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Talking to grandma. (help please!) MeganBlogna Due February 25 (boy); Ohio 214 posts
16th Sep '12

So, I wasn't allowed to tell my grandma for like 3 months that I was pregnant. My dad wouldn't let me.
My dads family is very strict, very catholic.. very very judgmental.
I don't talk to my grandma a lot, we don't get along- but I try my best to be decent.



My dad finally told her I was pregnant, and now she told my dad she's a little upset that I still haven't come to her and told her I'm pregnant.
So, he wants me to go to her house tomorrow, and talk to her. Just bring up that I'm pregnant and stuff.. but I don't know how to do that.
Just like walk in and be like "Hey grandma, you already know I'm pregnant, but I'm here to remind you !"
I just don't know. I don't know how to talk to her, I don't even know what I would say to her..
She wants a legitimate conversation, but I've never talked one on one with my grandma for more than 30 seconds about a recipe or something..
She isn't that typical 'i love you! hugs, and cookies and kisses' grandma, shes that prim and proper grandma.. that doesn't wear sweat pants, and watches her weight and eats pizza with a fork.



I guess what I'm trying to say is, I have no idea how to start a conversation with this woman. I have no idea what to even talk about with her.
Does anyone have any advice as to how to just.. get the conversation started ?

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
16th Sep '12

Hey grandma you're gonna be a great grandma.

Subtle As A Hurricane 2 kids; Texas 4131 posts
16th Sep '12

I had no idea how to tell my parents, so DH and I got them a card saying they were going to be grandparents. They loved it.

MeganBlogna Due February 25 (boy); Ohio 214 posts
16th Sep '12

I mean, she already knows. My dad told her- but she wants me to tell her, to talk to her. I just have no idea how to start that.
Like she already knows. It just doesn't make sense that she wants me to talk to her about it, and tell her again.

Tash+1 1 child; Canton, Ohio 7839 posts
16th Sep '12

"Grandma, i'm having a baby and i'm super excited! Got any advice you could give me?"




(Old people are finicky)

P Pickle Pants 98 kids; California 20522 posts
16th Sep '12

"hey Grandma. Sorry I didn't tell you myself, but I did want to tell you that I am pregnant. I'm really worried and I know not everyone approves, but I'm trying to do the right thing and take responsibility and I jus don't want everyone to be disappointed in me. I know it isn't the way you would have liked for this to happen, but I really need support and love here. I love you and don't want you to be upset by this. I feel scared and worried and don't want to ad shame to it"

annie sumners Due December 8; Japan 5 posts
17th Sep '12

when i had to tell me grandpa that i was pregnant, it was dreadful i mean he is the kind of person that if you look bad he will not take you anywhere, you have to have a certain typer of life or he wasnt interested, i live in the ghetto and he would not come in my house for years, but i was worried that he was going to disown me, but when i talked to him i was like "yeah, i know i have disappointed you but it would mean the world to me if you could support me on this, and i know that i had other options but this happened, i just wanted some advice cuz you were a great parent and i need help cuz i dont wanna mess this up." he cried and now he accepts the fact that he is gonna be a great grandparent, but he still wont take me to church xD lol good luck our grandparents might not be the same but its nice to have some help.

Mrs cree Due November 23; 33 kids; Ontario 1907 posts
17th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting MeganBlogna:</b>" So, I wasn't allowed to tell my grandma for like 3 months that I was pregnant. My dad wouldn't let me. ... [snip!] ... have no idea what to even talk about with her. Does anyone have any advice as to how to just.. get the conversation started ? "</blockquote>




Maybe your grandma could surprise you and be more understanding than you think she seems to be reaching out throw caution to the wind and just tell her this could be a turning point in your realationship

NICKEL☮POLIS 2 kids; Ontario 6268 posts
17th Sep '12
Quoting P Pickle Pants:" "hey Grandma. Sorry I didn't tell you myself, but I did want to tell you that I am pregnant. I'm really ... [snip!] ... and love here. I love you and don't want you to be upset by this. I feel scared and worried and don't want to ad shame to it""



Like this.
If she is 'prim and proper', and she already knows you're pregnant, she isn't looking for a hey g ma guess what you're going to be a great g ma. She's looking for an explination, and maybe even an apology in a very mature manner.

Done with Drama 2 kids; California 8183 posts
17th Sep '12
Quoting #1ontheway:" "Grandma, i'm having a baby and i'm super excited! Got any advice you could give me?" (Old people are finicky)"


This is a great conversation starter. You are going to need all the family support and (possibly) advice you can get when you are later in your pregnancy and after delivery. Find a way to bridge that gap now so you can go to her when you truly need her.



You'd be surprised on the level of maturity comes with taking other peoples advice and feelings into account when you are having a child. I bet she just wants to hear out of YOUR mouth that you aren't going to let a pregnancy stand in your way of doing something with your life.

B-Baby 1 child; 1 angel baby; CARROLLTON, Virginia 1795 posts
17th Sep '12

i mean its a little different im 22 will be 23 whis baby comes and im engaged BUT i have to tell my grandparents as well and have no idea how... they only live about 20 min away yet i never see them execpt on holidays.... but i have TWO seperate people i have to brerak the news to... one my mothers dad who's son's is havng a baby in feb then ima make him a greatgrandpa in april! haha and then theres mys fathers mom whom also live about 20 min away and i never see her either.... so i have NO IDEA how to do this they expect me to like take them to dinner and tell them or something.. even though their family its gonna be so akward...... its a shame i know but shit thts just how it is..... but goood luck to you!