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What the heck ... mommy**! Due June 5; 1 child; 1 angel baby; great falls, MT, United States 1824 posts
11th Sep '12

Vent session begins....



I'm going through a divorce now for a year and a half. For the past year my ex-MIL hasn't been all that respectful/honest with me and has been the go between for my ex husband and myself (I have a restraining order and he has supervised visitation) He's only seen our son a total for 10 days in the past year and a half (which w/e it's his choice to ruin his relationship with his son). I recently had a heart-to-heart with my ex MIL because I felt like it was the only way to make everything go a bit smoother in my sons life. I told her I want consistency and that if my ex wants to be involved great and if not then don't but I didn't want my son doing the yo-yo thing. The ex MIL totally understood and later that night she called and asked to take my son camping as my ex husband had booked the time off. I agreed. When my son got back home I asked how his weekend was and who he got to see. He said "Gamma, Gammpa, Aunty Sher, Uncle Bill and Gee Gee (his sister)" I said what about daddy and he said no daddy.. I'M LIVID! Why would she lie to me? I HATE being lied to. I asked his 4 year old sister if daddy was there and she said no as well (I'm friends with her mother who also isn't with my ex). I called my lawyer and he's going to deal with it but I'm honestly so f**king choked.

☆jeep_mama☆ 17 kids; Grand Rapids Charter Township, Michigan 10963 posts
11th Sep '12
Quoting Chellie and Tyce:" Vent session begins.... I'm going through a divorce now for a year and a half. For the past year my ... [snip!] ... her mother who also isn't with my ex). I called my lawyer and he's going to deal with it but I'm honestly so f**king choked."


Firstly, I understand your frustration at this point...it sounds, no offense, like he's pretty worthless. But, and I'm playing Devil's Advocate here only because there are always two sides (or more) to every story, is there a possibility that he got called into work or had some thing else that forced him to not be able to attend the camping? It's possible she wasn't lying to you but had something come up last minute and decided it was better to allow your son time with his extended family rather than make a scene right then about things.



Just throwing that out there...Maybe she's an evil crazy ex MIL like mine, I don't have that answer...lol

***Breezie*** 2 kids; Vancouver, Washington 299 posts
11th Sep '12

Not defending the lying but maybe she thought it was the only way you would have allowed him to go? IT sounds like a lot of BS and unfortunate for your son. I hope it gets better

Cecily's Mama 1 child; 3778 posts
11th Sep '12

Wow! I'm sorry he didn't get to spend time with him. Maybe he's better off without him in his life. IMO.

mommy**! Due June 5; 1 child; 1 angel baby; great falls, MT, United States 1824 posts
11th Sep '12
Quoting ***Breezie***:" Not defending the lying but maybe she thought it was the only way you would have allowed him to go? IT sounds like a lot of BS and unfortunate for your son. I hope it gets better"


I let her take my son twice a month...

Samantha + Koopah 1 child; Indiana 25967 posts
11th Sep '12

Like everybody else said...what if something came up and he wasn't able to be there like originally planned? Maybe she didn't lie.
I'd talk to her about it if it upsets you that much.



If something like this happened with my son, I'd be upset his father wasn't there to spend time with him, but I wouldn't jump right to "oh she lied, now I'm PISSED!"

user banned 2 kids; Iowa 7762 posts
11th Sep '12

Who's to say he didn't tell your ex-MIL that he was going to be there and then HE flaked out.

Talk to your ex-MIL before you start throwing around accusations.

mommy**! Due June 5; 1 child; 1 angel baby; great falls, MT, United States 1824 posts
11th Sep '12
Quoting ☆jeep_mama☆:" Firstly, I understand your frustration at this point...it sounds, no offense, like he's pretty worthless. ... [snip!] ... then about things. Just throwing that out there...Maybe she's an evil crazy ex MIL like mine, I don't have that answer...lol"


She should have let me known if that was the case.. I let her take my son twice a month and she doesn't have an order. My ex moved out of the province (about 12 hrs away) 6 months ago and I would understand if he couldn't have made it EXCEPT she specifically stated on Friday when she picked my son up that he was already there. I really don't get this and I'm just really upset now =(

mommy**! Due June 5; 1 child; 1 angel baby; great falls, MT, United States 1824 posts
11th Sep '12
Quoting Super Kame Vegeta:" Who's to say he didn't tell your ex-MIL that he was going to be there and then HE flaked out. Talk to your ex-MIL before you start throwing around accusations."


It's not accusations when she said he was already there. Plus I emailed her two days ago and asked if I could have a few pictures of the trip and she never responded.

user banned 2 kids; Iowa 7762 posts
11th Sep '12
Quoting Chellie and Tyce:" It's not accusations when she said he was already there. Plus I emailed her two days ago and asked if I could have a few pictures of the trip and she never responded. "


Why not call her?

You don't know the whole story. It would just suck for you to flip out on her and then find out later that she really thought he was going to be there.

☆jeep_mama☆ 17 kids; Grand Rapids Charter Township, Michigan 10963 posts
11th Sep '12
Quoting Chellie and Tyce:" She should have let me known if that was the case.. I let her take my son twice a month and she doesn't ... [snip!] ... stated on Friday when she picked my son up that he was already there. I really don't get this and I'm just really upset now =("


That stinks...Its super frustrating when you don't know everything that goes on when your kids are with their other parent, or in this case, their extended family...Have you spoken with her about it? Maybe try to find out why he didn't go, then lead into the "why did you tell me he was going to be there when he wasn't actually?" (but word it better than I have lol)