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due oct 24 and lonely! Am i doing this right? brandyallison1990 Due October 23; Dover, New Hampshire 3 posts
19th Sep '12

I have been searching and searching for even just one other person who is due around oct 24 who is close to my area. Im in dover nh and so far no body lives in nh let alone dover. This is my first child and in five weeks i will get to hold my baby girl but boy do i have questions since again this is my first time. Im afraid i wont know im going into labor until its progressed too far to even consider an epideral as well as what if something goes wrong! I also question what if my doc was wrong and im actually having a boy (ultrasound wasnt as clear as we would have liked it to be) Id be so upset due to always wanting a girl i mean dont get me wrong i will love them the same no matter what but i did go out and get everything pink lol theres just so much i am unaware about, i only five weeks left and dont even have a birth plan! some say it is not needed while everything i read says it is, I just dont know if im doing everything right and could really use a buddy as im new to the area so have no friends as well as i dont know anyone who is pregnant or been through this already. Im so ready to have her in my arms but just slightly nervous I could be doing a better job at being prepared

user banned 2 kids; Minnesota 7318 posts
19th Sep '12
Quoting brandyallison1990:" I have been searching and searching for even just one other person who is due around oct 24 who is close ... [snip!] ... this already. Im so ready to have her in my arms but just slightly nervous I could be doing a better job at being prepared "


Have you looked on meetup.com?



You can always ask questions here and there are a lot of awesome people here to talk to. Even if they're not in your area. Sometimes the best friends are the ones solely online.

SunshineMagic Due December 27; United Kingdom 44 posts
19th Sep '12

Hi my hubby and me didnt have anyone....we knew nothing and went to all our ante natal appointments, saw the midwife...etc

we planned to go to NCT ante natal classes, this is supposedly where people meet other parents and bond- but for us, our DS stopped growing at 28 weeks and we were thrown into the world of NICU with very sick babies

We never had any support or 'due date' buddies...or even any NICU buddies

but guess what? we are doing just fine.

dont feel so dishearted.....you dont NEED anyone- trust your instincts and believe in yourself. Motherhood is a scary experience for everyone- for the most socialable and the most isolated of mothers, in the end....doesnt make one a better parent than the other

Single_Mama 20 kids; Nebraska 5036 posts
19th Sep '12

I think you are just a normal worried first time mom. Its ok. Ask as many questions as you can. You will know when its time...when it closer to your due date you can always request for your doc to check you.

I just think you are nervous..excited and just overwhelmed...which is all NORMAL.

Just Andria 4 kids; Houston, Texas 915 posts
19th Sep '12

Don't worry there really isn't a wrong way to have a baby. Some people live by birth plans, others like myself could care less. My first was born when i was 21 and i thought I had to have one.....nothing went as "planned" then the same with my following 2 kids. Seems like I have always had to "wing it" when all of my kids were born. ~ It is normal to worry and to feel unprepared. It is difficult to truly be prepared for something you don't know yet. Ask advice and remember it is just advice. Everyone has an opinion and they aren't always correct. Try to just sit back and enjoy it cause it goes my so fast.~ As for worrying about it winding up a boy..... Just think of how cute your little man will be sporting pink! I think that is always a concern for all of us.