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Haveing a hard time geting over baby dad Lyric and Treyes MOM 2 kids; Aurora, 13 posts
17th Sep '12

My daughters dad was awesome in the being we had so many good times . The last 3 months he started yelling at my son and i , throwing things like a couch at me. Thing got even more crazy i found i was pregnant . i decided i could not put my son or new baby or me thru this any more i broke up with him . We got in our car he would not leave he kicked my car window in .I called the cops he got arrested the put a restringing order on him . I just feel like i could have fixed him like i did not need to call the cops on him. now today we have a permit peroration order and i have not talk him at all. I hate that she does not have a dad it eats me inside maybe i should have gave him a chance . I still love him . its so hard right now looking at her

Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, New York 55035 posts
status 17th Sep '12

You did the RIGHT thing calling the cops and she doesn't need an abusive violent a*****e in her life, even if he did donate his DNA


Do NOT give him another chance.

M0Mof3 3 kids; Pennsylvania 1202 posts
17th Sep '12

There's a saying that I like to believe suits my ex and your situation..you can't fix crazy. Nothing you would have done would have changed his behavior, and you did what was best for you and your children. It is very difficult to leave someone you love and have attachement to...even if you don't love them but have the attachment it can be hard. You need to be strong for you and your kids and don't go back to him because he is obviously bad news...it's not an easy thing but you are being strong by doing the safest thing for you and your kids

angeleyes11303 4 kids; Arizona 633 posts
17th Sep '12

IMO, I think you did the right thing. Someone who would physically and mentaly hurt someone needs help. I had a verbally abusive husband. He was that way towards myself and our son. My son was 7 when I left him. He's 9 now and he still talks about how his dad was mean to him. I think I waited too long. I should have left sooner.

Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, New York 55035 posts
status 17th Sep '12

Also, you cannot "fix" anyone. It's impossible. If he wanted to change, he would

Lyric and Treyes MOM 2 kids; Aurora, 13 posts
17th Sep '12

That is what everyone says maybe I need to Liston . I would never give him another chance . Just hurts

Lyric and Treyes MOM 2 kids; Aurora, 13 posts
17th Sep '12

Thanks for the advice it help a lot . I guess it will just take time. To get over him. I just wish I could have fixed him . He was awesome in the begin I thought he was the one. At least my kids are safe and me .