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Anxious. Lorelei's Mommy ♥ 1 child; Scotts Valley, CA, United States 1463 posts
15th Sep '12

As of June 13th my BD was awarded 18 hrs a WEEK with my daughter.
Since then hes done visitation on:
June 17th: 3 hrs
June 20th: 3 hrs
Aug 2nd: 2.5 hrs
Aug 24th: 2 hrs



So clearly he skipped a whole month in July and its been weeks since there last visit, which I supervised and my daughter was terrified of him.
He asked to take her to the fair on Sunday. I'm really nervous about it... Being a big crowd, she's with people she doesnt really know (her dad and his dad).. I cant really say no, since he legally gets her for 18 hrs a week and there isnt a restriction on where or when.
I told him she had to be in a stroller at all times (that hes suppose to provide)..



SIGH.. I think its just bull shit. His dad wants to take her but legally cant have her alone so he has his son 'take her'.. when he doesnt even care to see her..

ItsEasyIfYouTry 1 child; Florida 830 posts
15th Sep '12
Quoting Lorelei's Mommy ♥:" As of June 13th my BD was awarded 18 hrs a WEEK with my daughter. Since then hes done visitation on: ... [snip!] ... His dad wants to take her but legally cant have her alone so he has his son 'take her'.. when he doesnt even care to see her.."


Wow, that is stressful I think I'd be a mess over it. BUT! I do want to add something positive, like it probably will all go fine! I think that because it is set in stone for now that he was granted these visitation hours you should probably work on accepting it and start putting positive thoughts towards it. (I know easier said than done) But that is probably what I would do, then your daughter may feel more comfortable going with them if she can feel that her mama is at ease over it. What are you going to do while she's with them? Do you have something to keep your mind busy so you don't worry the whole time? Good luck, this will be hard but you can do it.

Lorelei's Mommy ♥ 1 child; Scotts Valley, CA, United States 1463 posts
15th Sep '12
Quoting ItsEasyIfYouTry:" Wow, that is stressful I think I'd be a mess over it. BUT! I do want to add something positive, like ... [snip!] ... Do you have something to keep your mind busy so you don't worry the whole time? Good luck, this will be hard but you can do it."

Thanks for that.. I try and stay positive. Every time i tell my daughter shes going with him, she says she doesnt want to BUT i always encourage her and tell her shes gonna have fun!
I guess I'm just more mad, that HE chooses not to use the time he was given and then I have to force my daughter to be with him. When she doesnt even want to.. If he was consistent then I would really care.. I really do want her to be in his life, but its not fair for her.
Thanks for the response though!