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Mixed Baby Victoria Celeste Woodway, Texas 7 posts
24th Sep '12

Im Mexican & white , My childs father is black .
I come from a racist family , & dont really know how the rest of my family is going to react too the news. My mom , grandma & cousins know but I dont think any of my uncles or my great grandmother know . Did any one else have this problem ? If so whats your story & how did you handle it ?

Almost there! :) Due November 8 (boy); Texas 539 posts
24th Sep '12

It's simple, really. Just tell them to fuck off. Being mixed doesn't make you any less of a person.

Tavi 1 child; Washington 24429 posts
24th Sep '12

I have had this problem with a few of SO's distant relatives....



My advice: If they disrespect the father, then they disrespect your child. Stand your ground. If they have a problem with it, remove yourself until they pull their head out of their ass.

MommyingWithGrace Beverly Hills, California 2427 posts
24th Sep '12

my oldest 2 are mixed. my youngest 2 are white. My family is racist too, but once they see that child...racist or not...they become accepting. Maybe not agree with everything, but they will learn to love and accept the child. Otherwise, I wouldnt and didnt give two craps what anyone thought.

Jaqulyne Elisha Due December 2 (girl); North Carolina 42 posts
24th Sep '12

MIXED BABIES ARE TAKEN OVER ! .. I CAN NOT WAIT TO SEE HOW BEAUTIFUL MY BABY GIRL WILL BE. :D

de--activated Andorra 715 posts
24th Sep '12

My fiance is Mexican so is his family and I'm Dominican/ PR but my family looks black all of us... I'm just the lightest one because of my mother looking white. We are still considered Latino but of a diff culture so I think that's why they were fine with it... if anything his family thought I was really pretty even though I do have some black features...just keep being with him, it's okay.

Victoria Celeste Woodway, Texas 7 posts
24th Sep '12

Thanks ! You've all helped alot !

Preston, Adam, Eli's Momm 19 kids; Colorado Springs, Colorado 4057 posts
24th Sep '12

Edit sorry posted before I finished typing.

blah 17 kids; Alabama 7639 posts
24th Sep '12

I'm white bd is black. My family didn't care, his did. They got over it bc lo is so cute :)

Preston, Adam, Eli's Momm 19 kids; Colorado Springs, Colorado 4057 posts
24th Sep '12

My father is really racist and Im actually Spanish and white and my youngest sons father is black. So i understand completely. And honestly, they will talk shit, they will probably make jokes, wont talk to you for awhile... But its your baby and who you sleep with, date, and love is your choice.



When I started dating Eli's father my family said things like "when did gracie start liking monkeys?"... "ill have to be careful about going to the zoo with gracie, never know what my next son in law will be".. I mean they said serioisly hurtful things. I didnt talk to any of them for awhile. After they realized that it was.my choice and no amount of hurtful words or actions was going to change my mind about him, they all started slowly coming around.. When my sister first met him, he was standing in the hallway and he heard her say she didnt want to meet him because hes a fucking monkey. The first words that came out of her mouth when she saw him were... "oh hes pretty".. After they gave him a chance they all loved him.



Just stand your ground.

Kiki&Ari's Mommy 2 kids; Montana 4170 posts
24th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Victoria Celeste:</b>" Im Mexican & white , My childs father is black . I come from a racist family , & dont really know how ... [snip!] ... my uncles or my great grandmother know . Did any one else have this problem ? If so whats your story & how did you handle it ?"</blockquote>




I had a cousin and an aunt say hurtful things. everyone else in my family doesn't care at all. I handled it by cutting them out of my life....only talking to them occasionally when I had to. I don't want ignorant assholes in my life....family or not.

Mrs.Bluitt Due January 20; 1 child; San Jose, California 763 posts
24th Sep '12

Oh man. I understand. I'm half white, and half Native American. My husband is black. We planned to get married but got pregnant sooner so got married 3 months after that. My moms side is 100% sweedish. 100% racists. Geez. After we got pregnant we had to tell them. My grandma asked if he grew up in the ghetto... And a while bunch of racist questions.
My mom also re-married a Mexican after my dad died. Even then my grandma asked is he had ever eaten white rice :/
She's calmed down, but when she gets drunk she says dumb things like.... 'Oh I never thought I would hold a black baby' -_-
But we don't care. I love my husband.
Don't care what anyone else thinks. You and your SO are having a baby! And thoes are the only 3 you should be concerned about :) you, SO, and LO :) you are the only ones that matter.

Loving my 3 princes TTC since Aug 2014; 3 kids; victorville, CA, United States 158 posts
24th Sep '12

My son's father is puerto rican(black)/white/mexican his mom didnt like it one bit that I had a baby by him because I looked black...im french & idian( a lot if it too no where near black).....my husbands grandparents probably wouldnt like it because I look black, his grandma is white(german) & his grandpa is black which he doesnt like black girls including his sisters weird!!! But I wouldnt care cuz its not about them its about my lil family

Aria Dawn's mommy 33 kids; Texas 1864 posts
24th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Victoria Celeste:</b>" Im Mexican & white , My childs father is black . I come from a racist family , & dont really know how ... [snip!] ... my uncles or my great grandmother know . Did any one else have this problem ? If so whats your story & how did you handle it ?"</blockquote>




Fuck em.



And btw that baby is no doubt going to be gorgeous.