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mommommommyma 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Armenia 1116 posts
24th Sep '12

I've been praying for you ( in fact my husband thinks I've lost my mind cause I've been praying for you so much :) ) how far along are you now?

P Pickle Pants 98 kids; California 20522 posts
24th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting mommommommyma:</b>" I've been praying for you ( in fact my husband thinks I've lost my mind cause I've been praying for you so much :) ) how far along are you now?"</blockquote>



Will be 5 weeks on Wed

Little Richard's mommie! Due July 12 (boy); 1 child; Seneca, South Carolina 4430 posts
24th Sep '12
Quoting P Pickle Pants:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Tabitha Barbour:</b>" Ok so this is going to sound like a crazy ... [snip!] ... that will soothe me until 6-7 weeks (at which point I'd be close enough to my appointment that it'd be stupid to go to the ER)."


I didn't mean lie. I had to go because I was really afraid I was mc and both times everything was ok. I had to go twice in 3 weeks once for the unbearable cramping and second because I was spotting, and they found I had a very progressed bladder infection that was causing the cramping and the spotting which the infection was caused by dehydration I just meant if something is happening to make you fear that you are mc then I would go and get checked out. So I didn't lie I would never lie about something in my pregnancy. I have found if you lie about something serious then it comes to bite you on the butt. But I meant if you are really afraid you are mc I would have it checked out. But if the ultrasound doesn't show anything that will ease your mind until that time then the best that you can do is just try to stay as calm as possible and just wait it out. I am sorry you are stressed and so afraid I can only say pray to God and keep praying that everything is going to be ok. You haven't got to much longer until your appt. Just try to breathe and think positive.

Zach&Evan&Jacob'sMom 3 kids; 7 angel babies; Fall Branch, Tennessee 48608 posts
24th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting P Pickle Pants:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Alexis's Mommy 2 Be:</b>" Women who know the struggles make ... [snip!] ... Losing babies hasn't made me a better mom or a better person. It has simply left gaping wounds and aching scars."</blockquote>



:!:



It has also made me a bitter person. More than I would like to admit.

Little Richard's mommie! Due July 12 (boy); 1 child; Seneca, South Carolina 4430 posts
24th Sep '12
Quoting Zach&Evan'sMom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting P Pickle Pants:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Alexis's ... [snip!] ... gaping wounds and aching scars."</blockquote> :!: It has also made me a bitter person. More than I would like to admit."


I can not say that I understand what it is like to lose a baby. But Ido know this God knows everything that is ever going to happen and he has a reason for everything. He would not ever put more on a person then what they could handle. And a lot of times in things that happen like this people don't understand that it is actually making them stronger and preparing them for something greater in life that is coming.



P Pickle Pants 98 kids; California 20522 posts
24th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tabitha Barbour:</b>" I didn't mean lie. I had to go because I was really afraid I was mc and both times everything was ok. ... [snip!] ... that everything is going to be ok. You haven't got to much longer until your appt. Just try to breathe and think positive."</blockquote>




I'm not having any symptoms of a miscarriage (nor did i imply anywhere that i was) other than an 87% pregnancy failure rate previously. I constantly fear miscarriage with more power than you will ever imagine.



The ER doesnt give mental-health ultrasounds or HCG draws.



IF I were to start having bleeding or cramping, I am we'll aware of whom I should call and what the next step would be.

P Pickle Pants 98 kids; California 20522 posts
24th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Zach&Evan'sMom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting P Pickle Pants:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Alexis's ... [snip!] ... gaping wounds and aching scars."</blockquote> :!: It has also made me a bitter person. More than I would like to admit."</blockquote>



So angry and bitter that its becoming hard not to choke omit :/

P Pickle Pants 98 kids; California 20522 posts
24th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tabitha Barbour:</b>" I can not say that I understand what it is like to lose a baby. But Ido know this God knows everything ... [snip!] ... understand that it is actually making them stronger and preparing them for something greater in life that is coming. "</blockquote>




f**k you. Please leave my thread!!!

Triple "A" 34 kids; New Jersey 34482 posts
24th Sep '12
Quoting P Pickle Pants:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Tabitha Barbour:</b>" I didn't mean lie. I had to go because ... [snip!] ... draws. IF I were to start having bleeding or cramping, I am we'll aware of whom I should call and what the next step would be."


