thewarmth 3 kids; South Carolina 14438 posts
15th Sep '12
Quoting ~Ice Princess~:" You're right. They have a place that houses girls right down the street from me. St. Elizabeths. OP--where do you live, maybe we can find a place like this?"


Yeah, that sounds like an awesome place for a girl in middle school!
Lets just make her life hard from the start. No job, no car, no license (no ability to even get any yet by law) and throw a baby in the mix, not even in high school.
If she is going to give birth to the child, at least give the kid a chance at a good life.

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
15th Sep '12
Quoting khigh:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:</b>" Women. What about children? I imagine ... [snip!] ... you might hate your family and yourself for a very long time. It might be bestfinancially, but is it best emotionally?"


I absolutely doubt a 13 year old being emancipated is very realistic. Especially if her parents aren't unfit.

khigh 1 child; Fort Sill, Oklahoma 8101 posts
15th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Noneya Business:</b>" They never did anything for me except give me some maternity clothes and told me I needed to apply ... [snip!] ... was, Catholic at the time. It pissed me off to no end that they barely care about what happened to me and LO after he was born."</blockquote>




You are the first person I have heard say that. They help so many people here.

thewarmth 3 kids; South Carolina 14438 posts
15th Sep '12
Quoting khigh:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:</b>" Women. What about children? I imagine ... [snip!] ... you might hate your family and yourself for a very long time. It might be bestfinancially, but is it best emotionally?"


Pretty sure you can't get emancipated unless there is a real reason, like your parents are shitty and aren't caring for you and you are caring for yourself already.

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
15th Sep '12
Quoting thewarmth:" Pretty sure you can't get emancipated unless there is a real reason, like your parents are shitty and aren't caring for you and you are caring for yourself already."

Right. Or maybe you're AT LEAST old enough to have a job.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 17688 posts
15th Sep '12
Quoting Conway Kiddy
user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
15th Sep '12

OP - you got to talk to someone. Find out your options, find out what it takes to be a mom. Adoption would be an amazing thing for you to do. Best of luck.

thewarmth 3 kids; South Carolina 14438 posts
15th Sep '12
Quoting khigh:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:</b>" Women. What about children? I imagine ... [snip!] ... you might hate your family and yourself for a very long time. It might be bestfinancially, but is it best emotionally?"


What is best emotionally?
I would ask her the same thing with a baby at 13, just saying. That's pretty damn emotionally damaging.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36540 posts
15th Sep '12
Quoting thewarmth:" Yeah, that sounds like an awesome place for a girl in middle school! Lets just make her life hard from ... [snip!] ... the mix, not even in high school. If she is going to give birth to the child, at least give the kid a chance at a good life."


Lets make shit harder on her at 13... She isnt ready for a child.

Noneya Business Due August 29; 1 child; Pennsylvania 12015 posts
15th Sep '12
Quoting khigh:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Noneya Business:</b>" They never did anything for me except ... [snip!] ... and LO after he was born."</blockquote> You are the first person I have heard say that. They help so many people here."


I know a few people who they didn't do anything for. Maybe it's my area. Most women around here just don't even bother anymore.

......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
15th Sep '12
Quoting thewarmth:" Yeah, that sounds like an awesome place for a girl in middle school! Lets just make her life hard from ... [snip!] ... the mix, not even in high school. If she is going to give birth to the child, at least give the kid a chance at a good life."



I agree...but if she's not going to listen to sound advice, she should at least know her options.
Even if her parents won't support her to go through adoption, places like that can help until she delivers and provide adoption support.

khigh 1 child; Fort Sill, Oklahoma 8101 posts
15th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting thewarmth:</b>" Pretty sure you can't get emancipated unless there is a real reason, like your parents are shitty and aren't caring for you and you are caring for yourself already."</blockquote>




Here in Oklahoma, the parents could be charged with fetal homicide if they forced an abortion... so, I'm sure the judge here would grant emancipation based on that.

Almyk 1 child; Michigan 455 posts
15th Sep '12
Quoting thewarmth:" Yeah, that sounds like an awesome place for a girl in middle school! Lets just make her life hard from ... [snip!] ... the mix, not even in high school. If she is going to give birth to the child, at least give the kid a chance at a good life."

You don't know if she's in HS or not. Not that it matters, it's her body, her emotions, and her family life.
She should at least know all of her options before making a choice, or being forced into a choice.
However, I'm wondering if it was an accident or not.. considering her SN.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36540 posts
15th Sep '12
Quoting thewarmth:" What is best emotionally? I would ask her the same thing with a baby at 13, just saying. That's pretty damn emotionally damaging."


At 13.. it would be best emotionally to abort. Not to keep or adoption. I was 24 when I did adoption and it is hard. And I had the mind set for adoption.. I highly doubt at 13 she has that mind set.

The Pretty Poodle™ 1 child; Illinois 7341 posts
15th Sep '12
Quoting khigh:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:</b>" Women. What about children? I imagine ... [snip!] ... you might hate your family and yourself for a very long time. It might be bestfinancially, but is it best emotionally?"

Uhm...you have to make a certain amount of money to be emancipated.