Sep '12
Quoting FaithLovesBaby:" Alright, thank you. This whole thing is just a big mess. He and his wife are getting divorced, and I ... [snip!] ... test. It's going to be a big waste of time, for it to all end up right back where we were with no one listed as the father."


Np! I hope everything gets easier - such a shitty thing to deal with. She might not even honestly believe he's the dad, I've seen divorce make people do some crazy shit - it's still not right, though, to drag you into it. At least your daughter is really young still and won't remember it.