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Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55983 posts
12th Sep '12
Quoting cherrywaves88:" I think thats one of the things that upsets me the most. That all his worries are about not being able to go to football games with his cousins and having to bust his ass with two jobs."


He needs to grow the hell up. He has a family now. That is #1. He could entertain the idea of a FULL time job. Wouldn't that be a great idea?

Kristin Greenroyd Due April 11; 1 child; 1 angel baby; California 98 posts
12th Sep '12
:!::!::!::!I agree :Quoting ~Elliott's.Mommy~:" !! I agree!"
Yoncé 1 child; 3 angel babies; Barcelona, Spain 3706 posts
12th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting cherrywaves88:</b>" I think thats one of the things that upsets me the most. That all his worries are about not being able to go to football games with his cousins and having to bust his ass with two jobs."</blockquote>




Gosh! He sounds like a winner. :roll:



You aren't to blame. As already stated, it takes two to make a baby.
A part time job isn't enough. Sorry Charlie.



I really hope he steps up to the plate and stops being selfish. YOUR body, YOUR choice. Don't let him force you into a decision you're unsure of.

cherrywaves88 California 152 posts
12th Sep '12
Quoting Not tellin:" Just going to throw this out there, Abortion is a very rough decision. While it is not for everyone, ... [snip!] ... neglect him/her". Pretty rough statement. I do agree, how the hell is this "HER" fault? She obviously isn't the virgin Mary!"


I've always said that myself and I still don't think I can go through with it. Then I also feel bad because I wanted my baby to have full attention for a while before bringing in a sibling. I'm still new at the mommy thing and its hard sometimes. He doesnt help with this one so I'm guessing its not going to get better. But honestly I'm in a way so excited to have another son or daughter. To see another first laugh and first crawl (Sebastian is already crawling lol).

daxsmommy2011 Due December 19; 2 kids; North Highlands, California 79 posts
12th Sep '12

imin the same situation as youi was on the pill and got pregnant when my son was 6 month im due in november my kids father actually left me cause i wouldnt have a abortion but honestly i know how hard its going to be but id rather lose him then lose my child

Love my 3 kids Due July 27; Ohio 812 posts
12th Sep '12
Quoting daxsmommy2011:" imin the same situation as youi was on the pill and got pregnant when my son was 6 month im due in november ... [snip!] ... left me cause i wouldnt have a abortion but honestly i know how hard its going to be but id rather lose him then lose my child"


I applaud you for this!!! I agree wholeheartedly. If I had to choose it would be my baby every time. I never said it wouldn't be hard but it WILL be worth it!!!!! God Bless you for choosing your child!

cherrywaves88 California 152 posts
12th Sep '12
Quoting daxsmommy2011:" imin the same situation as youi was on the pill and got pregnant when my son was 6 month im due in november ... [snip!] ... left me cause i wouldnt have a abortion but honestly i know how hard its going to be but id rather lose him then lose my child"


I'm sorry. I feel that will happen with us. I love him and I don't want him to leave me but I love my son more than anything in this world and honestly I love this baby already as well. I really don't know how I'm going to be able to manage all this. I just wish I had his support.

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
12th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting cherrywaves88:</b>" I receive WIC already. And we're living at his parents. And he only works a part time job while I stay ... [snip!] ... of keeping my baby but then I look at the life were living and I just dont know if its fair to bring another baby into it.."</blockquote>




My SO worked full time and then he watched the kids when he wasn't working sink can I work part time. We have 2 incomes coming in... It's not hard. Just get a job. I work at Starbucks.

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55983 posts
12th Sep '12
Quoting cherrywaves88:" I'm sorry. I feel that will happen with us. I love him and I don't want him to leave me but I love ... [snip!] ... love this baby already as well. I really don't know how I'm going to be able to manage all this. I just wish I had his support."


He either will come around or he won't. He is just as much apart of this decision and condition as you are. If he doesn't want to step up and be a big boy, you have some relationship evaluations to make. There should be NO reason you are living with his parents. He needs to be a man and take care of his family . second child on the way or not. He is acting like a child and needs to grow up.

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55983 posts
12th Sep '12

opps!

cherrywaves88 California 152 posts
12th Sep '12
Quoting Not tellin:" He either will come around or he won't. He is just as much apart of this decision and condition as ... [snip!] ... needs to be a man and take care of his family . second child on the way or not. He is acting like a child and needs to grow up."

Did I mention hes 33? Yeah I figured by now he would put more effort into us but IDK. Anyways tomorrow I will find out how far along I am. As of now I'm set on getting a job in the morning so he can watch our son and just go on with this pregnancy. I'm sure I can live without him if it comes down to it. I just dont know if I can live with an abortion on my conscience. Thank you all for your input and support. I really do appreciate it...

Alissa & Ayden Due December 11 (boy); Waianae, Hawaii 28 posts
12th Sep '12

choose adoption instead of abortion. but i might get rough if u get attached to this baby u might not want to go threw with it. i hope u guys can work things out. best wishes.

Kearston Preece Due January 9; 1 child; Columbus, Georgia 162 posts
12th Sep '12
Quoting ☮ Phuket:" Its up to you. I couldn't abort either. I'd make it work some how. But it's your decision. Get help like WIC???"


and food stamps

Love my 3 kids Due July 27; Ohio 812 posts
12th Sep '12
Quoting cherrywaves88:" Did I mention hes 33? Yeah I figured by now he would put more effort into us but IDK. Anyways tomorrow ... [snip!] ... know if I can live with an abortion on my conscience. Thank you all for your input and support. I really do appreciate it..."


You CAN do this momma!!! There is always a way!!! Getting a job is a good start. If you can't find one maybe you can start babysitting other kids in your home. This would bring in extra money and you can still be at home with your baby. I would also start looking for somewhere else to live so that if you do have to go on without SO you are prepared and able to leave.



GOOD LUCK and Best Wishes. God Bless!!!

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55983 posts
12th Sep '12
Quoting Alissa & Ayden:" choose adoption instead of abortion. but i might get rough if u get attached to this baby u might not want to go threw with it. i hope u guys can work things out. best wishes."


:roll:



I really wish OP would have put this in AS so it could have been protected from idiotic statements.