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It's a boy!!!!*3/27/13* 19 kids; Kyle, Texas 4244 posts
20th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:</b>" At 16 they cannot drive or work really... if you don't help her, she is basically being left out in the cold."</blockquote>




There are buses and you can get a license at 16 proving hardship(child) and yes there are jobs there.



I mean if it's a "I have a class then work and the babysitter is sick can you please watch it" then yes because she had a plan and it fell through. It happens. But if it's a "can you watch her so I can go party or just e my babysitter?" then hell no!

Monique and Dominic's mom 2 kids; Wyoming 2768 posts
20th Sep '12

I would say, "That was a stupid move, but I'll help you to the best of my ability."
My daughter is my baby girl, she always will be.

LA REINA™ New York, NY, United States 16216 posts
20th Sep '12
Quoting Mel & a girl named Pey:" In Texas people under 25 now have to do drivers ed and some parents can't afford it. I think the job would have to come first so she can earn money for drivers ed."

Once I could afford to support my child and their baby, I would do it and tell her that she needs to do good in school, A's and B's only. A job can come after she's done with school and won't have to work for pennies, wasting time.

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; 2 angel babies; South Land, CA, United States 116861 posts
20th Sep '12
Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:" She is trying to force something on me, and that ain't happening, so I will defiantly be forcing something ... [snip!] ... it" and they will have their child. Not in my house. Maybe she would think about it when she is deciding whether to TTC at 16. "


So much for unconditional love.

It's a boy!!!!*3/27/13* 19 kids; Kyle, Texas 4244 posts
20th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:</b>" I thought this was in D&D!! oops!! "</blockquote>




I should have posted there LOL!



I need sleep!

Tanya Veen Due January 16 (boy); 1 child; Lakefield, Minnesota 5 posts
20th Sep '12
Quoting One in the oven{4/2/13}:" Hmmm I must be insane then. I would not let that fly in my house. I wouldn't shove her out in the cold ... [snip!] ... There were times she even had to go to class with me cause the daycare ha no room that day or the babysitter I PAID was sick."


Seriously get over yourself!!!!!!!!

ILOVEWINE Due April 24; 2 kids; Sweden 10814 posts
20th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:</b>" Oh that's right!! Here you need to be 18 to drive. Well, still, 16 year olds need help. If you don't babysit for example how will your kid work?? "</blockquote>




You would have to help by babysitting, or help your daughter get daycare assistance.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 16757 posts
20th Sep '12
Quoting ♡Sarah♡ + 2:" So much for unconditional love."


So much for respecting your parents.

LA REINA™ New York, NY, United States 16216 posts
20th Sep '12
Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" then you shouldn't have any girls... See, this is why I am all for gender abortions.... that way ... [snip!] ... is 16... you are an adult... 16 years are capable of plenty, but they do not think like adults, much less American Teenagers. "

My sentiments exactly. Sure a 16 year old can work and can drive but are they good at either of those things? Nope. With age comes experience and wisdom and I won't be forcing my child to grow up fast just because they made a stupid decision.

Pey and Trista's mommy Due January 5; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Houston, Texas 42502 posts
20th Sep '12
Quoting LEGENDARY b**bs:" Once I could afford to support my child and their baby, I would do it and tell her that she needs to ... [snip!] ... good in school, A's and B's only. A job can come after she's done with school and won't have to work for pennies, wasting time."


I am just speaking for those adamant on them being responsible for their funds and such. I, personally, would aid my daughter in any way I could. My best friend had 2 daughter before she was 18 and her mom is who helped her get through it. Now she has 3 responsible teens and 2 young ones to look up to them. Her oldest just turned 18 and is a senior in high school. Pretty much all my friends were teen mothers and I see how important that support system is.

Martha Marshall 1 child; Whittier, California 1035 posts
20th Sep '12
Quoting One in the oven{4/2/13}:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:</b>" At 16 they cannot drive or work really... ... [snip!] ... and it fell through. It happens. But if it's a "can you watch her so I can go party or just e my babysitter?" then hell no!"


Exactly! Especially since she's choosing to TTC she should've thought about all the consequences of having a baby... my husband and I were surprised by my son.. not that we were unhappy by it, but we were already living on our own and supporting ourselves through college and work. If we TTC in a few years for a sibling it'll be once we are well established in our careers... not at 16.. that's just stupid...

LA REINA™ New York, NY, United States 16216 posts
20th Sep '12
Quoting Mel & a girl named Pey:" I am just speaking for those adamant on them being responsible for their funds and such. I, personally, ... [snip!] ... 18 and is a senior in high school. Pretty much all my friends were teen mothers and I see how important that support system is."

A good support system is the best thing for a teen mother. Better than a part time job.

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; 2 angel babies; South Land, CA, United States 116861 posts
20th Sep '12
Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:" So much for respecting your parents. "


People make mistakes. I cant believe you would write off your own flesh and blood like that. I hope your son never knocks anyone up.

Pey and Trista's mommy Due January 5; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Houston, Texas 42502 posts
20th Sep '12
Quoting LEGENDARY b**bs:" A good support system is the best thing for a teen mother. Better than a part time job."


I most definitely agree but sadly others do not.

It's a boy!!!!*3/27/13* 19 kids; Kyle, Texas 4244 posts
20th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tanya Veen:</b>" Seriously get over yourself!!!!!!!!"</blockquote>




Ummm ok sorry you don't agree with me.



I was a young parent. I made it work! If I could do it then I can obviously show my child how to do it and not just depend on other people.




Like I said I wouldn't put my child or grandchild in the cold they woul live with me without having to pay bills but I would not be a built in babysitter. Is that so bad?