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MyPurrrtyBabies 3 kids; Alabama 8386 posts
11th Sep '12
Quoting Ry's Mom ♥:" Um well irst off this is in AS so some kind of respect would be nice instead of judging my situation. ... [snip!] ... I did what we thought was the best at the time. Seriously, sue me. I feel guilty enough... Thanks to the ones who were kind."


Nobody was judeging. It was JUST curiosity.

user banned 33 kids; Blytheville, Arkansas 7534 posts
11th Sep '12
Quoting Ry's Mom ♥:" Um well irst off this is in AS so some kind of respect would be nice instead of judging my situation. ... [snip!] ... I did what we thought was the best at the time. Seriously, sue me. I feel guilty enough... Thanks to the ones who were kind."


No one here said a single bad thing about you...at all. Like I said, I asked about your situation so I could properly answer your question. I don't get where you think anyone here is judging you?



Now on to your question. If it was due to health issues, then you really need to talk to your OB and consider waiting longer than the normal timeframe. Some people say it's 3 months for M/C or abortions, but I've always heard the safest time frame was 6mo. You definitely need time to heal physically and emotionally...January would be fine, but I would go through a few tests and maybe hold out a little longer to be sure that my body was ready, if I were in that position.

MyPurrrtyBabies 3 kids; Alabama 8386 posts
11th Sep '12
Quoting Chroma Hex [+1]:" No one here said a single bad thing about you...at all. Like I said, I asked about your situation so ... [snip!] ... would go through a few tests and maybe hold out a little longer to be sure that my body was ready, if I were in that position."


I agree with this.



And Good Luck OP, hope everything goes well for you, keep us updated! :)

Rydee's Momma♥ 17 kids; Ottawa, Ontario 2049 posts
11th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chroma Hex [+1]:</b>" No one here said a single bad thing about you...at all. Like I said, I asked about your situation so ... [snip!] ... would go through a few tests and maybe hold out a little longer to be sure that my body was ready, if I were in that position."</blockquote>



It just really made me feel like instead of helping me like I asked everyone was jumping on the "oh well why did you do it in the first place" kinda thing and mentioning my past situation. Because things can change quickly! We're aiming to ACTUALLY start TTC in feb - march. I've had dr appt and I've healed well, and my health problems are being dealt with accordingly and now that I know they wouldn't affect a pregnancy in any way like we had first believed. I do agree that I should wait atleast 3 months though because I really don't want to put physical stress on myself. I will go talk to my OB about this :)

user banned 33 kids; Blytheville, Arkansas 7534 posts
11th Sep '12
Quoting Ry's Mom ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Chroma Hex [+1]:</b>" No one here said a single bad thing about ... [snip!] ... atleast 3 months though because I really don't want to put physical stress on myself. I will go talk to my OB about this :)"


No one asked "why you did it in the first place". You're being paranoid and jumping to conclusions. The one person who brought up the situation was doing so to be supportive. Usually after any kind of loss, people are quick to try and reclaim what they had, so she was just trying to get to the root of the problem.



No one has said anything wrong or jumped on your case...I've seen nothing but advice here so far.



Also, 3mo is way too soon in my opinion. That's not enough time for your body to heal, let alone your heart.

Rydee's Momma♥ 17 kids; Ottawa, Ontario 2049 posts
12th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chroma Hex [+1]:</b>" No one asked "why you did it in the first place". You're being paranoid and jumping to conclusions. ... [snip!] ... here so far. Also, 3mo is way too soon in my opinion. That's not enough time for your body to heal, let alone your heart."</blockquote>




Lol thats basically what you said ; but in Different wording. Anyways I asked for help, not whatever this shit is. Thanks anyways I guess -.-

Lois. 1 child; Pennsylvania 2570 posts
12th Sep '12
Quoting Ry's Mom ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Chroma Hex [+1]:</b>" No one asked "why you did it in the first ... [snip!] ... what you said ; but in Different wording. Anyways I asked for help, not whatever this shit is. Thanks anyways I guess -.-"


Sorry people ruined this for you mama. Good luck TTC!
I truly hope you think about finishing school. It would be a great thing to do for your family.

Rydee's Momma♥ 17 kids; Ottawa, Ontario 2049 posts
13th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting S&T+1:</b>" Sorry people ruined this for you mama. Good luck TTC! I truly hope you think about finishing school. It would be a great thing to do for your family."</blockquote>



Thank you! And yes we've decided to fully wait until I'm done school. I have 15 weeks left (it's all online) so it shouldn't be long :)