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OMG please help me! .Solange. 1 child; Montreal, 5566 posts
14th Sep '12

It's always one f**king thing after the other. I'm so devastated. Please I need advice, facts, anything! The last time I heard from my babydaddy was when he tried to kill me in early August. Since he failed, the last thing he said was that he would do anything and everything to take my son from me. He knows its the only way of destroying me. In August, he was brought to the police office when I called 911 after he tried to kill me. All charges were dropped since the weapon in question used was in my car. They believed his statement that I was unstable and had tried to kill myself and he was there to save me. He has money, lawyers and CPS lady on his side. The CPS lady told me she sat down with him today and he seems like a great guy. Yeah, I thought so too when I married him, until he started beating the shit out of me.



So she's going with that and he's claiming that i'm mentally unstable because of my BPD diagnosis. I'm NOT. I've been stable for months. Ever since my doctor found the right combination.



He claims the gash on my neck from when he tried killing me was a failed suicide attempt on my part. He claimed the cuts and scratches on my arms were done by me because I have a history of self-mutilation. Keep in mind that I have NOT cut in years. The CPS lady threw in my face that I must be unstable because of all my therapy appointments I missed in the past month. Yeah, that tends to happen when your child is in the hospital fighting for his life.



The CPS lady said she was going to check the police report to see if it is reported that he threatened me when they were there. He did but I have NO idea if it's in the report or not. If they forgot to write it, then I look like a lying idiot.



He's asking to have full custody. They want to grant him that. I know if they do, I will never see my baby again. I called my lawyer but she will only get back to me monday...
PLEASE please help me!



My family made it clear they want nothing to do with this. I have no friends IRL. I'm standing alone and i'm terrified. I'm so scared. I feel powerless and intimidated. He befriended two police officers once when they were called by my neighbor who heard me screaming. He got NOTHING. I'm alone and he has ppl behind him. He's a well-known athlete in Canada and is all over youtube. He projects this 'sweet, caring man' character but he's a monster. I'm scared that no one believes me. I'm a single mother trying to give my son the best life. He will do anything to take away the last thing I have left in this world.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36449 posts
14th Sep '12

WHAT?!?! what the f**k man... :(

Tattooed Mommy of One 1 child; Georgia 739 posts
14th Sep '12

OMG! I am shocked at what I just read... You mean you didn't press charges EVERY time he hit you?? You didn't get a copy of the police report from him trying to kill you??? Please tell me you have these things. That baby does obviously not need to be with his dad!!!

Unesti mom Due October 27; Bainbridge, Georgia 1 posts
14th Sep '12

That's dead a** wrong.. I think you should Jus wait to talk to your lawyer.. And try your best to fight it.. I wouldn't kno what to do if it was up to me.. I'll probably ditched town. Jus my opinion though

Pey and Trista's mommy 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Houston, Texas 42502 posts
14th Sep '12

Can your lawyer maybe find some exes that were beat by him too?

BαtMαɳ Secret Bat Cave, CA, United States 53489 posts
14th Sep '12

I doubt anything will happen over the weekend so try not to worry so much (who am I kidding I would be a wreck, but try). Call your lawyer as soon as they get back in.



This is so wrong, my heart breaks for you so much. Sending tons and tons of prayers your way.

.Solange. 1 child; Montreal, 5566 posts
14th Sep '12
Quoting Tattooed Mommy to Be:" OMG! I am shocked at what I just read... You mean you didn't press charges EVERY time he hit you?? You ... [snip!] ... from him trying to kill you??? Please tell me you have these things. That baby does obviously not need to be with his dad!!!"


Unfortunately, no. The time he befriended those police officers and told me no one would ever believe me if I called police again was enough to traumatize me and terrify me. Add on years of mental, sexual, physical abuse. I should of pressed charges everytime, but I didn't. I don't know how else to explain it.

Melanies mama 1 child; Chicago, Illinois 1530 posts
14th Sep '12

:( I'm so sorry that you're going through this.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36449 posts
14th Sep '12
Quoting .Solange.:" Unfortunately, no. The time he befriended those police officers and told me no one would ever believe ... [snip!] ... of mental, sexual, physical abuse. I should of pressed charges everytime, but I didn't. I don't know how else to explain it."


Did he even visit his son when he was in the hospital?

.Solange. 1 child; Montreal, 5566 posts
14th Sep '12
Quoting Mel & a girl named Pey:" Can your lawyer maybe find some exes that were beat by him too?"


That would be impossible. He came to Canada in late 2007, which is when we got together months later. I don't know his exes. He has an ex girlfriend in Africa, where he fathered twins but she abandoned them at birth so who knows where she is

.Solange. 1 child; Montreal, 5566 posts
14th Sep '12
Quoting Yurvon [♥]:" Did he even visit his son when he was in the hospital? "


He was told that his son was in the hospital but nothing came out of that.

.Solange. 1 child; Montreal, 5566 posts
14th Sep '12

bump...



Please, can anyone send me links, anything? What about rights? I'm so scared. I don't know anything about what I can do to protect my son against him legally

.Solange. 1 child; Montreal, 5566 posts
14th Sep '12
AQuoting Tattooed Mommy to Be:" OMG! I am shocked at what I just read... You mean you didn't press charges EVERY time he hit you?? You ... [snip!] ... from him trying to kill you??? Please tell me you have these things. That baby does obviously not need to be with his dad!!!"


Also, the domestic abuse against me means nothing I was told by the CPS lady. She said that doesn't prove that he's an unfit father since the attacks were at me and not our son. Which is true under a legal eye, but that is the only material proof that I have against him. (Pictures)...

.Solange. 1 child; Montreal, 5566 posts
14th Sep '12

WTF did I do to deserve all this. I'm just trying to protect my son. I'm not bitter nor trying to do this as revenge. I feel like a lion in a cage trying to protect my cub but someone keeps trying to take him away. I'm so angry and scared. I literally feel like a lion ready to pounce on anything that threatens my son or his safety and well-being. I'm going crazy

meggg+J,B&L♥ 3 kids; Nasinu, Fiji 16900 posts
14th Sep '12

Oh solange :( I don't even know what to say :( I'm so sorry he's doing this. Honestly what I did when Jacobs dad was abusing me and threatening me is I ran to another province :( but I don't suggest it now because CPS is involved :( if you need someone to text let me know <3