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Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
16th Sep '12
Quoting Gretle311:" He's only with her most of the time because I work a lot. And really, I don't go out that much. My son ... [snip!] ... weeks thing. And I'm taking him away from her because of the fact that he's gotten attatched to her. I'm his mother, she's not"

Thats just mean and selfish. Of course he is going to be attached to whoever is his primary caretaker. Think of how heartbreaking and devastating that will be to him.

. , Richmond, VA, United States 75033 posts
16th Sep '12
Quoting Gretle311:" He's only with her most of the time because I work a lot. And really, I don't go out that much. My son ... [snip!] ... weeks thing. And I'm taking him away from her because of the fact that he's gotten attatched to her. I'm his mother, she's not"

That doesn't make sense. He's a baby, he's going to get attached to anyone who takes care of him during the day.

Landon's Mommy *+2* Due October 20; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Cincinnati, Ohio 14943 posts
16th Sep '12

How long have you been with your boyfriend?
I understand she lets you "be a teen" but you are also a mother. It sounds as though your son is very attached to this woman, almost as if she were his mother. So by you taking him away from her & moving 2 hrs away with a new boyfriend & being someone who isn't around your son much (I'm assuming by the way you wrote it) would be very devastating for him.
Just throwing out some advice from a former 18 year old mother myself...... spend more time with your son. Don't worry about anything else. Don't move in with your boyfriend. At least not anytime soon.

user banned Due September 18 (boy); 1 child; California 21617 posts
16th Sep '12
Quoting Gretle311:" He's only with her most of the time because I work a lot. And really, I don't go out that much. My son ... [snip!] ... weeks thing. And I'm taking him away from her because of the fact that he's gotten attatched to her. I'm his mother, she's not"


You are being extremely selfish.

Lin Brown 2 kids; Tunnel Hill, Georgia 1804 posts
16th Sep '12

Why does he have to forget about her? It doesn't sound like you take care of your child anyways. I would say you need to do some growing up, take care of your son and then worry about moving out with some guy later after you have your priorities straight.

Gretle311 1 child; North Carolina 194 posts
16th Sep '12
Quoting Rd.:" That's your fault, so why are you punishing the innocent?"


It's my fault that I work a lot? To support my son? I do all the buying for him because that's what I'm supposed to do. All she does is take care of him. When I'm home I'm with him but it doesn't seem to make a difference

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18298 posts
16th Sep '12

I think before that happens, you need to start taking care of your kid.
How can you be sure you can even handle it on your own yet when you've very rarely done it?



You need to learn how to be a mom before you move in with this dude.
How long have you two been together?

user banned 1 child; Germany 12377 posts
16th Sep '12
Quoting Gretle311:" It's my fault that I work a lot? To support my son? I do all the buying for him because that's what ... [snip!] ... what I'm supposed to do. All she does is take care of him. When I'm home I'm with him but it doesn't seem to make a difference"

Welcome to life. And yes, it's your "fault" because it's your responsibility. What's going to happen when you move? You suddenly don't need to work?

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
16th Sep '12
Quoting Gretle311:" It's my fault that I work a lot? To support my son? I do all the buying for him because that's what ... [snip!] ... what I'm supposed to do. All she does is take care of him. When I'm home I'm with him but it doesn't seem to make a difference"

So whos going to watch him when you move? And you still havent answered any questions about this "boyfriend". What about your job?

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18298 posts
16th Sep '12
Quoting Gretle311:" He's only with her most of the time because I work a lot. And really, I don't go out that much. My son ... [snip!] ... weeks thing. And I'm taking him away from her because of the fact that he's gotten attatched to her. I'm his mother, she's not"


Seriously? How fucking mean of you.



He's going to get attached to whoever you leave him with all day in your new town too. Infants do that.

user banned 1 child; Germany 12377 posts
16th Sep '12

You need to find a better balance in your life. DD has been in daycare for almost 3 years straight, and she loves daycare but she doesn't cry for her childcare providers when she's home. How much do you do for your child when you are home? I won't believe you if you say everything.

Taryn - Anya's mommy 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Toronto, Ontario 49462 posts
16th Sep '12
Quoting Gretle311:" It's my fault that I work a lot? To support my son? I do all the buying for him because that's what ... [snip!] ... what I'm supposed to do. All she does is take care of him. When I'm home I'm with him but it doesn't seem to make a difference"

You said in your OP that you go out and be a teen. Now it turns into you working most of the time, and you also said that your foster mom left the baby with you, how is it leaving the baby with you if you are taking care of him most of the time.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
16th Sep '12
Quoting Rd.:" You need to find a better balance in your life. DD has been in daycare for almost 3 years straight, and ... [snip!] ... providers when she's home. How much do you do for your child when you are home? I won't believe you if you say everything."

:!::!::!:

Gretle311 1 child; North Carolina 194 posts
16th Sep '12
Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:" I think before that happens, you need to start taking care of your kid. How can you be sure you can even ... [snip!] ... very rarely done it? You need to learn how to be a mom before you move in with this dude. How long have you two been together?"


Well lets see, I did it by myself for the first 5 months of his life because he has a dead beat father

user banned 1 child; Germany 12377 posts
16th Sep '12
Quoting Tara - Anya's mommy:" You said in your OP that you go out and be a teen. Now it turns into you working most of the time, and ... [snip!] ... your foster mom left the baby with you, how is it leaving the baby with you if you are taking care of him most of the time."

Lol, point.