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Landon's Mommy *+2* Due October 20; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Cincinnati, Ohio 14943 posts
16th Sep '12
Quoting Rd.:" You need to find a better balance in your life. DD has been in daycare for almost 3 years straight, and ... [snip!] ... providers when she's home. How much do you do for your child when you are home? I won't believe you if you say everything."


:!::!::!: This.



I work at a daycare as a Pre-K teacher & I can tell by my own students, as well as other children, whose parents are involved in their lives & who cries the majority of the time when they have to leave us to go home to their parents.



Children will get attached to whomever is caring for them at the time, that is just human nature. However, to cry when the mother gets them over the care provider, must mean that the mother isn't really being a "mother". And I am sorry if that sounds harsh.

user banned 1 child; Germany 12377 posts
16th Sep '12
Quoting Gretle311:" Well lets see, I did it by myself for the first 5 months of his life because he has a dead beat father"

5 months? Oh wow, sooo long. I did it on my own for nearly DDs whole life and lots of people have longer. You won't be getting any sympathy on that front.

Gretle311 1 child; North Carolina 194 posts
16th Sep '12
Quoting Jennybananna:" So whos going to watch him when you move? And you still havent answered any questions about this "boyfriend". What about your job? "


I'm going to watch him when I move. My bf makes 17 an hour and he told me he didn't want me to work. He just wants me to focus on being with my son

. , ., VA, United States 74438 posts
16th Sep '12
Quoting Gretle311:" I'm going to watch him when I move. My bf makes 17 an hour and he told me he didn't want me to work. He just wants me to focus on being with my son"

How long have you been with him?

Gretle311 1 child; North Carolina 194 posts
16th Sep '12
Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:" Seriously? How f**king mean of you. He's going to get attached to whoever you leave him with all day in your new town too. Infants do that."

I'm not gonna leave him with anyone when I move. He'll be with me all the time

Gretle311 1 child; North Carolina 194 posts
16th Sep '12
Quoting Tara - Anya's mommy:" You said in your OP that you go out and be a teen. Now it turns into you working most of the time, and ... [snip!] ... your foster mom left the baby with you, how is it leaving the baby with you if you are taking care of him most of the time."

Well geez, excuse me for wording it wrong

user banned 1 child; Germany 12377 posts
16th Sep '12
Quoting Gretle311:" I'm going to watch him when I move. My bf makes 17 an hour and he told me he didn't want me to work. He just wants me to focus on being with my son"

I hope the cost of living where you are going is low, $17/h for 3 people is not enough.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
16th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rd.:</b>" I hope the cost of living where you are going is low, $17/h for 3 people is not enough."</blockquote>




Seriously. Heaven forbid the relationship not work then what are you going to do? If you did it for the first 5 months and he's only 8 that's a very short time for him to become so attached to her if you truly are caring for him 100% of the time you aren't at work.

Gretle311 1 child; North Carolina 194 posts
16th Sep '12

You know what? Smurf what all of you say. Really, idgaf. I just asked because I thought I'd get a little friendly advice. But forget it. Because all of you are such perfect moms. Smurf you all

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
16th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Gretle311:</b>" You know what? Smurf what all of you say. Really, idgaf. I just asked because I thought I'd get a little friendly advice. But forget it. Because all of you are such perfect moms. Smurf you all"</blockquote>




At least my kid likes me.

user banned Due September 18 (boy); 1 child; California 21617 posts
16th Sep '12
Quoting Gretle311:" You know what? Smurf what all of you say. Really, idgaf. I just asked because I thought I'd get a little friendly advice. But forget it. Because all of you are such perfect moms. Smurf you all"


HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN WITH HIM?
Jesus christ, answer the question you've been avoiding for 3 pages.

user banned 1 child; Germany 12377 posts
16th Sep '12
Quoting Gretle311:" You know what? Smurf what all of you say. Really, idgaf. I just asked because I thought I'd get a little friendly advice. But forget it. Because all of you are such perfect moms. Smurf you all"


Um everyone gave you legit advice, but you're arguing with us. If nothing we say is going to be right or helpful, answer your own goddamn question.

user banned 1 child; Germany 12377 posts
16th Sep '12
Quoting Jennybananna:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Gretle311:</b>" You know what? Smurf what all of you say. Really, ... [snip!] ... But forget it. Because all of you are such perfect moms. Smurf you all"</blockquote> At least my kid likes me."

lmao

. , ., VA, United States 74438 posts
16th Sep '12
Quoting Gretle311:" You know what? Smurf what all of you say. Really, idgaf. I just asked because I thought I'd get a little friendly advice. But forget it. Because all of you are such perfect moms. Smurf you all"

Yikes. You're getting advice. Moving off with some random boyfriend while you have a child at 18 isn't smart. So what if he makes 17 an hour? That's not a lot when you start paying bills and buying groceries, household items, gas, formula, diapers etc. Is he just going to give you money? Do you have a car? How do you know you won't just be stuck in the house all of the time? If he leaves you then what? Since your foster mom watches your LO you should be trying to go to school or something.

user banned 1 child; Germany 12377 posts
16th Sep '12
Quoting Δ ☮ ∂:" Yikes. You're getting advice. Moving off with some random boyfriend while you have a child at 18 isn't ... [snip!] ... the time? If he leaves you then what? Since your foster mom watches your LO you should be trying to go to school or something."


Agree. Don't waste an opporuntity like that, it's way more hard without support. Trust me on that one.