Samilee 3 kids; Greeneville, Tennessee 4900 posts
15th Sep '12

You are only 4 years older than my oldest daughter. This is such a sad and scary thought...for you to be so young and pregnant. Government assistance would be hard to get at your age I would imagine. You would need insurance for pre-natal care, and possibly WIC for nutrition needs. I would seriously do adoption if it was me. You are still a child, and you should go out and be one without a baby. Even if you did manage to make it with a baby, how do you know you wouldn't end up resenting the child later?

Almyk 1 child; Michigan 455 posts
15th Sep '12
Quoting teenmomwannabe1:" I prefer abortion over adoption but I really don't want either. I just was wondering about what I could do if they don't support me?"

You can opt for an open adoption. That way you can still be in the baby's life and depending on the people who adopt it, they may include you in the raising of the child.
Sit down and talk with your parents about all of your options, your feelings, and their feelings on it all.
I don't think it's legal for you to get a job at 13 in most places.. you may need a worker's permit to even be qualified for a position somewhere. Ask your school counselors.

khigh 1 child; Fort Sill, Oklahoma 8101 posts
15th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvon [♥]:</b>" for 2 - 3 years they would give her enough money to keep the baby until she can work? "</blockquote>




Yes and they provide housing and medical care do women won't abort.

......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
15th Sep '12
Quoting teenmomwannabe1:" I'm 13 and pregnant. My parents are economically doing well. I have no work experience. But I know I ... [snip!] ... Why can't I have my baby? What can I do to make parenting a possiility how can I convince them nothing seems to work. Help??"


It sucks to feel this way. I've been through it. While it's hard to think about, your parents are right.
You're way too young to take care of a child financially and most likely emotionally. Babies are a lot of work and you have your whole life ahead of you and plenty of time to have babies--when the time is right.

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
15th Sep '12
Quoting khigh:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvon [♥]:</b>" for 2 - 3 years they would give her ... [snip!] ... keep the baby until she can work? "</blockquote> Yes and they provide housing and medical care do women won't abort."


Women. What about children? I imagine she'd have to have a parent sign for ANYTHING they wanted to provide her.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36624 posts
15th Sep '12
Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:" Women. What about children? I imagine she'd have to have a parent sign for ANYTHING they wanted to provide her. "


Yes I agree. She is a CHILD. Not a woman. IMO I would want her to abort. She said that she would rather abort than to give the baby adoption.

thewarmth 3 kids; South Carolina 14438 posts
15th Sep '12
Quoting khigh:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvon [♥]:</b>" for 2 - 3 years they would give her ... [snip!] ... keep the baby until she can work? "</blockquote> Yes and they provide housing and medical care do women won't abort."


They don't provide housing to 13 year olds, are you kidding me? Lol.

Noneya Business Due August 29; 1 child; Pennsylvania 12217 posts
15th Sep '12
Quoting khigh:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvon [♥]:</b>" for 2 - 3 years they would give her ... [snip!] ... keep the baby until she can work? "</blockquote> Yes and they provide housing and medical care do women won't abort."


They never did anything for me except give me some maternity clothes and told me I needed to apply for state help, which I didn't qualify for except insurance. After LO was born they didn't help at all. I was able to get some donated baby things from a center nearby but they're not involved in with Catholic Charities. The funny part is I am, or actually was, Catholic at the time. It pissed me off to no end that they barely care about what happened to me and LO after he was born.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 18186 posts
15th Sep '12

I wouldnt even adopt. Do you know what that baby will do to your body? How many complications you will have carrying him? You are still growing yourself and you won't be able to get the right nutrients to help you grow, as well as your baby. Your pelvis is too small, and will most likely result in a c-section. Your child has a much greater chance of dying in the first year and many more complications can happen. It would be much safer for you to just nip it in the bud before it is too late.

......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
15th Sep '12
Quoting khigh:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvon [♥]:</b>" for 2 - 3 years they would give her ... [snip!] ... keep the baby until she can work? "</blockquote> Yes and they provide housing and medical care do women won't abort."


You're right. They have a place that houses girls right down the street from me. St. Elizabeths.
OP--where do you live, maybe we can find a place like this?

Elizabeth 0315 Due February 24; 35 kids; Prince Edward Island 1630 posts
15th Sep '12

Wow sweetheart to be through so much and want to keep the baby is really a beautiful thing. My daughter is your age and if it were her I would allow her to do what was best for her and help any way I could. That said it's a lot to take on yourself... if it's something you really want to do , no one can really stop you from keeping the baby. I'd talk to a teacher and a social worker.



Maybe you could stay with another family member that would be more supportive, you'd need parenting classes, prenatal care and all the help you can get.
Having a baby can be overwhelming at any age but the younger you are the harder it is to provide the basic care... pampers, formula , clothes , medicine just to name a few without a really good support system. My heart goes out for you sweetheart, think everything out and talk to the right people before you make any decisions . drop a message if you want to talk ok :)

The Pretty Poodle™ 1 child; Illinois 7341 posts
15th Sep '12
Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:" I wouldnt even adopt. Do you know what that baby will do to your body? How many complications you will ... [snip!] ... year and many more complications can happen. It would be much safer for you to just nip it in the bud before it is too late. "

OMG it just makes me sick to my stomach thinking of how scared she will be that all of these things are happening to her body before she has even fully experienced puberty.

khigh 1 child; Fort Sill, Oklahoma 8101 posts
15th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:</b>" Women. What about children? I imagine she'd have to have a parent sign for ANYTHING they wanted to provide her. "</blockquote>




They help everyone and could help her with a lawyer to get an emancipation.



Honestly, OP, if you feel as though you are forced into an abortion, you might hate your family and yourself for a very long time. It might be bestfinancially, but is it best emotionally?

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
15th Sep '12
Quoting Yurvon [♥]:" Yes I agree. She is a CHILD. Not a woman. IMO I would want her to abort. She said that she would rather abort than to give the baby adoption. "


Yeah.



She's a kid, and she needs to listen to her parents. I'm sure her parents know what's best for her better than she-or any of us, for that matter, do.

Ravey Candyass 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Boston, Massachusetts 104965 posts
status 15th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Elizabeth 0315:</b>" Wow sweetheart to be through so much and want to keep the baby is really a beautiful thing. My daughter ... [snip!] ... think everything out and talk to the right people before you make any decisions . drop a message if you want to talk ok :)"</blockquote>




You can not honestly think a 13 year old is ready for a child.