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Debbie_Frutos 1 child; Spartanburg, South Carolina 1083 posts
20th Sep '12
Quoting dream:" I think if it's in a public place and meant as a "play date" for the kids, then there is nothing wrong ... [snip!] ... I would still treat the situation as if he were married .. to avoid the potential drama it could cause, which you referenced."


I am not sure when they separated exactly I do know that he is/was staying with a friend. Till he could find somewhere to rent.



He posted a status earlier about the greatest gift a guy wants from a girl is her heart and I seen that his wife posted on it saying something like I have a gift for you. and he was like you and I both know that gift is given away. She didn't say anything. She later removed her comment.



Maybe I will just call him tomorrow and explain it all and talk to him and see what he says about it.



I just know hes at the point where he don't care what she sees or knows. He made a joke about something my friend said and posting it on FB so her DH *his friend* would get mad. I said You will just make "J" mad and he was like i don't care what she sees she has no business in my business.

3plus1 Due October 20; 3 kids; Suisun City, California 255 posts
20th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting A.Ramirez's Mommy:</b>" Definitely do not want more then friendship with him at all. He knows this as well."</blockquote>



Its nothing wrong with that i feel you on the drama part though just stand your grounds.. as long as he knows you dont want nOthn more then its good he nds a friend and im pretty sure you miss your friend but at the sametime he probally had you at a distance when he was with her because he might be feeling some type of way about you..but let the kids hve some fun catCh up with your friend and enjoy life<3

Debbie_Frutos 1 child; Spartanburg, South Carolina 1083 posts
20th Sep '12
Quoting 3plus1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting A.Ramirez's Mommy:</b>" Definitely do not want more then friendship ... [snip!] ... he might be feeling some type of way about you..but let the kids hve some fun catCh up with your friend and enjoy life<3"


Its not so much me he kept his distance from it was everyone.. If his cousins was single he didn't hang out with them much. It was always about her to him and he was with her like 80% of the time.. He don't even know where half of his cousins are now because he didn't hang out with single guys so there wasn't issues with his marriage.

Emily Thorne 2 kids; Quetzaltenango, Guatemala 26302 posts
20th Sep '12
Quoting A.Ramirez's Mommy:" Its not so much me he kept his distance from it was everyone.. If his cousins was single he didn't hang ... [snip!] ... know where half of his cousins are now because he didn't hang out with single guys so there wasn't issues with his marriage."


Sounds like he is desperate for friends...

Donna Jo Tanner 1 child; Beach Haven, New Jersey 6440 posts
20th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:</b>" hahaha this statement shocked me! :D:D I've never really seen this side of you, I don't think. To ... [snip!] ... think. To me... even if they are still "married" on paper but separated, he is fair game... but no everyone feels that way! "</blockquote>




Agree with you here! When it's over it's over, a piece of paper doesn't mean shit. I also got pregnant with my son while still married but separated from my ex. As soon as the divorce was final I married DH! If they are truly separated who cares?

Debbie_Frutos 1 child; Spartanburg, South Carolina 1083 posts
28th Sep '12

update:



We didn't make it to Mr Gattis that day because I fell asleep when I got home. However, after I picked my brothers girlfriend up from work I went a friends house to see if she could go eat with me her boyfriend said she couldn't I was also texting with him and he was like well me and the kids can meet you somewhere cause we haven't ate either and so we did. We talked about everything pretty much. I think its a start of a great friendship.



The next day he took his son to my job *mcdonalds* to play and everyone swore there was more to the friendship and he even told my manager who asked if he wanted "Friends with benefits with me" he replied Nooooo and she said ugh why he said its just us being friends if more comes of it later then so be it but we are only friends.



I think there has only been one day since I haven't seen him well today as well but him and my brother was trying to hang out earlier.



So, nothing harmful as suspected by most of these lovely mommas.

dream 2 kids; Linz, Ob, Austria 59797 posts
29th Sep '12
Quoting A.Ramirez's Mommy:" update: We didn't make it to Mr Gattis that day because I fell asleep when I got home. However, after ... [snip!] ... well but him and my brother was trying to hang out earlier. So, nothing harmful as suspected by most of these lovely mommas. "


glad it's working out nicely. =D
at the very least, I hope you are able to have a nice friendship from it.

Debbie_Frutos 1 child; Spartanburg, South Carolina 1083 posts
1st Oct '12
Quoting dream:" glad it's working out nicely. =D at the very least, I hope you are able to have a nice friendship from it."


Thanks mama :)

Debbie_Frutos 1 child; Spartanburg, South Carolina 1083 posts
17th Jan '13

Not sure if this will still inform you mommas..



Him and I are still friends talk just about daily. However, he did go back to her because she found out he was hanging out with me and other people and she started threatening to keep the kids from him if he didn't go back..



Sad story but I am glad I took the advice and got to know him more and better.. :)