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Mrs. Nesbitt Due November 3; 1 child; Kansas City, Kansas 1894 posts
24th Sep '12
Quoting Kimber-Lily:" well there wouldn't be a little human being if she aborted, which would be the right choice. What would ... [snip!] ... choice. What would make a 13, 14, 15, 16 year old think it's 'okay' to have a child?... Life isn't some fricking tea party."

I had said your child would be a human being. so kicking them out for getting pregnant??



I got pregnant at 15. had my son at 16. my mother fully supported ANY decision I made. told me if abortion was what I chose, she would support it, but said she didn't want me doing so unless I felt it was the best decision.
and if that I kept the baby, if i stayed in school and graduated, focused solely on my child and school, she would support it. I wasn't allowed to have a job, because I was to go to school, and come straight home and take care of my responsibility. my son.



either way, my mother was there for me thru it all. and I would be the exact same way.
maybe not push for them to not have a job like my mother did, but I would certainly help them where they needed it.

Mommy|Of2 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Canada 3023 posts
24th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kimber-Lily:</b>" A little mistake? are you kidding me?? that's a human being.That's a pretty big fricking mistake."</blockquote>




If your daughter got pregnant as a teen that doesn't mean your parenting with her is over and you can "abort" her and it defiantly doesn't legally make her an adult.
If she was 14-15 you'd still have 3-4 years of parenting left and you'd still have to support her and ONLY her.

The Bear and The Bird 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42577 posts
24th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Layla-and-Faith:</b>" They are hypocrites. It's their choice what they do with their own uterus, it's their choice what they ... [snip!] ... selfish because it's all about them and what's best for them.. they never take into consideration the other person involved."</blockquote>




I would be making the choice with my child's best interest in mind. Not mine.

* Kat * 2 kids; Okinawa, Japan 373 posts
24th Sep '12

oops, read it to fast :)



I'm pro-life for me. That doesn't mean I want to force that stance on other women (especially my daughter). She would have to chose what was best for her. I am a stay at home mom, which means that if she decided to have a baby, I would be there and support her the whole time. I respect every other woman's right to choose what's best for HER. My pro-life stance goes as far as my little personal bubble encompasses. If my daughter felt that an abortion was what was right for her, I would support that.

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
24th Sep '12

Unless she was, like nine, then no, I wouldn't "force" my daughter to abort. But at sixteen, her ass is getting a job and supporting what is hers.

Emily Thorne 2 kids; Quetzaltenango, Guatemala 26302 posts
24th Sep '12
Quoting Back to Noob Status:" Unless she was, like nine, then no, I wouldn't "force" my daughter to abort. But at sixteen, her ass is getting a job and supporting what is hers."


I don't think you should force your high school student to work, yet... (this is just my opinion), they should focus on school first so they have some chance of a future, KWIM?

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
24th Sep '12
Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" I don't think you should force your high school student to work, yet... (this is just my opinion), they should focus on school first so they have some chance of a future, KWIM? "


I'm not saying she needs to get a full-time job, but she is going to work part-time to help support the kid. I wouldn't kick her out and she'd have a free place to stay. But financially, she decided to be a big girl, now she has to start acting like one.

Emily Thorne 2 kids; Quetzaltenango, Guatemala 26302 posts
24th Sep '12
Quoting Back to Noob Status:" I'm not saying she needs to get a full-time job, but she is going to work part-time to help support ... [snip!] ... out and she'd have a free place to stay. But financially, she decided to be a big girl, now she has to start acting like one. "


Oh I agree!! I really do... I'm trying to use logic though, KWIM?

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
24th Sep '12
Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" Oh I agree!! I really do... I'm trying to use logic though, KWIM? "


I see what you're saying, but I just would not feel comfortable with her not working and having me do all the financial supporting, especially since it is her kid. Plenty of BG mamas have worked and gone to school and raised kids w/out the help of their parents. Even just working ten hours a week would be enough to pay for diapers. She would get someone watching her kid so she could do homework, but I think making her work would help her understand the severity of the situation and, hopefully, will deter her from having a second or, heaven forbid, a third baby.

Emily Thorne 2 kids; Quetzaltenango, Guatemala 26302 posts
24th Sep '12
Quoting Back to Noob Status:" I see what you're saying, but I just would not feel comfortable with her not working and having me do ... [snip!] ... understand the severity of the situation and, hopefully, will deter her from having a second or, heaven forbid, a third baby."

Yeah, I get that. But the BD of that kid better be helping out too!

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
24th Sep '12
Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" Yeah, I get that. But the BD of that kid better be helping out too! "


I would hope so! I would have a sit down with his parents to discuss how the situation will be handled and off to the OB/GYN for some BC!

Emily Thorne 2 kids; Quetzaltenango, Guatemala 26302 posts
24th Sep '12
Quoting Back to Noob Status:" I would hope so! I would have a sit down with his parents to discuss how the situation will be handled and off to the OB/GYN for some BC!"


I really, really, really, really, really, really, really, really, really, really hope Novali talks to me before having sex so we can get her on BC!! hahaha

Monica♥YASDYARDFR 17 kids; Beverly Hills, California 57063 posts
24th Sep '12

I would be extremely pissed and angry if my child came home pregnant. I would support her but I don't plan on being the parent who will let her know that. She will have to sweat it out some. As sad and disappointed as I would be I would not force her into a decision. I would rather she not hate me for the rest of her life for forcing her into something.



I watch 16 and Pregnant and have seen a few episodes where the girls are teen moms and they are cheerleading or playing some other sport. Ummm no. Those days would be OVER and she would be forced to spend her afternoons doing something proactive to help her child.

Pabst 10 kids; Muthafuckin, GA, United States 26171 posts
status 24th Sep '12
Quoting Regina George:" I would be extremely pissed and angry if my child came home pregnant. I would support her but I don't ... [snip!] ... Ummm no. Those days would be OVER and she would be forced to spend her afternoons doing something proactive to help her child."


Hey, if staying involved in an extracurricular or two helps them get into college, by all means keep going. But if they're just trying to stay out of the house then no, they need to be home taking care of Jr.

*A&N's Mama* 2 kids; Halifax, Nova Scotia 4627 posts
25th Sep '12
Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" Yeah, I get that. But the BD of that kid better be helping out too! "


The sad thing is that a lot of sperm donors DON'T stick around to help with the baby, especially teen boys.