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Pospartum Depession? BabyJ'smomma :) 18 kids; Ironton, Ohio 28 posts
16th Sep '12

This will be a long post, just a warning. I have a 14 month old son, and I just had my second son, Ethan, just 8 weeks ago. I'm having so much trouble with just being happy. I love them and my husband so so much but I feel like I'm a horrible mother and wife all the time. I never have time to clean house or cook food for my husband, and I literally cry A LOT because I feel so bad that I don't do the things that a good wife should. I really want to have a perfectly spotless house and have food on the table for hubby when he comes home but I just never have any energy it seems like after taking care of the babies all day. My doctor put me on Celexa for depression last week; I was actually excited to take it because I wasso hopeful it would make me feel better and give me more energy. Well, I took one and It did the complete opposite. I couldn't keep my eyes open after I took it, thankfully hubby was there to take care of the kids. So, needless to say I can't take that during the day because I'm alone. I was actually really upset knowing that the medicine wouldn't help me....thats how bad this slump I'm in is. Its really so sad that somedays I feel like I don't even have the energy to feed my 14 month old. I want to be a different person. I know that no one is perfect, but I want to be so much better and it seems like I just can't. Its so hard just to get out of bed in the morning....I want to be one of those mothers that can get up all happy at 6 in the morning and clean house while her kids are still sleeping, lol. Is this really depression or am I just feeling the baby blues? :(

Kristen Parris 2 kids; Virginia 1942 posts
16th Sep '12

Depression medicine takes a few weeks to start working.. Sodont get discouraged with that and take it at night if it makes you so tired.
With 2 babies there is no way you can do everything!! You have to be ok with letting things go! It's hard for me and I only have a 9 month old :-/
Go outside and take a few minutes to do your hair and make up! That always makes me feel a little better lol... I'm sure things will start to get better hang in there and remember you can't do everything!

wilde_mommy 4 kids; Columbus, Ohio 3459 posts
16th Sep '12

It sounds like real post partum depression to me. I had my baby 3 weeks ago and I'm going through it too. Please call your dr tomorrow and tell them how the medicine is affecting you and that you would like to change it. If you need to talk or need to vent, b***h, or just need support feel free to PM me. I am right there with you mama. Do you have anyone that could help you with the kids while your dh is at work?

Mandy Evans 2 kids; Ohio 1444 posts
16th Sep '12
Quoting BabyJ'smomma :):" This will be a long post, just a warning. I have a 14 month old son, and I just had my second son, Ethan, ... [snip!] ... and clean house while her kids are still sleeping, lol. Is this really depression or am I just feeling the baby blues? :("

sounds like ppd. anti depressents can either make you wide awake or very sleepy, and they take weeks (usually) to work. but, if you know that it makes you too tired to function, tell dr to try a differnt one. there are lots of natural remedies to cope, but i found all of them to suck. lol. i had bad ppd that sounds just like what i just read here, and i didnt want to ask for anything bc i didnt want anyone to know. i told my dh, but he looked at me so confussed when i was holding our newborn, tears streaming down my face, and me telling him that, of course i love the baby, but im so unhappy, i dont even want to hold him. i never thought ppd was real, until i experinced it...soo soo real. too real. try a diff med, order take out, take up on offers for help from friends and family. dont worry about the spotless house, or hot dinner. worry about getting thru the day, and trying to fix the hormones. you are not alone, you are not crazy! hang in there, it will pass!!

summerbabyX2 2 kids; Pennsylvania 4019 posts
16th Sep '12
Quoting BabyJ'smomma :):" This will be a long post, just a warning. I have a 14 month old son, and I just had my second son, Ethan, ... [snip!] ... and clean house while her kids are still sleeping, lol. Is this really depression or am I just feeling the baby blues? :("

this mom doesn't exist!!! Please don't hold yourself up to expectations that are unrealistic! And yes it sounds very much like PPD, I had it after my DD was born. It was made worse because of the guilt I felt too about not being able to be the same mom for my son who was 2 and because of all the other things I couldn't do and I actually ended up kind of resenting my DD for a little bit. Thankfully I finally recognized it for what it was and got on Wellbutrin and it helped me so much and I was able to get myself back together. It's 2 years later and some days are still hard but we're all much better off because I got the help I needed, please do!

BabyJ'smomma :) 18 kids; Ironton, Ohio 28 posts
17th Sep '12

Thank you ladies. I'm going to request a new medication and see if it will help a little better with the drowsiness. I know I shouldn't hold myself to such high standards but I do want to be a better wife and try to do more things around the house...I really appreciate the advice :)