I'm not trying to "defend" anyone here, but she's just trying to help P. I know you're super stressed and don't like dealing with stuff like this, but try to keep in mind people are pulling for you, trying to suggest things to help, and wouldn't necessarily handle things the same way.

Little Richard's mommie! Due July 12 (boy); 1 child; Seneca, South Carolina 4430 posts
24th Sep '12
Quoting P Pickle Pants:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Tabitha Barbour:</b>" I can not say that I understand what ... [snip!] ... preparing them for something greater in life that is coming. "</blockquote> f**k you. Please leave my thread!!!"

If you are going to be rude when me I was just trying to be nice and give advce then fine be rude. Saying f**k you isn't helping your situation any f**king more then getting on here and saying mean and rude things to me when i was just trying to give you the best advice they can think to give. if i came off wrong then damn I am sorry, but seriously you shouldn't just be rude and say f**k you to someone who is trying to be nice. Obviously there is a reason that you have miscarried and you seem to me to be to f**king hard headed to see that. A persons body doesn't miscarry just to do it. There are reasons behind it, maybe it's your body and there isn't a thing you can do about except hope for a better result next time. I will pray that you can learn to accept these things and stop being so bitter towards other people when what is happeneing to you has nothing to do with them. And hell if you stay pregnant this time then don't sit there and dwell on the past shit happens, and like i said there is a reasoning for everything.

Vindictive 50 kids; Switzerland 30558 posts
24th Sep '12
Quoting Tabitha Barbour:" I can not say that I understand what it is like to lose a baby. But Ido know this God knows everything ... [snip!] ... understand that it is actually making them stronger and preparing them for something greater in life that is coming. "


Maybe you should experience a loss before saying something like that. There is NO good reason for a child to be taken away. None.



I swear, a book needs to be made on things NOT to say to women that have lost babies/children.

Vindictive 50 kids; Switzerland 30558 posts
24th Sep '12
Quoting Tabitha Barbour:" If you are going to be rude when me I was just trying to be nice and give advce then fine be rude. Saying ... [snip!] ... this time then don't sit there and dwell on the past shit happens, and like i said there is a reasoning for everything."


Yes, miscarriages CAN just happen for NO reason at all.

Triple "A" 34 kids; New Jersey 34482 posts
24th Sep '12
Quoting Tabitha Barbour:" If you are going to be rude when me I was just trying to be nice and give advce then fine be rude. Saying ... [snip!] ... this time then don't sit there and dwell on the past shit happens, and like i said there is a reasoning for everything."


Oh boy...you're probably going to get reamed for that one. Not sure if you've read her profile or come across her before. Anyway. No, not everything always happens for a reason. Not every loss is because your body decided the baby wasn't an option. There are many cases where shit happens with no explanation and there's not a thing you can do about. You haven't had so many losses that you're wondering if you'll ever birth your own child again. You've never had to go through pregnancy day after day worrying about the littlest twinge being your body getting ready to terminate another pregnancy. You've never been through what she's been through, because even if it was only once, it wasn't time and time again. Yes, there's not reason for the attitude towards you, clearly she IS bitter because of what she has endured. But maybe at that point your best *and most mature* option is to walk away and unsubscribe.

mommommommyma 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Armenia 1116 posts
24th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vindictive:</b>" Maybe you should experience a loss before saying something like that. There is NO good reason for a ... [snip!] ... child to be taken away. None. I swear, a book needs to be made on things NOT to say to women that have lost babies/children."</blockquote>




This!!!!!!!!!!! Literally took the words right out of my mouth

Little Richard's mommie! Due July 12 (boy); 1 child; Seneca, South Carolina 4430 posts
24th Sep '12
Quoting Vindictive:" Maybe you should experience a loss before saying something like that. There is NO good reason for a ... [snip!] ... child to be taken away. None. I swear, a book needs to be made on things NOT to say to women that have lost babies/children."


I have lost people in my life maybe not a child I was carrying but I know what it's like to lose someone and it be out of your control. I haven't miscarried and I thank God I haven't but I know for a damn good fact that if I ever do I wouldn't be so bitter to someone who trying to be helpful. I would pray for a better result. I have faith in God and I guess some people don't, but I do and what i feel like is the best and most supportive advice to give someone I do. I am a positive person and always will be nothing can change that. But people should look for something better then dwell and hurt over the past something they can't change. Sorry if the truth is something that pisses people off but I feel that way. So therefore nothing will change it. EVERYTHING HAS A REASONING BEHIND IT ALWAYS NO MATTER WHAT IT IS.