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Monica♥YASDYARDFR 17 kids; Beverly Hills, California 57063 posts
24th Sep '12

I would be extremely pissed and angry if my child came home pregnant. I would support her but I don't plan on being the parent who will let her know that. She will have to sweat it out some. As sad and disappointed as I would be I would not force her into a decision. I would rather she not hate me for the rest of her life for forcing her into something.



I watch 16 and Pregnant and have seen a few episodes where the girls are teen moms and they are cheerleading or playing some other sport. Ummm no. Those days would be OVER and she would be forced to spend her afternoons doing something proactive to help her child.

Pottuh 10 kids; Muthafuckin, GA, United States 26552 posts
24th Sep '12
Quoting Regina George:" I would be extremely pissed and angry if my child came home pregnant. I would support her but I don't ... [snip!] ... Ummm no. Those days would be OVER and she would be forced to spend her afternoons doing something proactive to help her child."


Hey, if staying involved in an extracurricular or two helps them get into college, by all means keep going. But if they're just trying to stay out of the house then no, they need to be home taking care of Jr.

*A&N's Mama* 2 kids; Halifax, Nova Scotia 4627 posts
25th Sep '12
Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" Yeah, I get that. But the BD of that kid better be helping out too! "


The sad thing is that a lot of sperm donors DON'T stick around to help with the baby, especially teen boys.

* Sara * 2 kids; Texas 18864 posts
25th Sep '12
Quoting Zbornak:" They are hypocrites. You can't very well call yourself pro-choice while denying your own daughter her right to choose."


:!:

Hathor + A Due December 23 (girl); 16 kids; Spring, Texas 12834 posts
25th Sep '12

It really depends, if she was under the age of 10 then I would push her towards abortion. 13 and up, it would be up to her.

mjgonz Due December 17 (boy); Carlsbad, California 22 posts
25th Sep '12

Lol if you're pro-choice, you can't FORCE your daughter to abort. Kind of being a hypocrite for being so pro-choice.

mjgonz Due December 17 (boy); Carlsbad, California 22 posts
25th Sep '12
Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" "She would have a choice, abort or move out and live in the streets/foster care/kill herself. What do ... [snip!] ... care/kill herself. What do I care? She screwed up, the little fucktard!" Seriously, I don't get how women can say that shit. "


I can see using that as a form of "birth control". Not the whole forcing abortion thing, but threatening to kick you out on the streets if you get pregnant. Worked on me through all my teen years lol.
But I don't get how any mother could say something like that.

Destinite 1 child; 2 angel babies; Paradise, FL, United States 31323 posts
25th Sep '12
Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" "She would have a choice, abort or move out and live in the streets/foster care/kill herself. What do ... [snip!] ... care/kill herself. What do I care? She screwed up, the little fucktard!" Seriously, I don't get how women can say that shit. "


Anyone that doesn't care if their daughter kills herself isn't right in the head. :(

WindowSilAngel 19 kids; Monroe, GA, United States 7098 posts
25th Sep '12

I am pro life, but just have to get a point across about other pro lifers. Pro life people preach so much about the baby being a miracle, God's creation, etc. Which I wholeheartedly agree with... BUT... whenever a Christian family's daughter gets pregnant out of wedlock or as a teen...they are overly angry, unsupportive, kick them out of the house, alienate the mother and child, etc.... forcing them to seek outside help like government assistance, or...the girl ends up feeling like in order to be accepted into her family again, she must abort... defeating everything her parents stand for as pro life people. I can say this is pretty true not for EVERY pro life parent, but a large majority.



I also know this because I was in this position to a small degree. I got pregnant at 16, out of wedlock. I had a full time job and was home schooled. When they found out...they were furious...I was called all the names in the book, the father...my husband was called a pedophile(he's only years older than me...same spacing as my parents), and they told everyone in the church and in our family the same night they found out... which was really upsetting...because what if I had miscarried? I was only 6 weeks. It eventually got better, they got excited to have a new grandchild coming, DH was welcomed into our family, etc. And obviously now we're doing great.



But as you can see, there are hypocrites on both sides. A lot of pro choice people go overboard and start to think that every girl who is in a not so ideal situation MUST want an abortion....and pro life people tend to alienate and ridicule their own children when they become pregnant...yet... they want the person to keep the baby.



Just a little thought. Hope it made sense.

mjgonz Due December 17 (boy); Carlsbad, California 22 posts
25th Sep '12
Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" If I had gotten pregnant as a teenager, I know for a fact my parents would be there for me. I still ... [snip!] ... had a steady income. I didn't get pregnant till I was out of the house living on my own. Scare tactics are just mean, IMO. "

I do agree. I don't think I would do that with my own daughter.

mjgonz Due December 17 (boy); Carlsbad, California 22 posts
25th Sep '12
Quoting Destinite:" Anyone that doesn't care if their daughter kills herself isn't right in the head. :("


I didn't see that post, but it sounds like someone was trolling

mjgonz Due December 17 (boy); Carlsbad, California 22 posts
25th Sep '12
Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" I know one boy who had to apologize to his church for getting his GF pregnant. I think it's stupid. ... [snip!] ... I find the majority of pro-lifers to be hypocritical (and dumbasses) anyways, so that just adds to their fault, in my opinion. "

He shouldn't have to apologize. Anyone who gets a tattoo should have to apologize to the church to since it clearly states in the Bible that you aren't supposed to tattoo your body. Markings of any sort.

WindowSilAngel 19 kids; Monroe, GA, United States 7098 posts
25th Sep '12
Quoting mjgonz:" He shouldn't have to apologize. Anyone who gets a tattoo should have to apologize to the church to since ... [snip!] ... to the church to since it clearly states in the Bible that you aren't supposed to tattoo your body. Markings of any sort."


I have NEVER apologized for getting pregnant out of wedlock. My dad has mentioned a few times that his daughters(my sister and I) have never apologized for giving them a hard time. I never gave them a hard time, I was a working teen, I did my school work, I cleaned the house... but I had a boyfriend in secret(they were weird about me dating) and got pregnant with my wonderful daughter... I'll never apologize. Had they not been so weird about me liking guys, I wouldn't have been rebellious. DH even tried asking for permission to date me, he called a few times and when they found out he was four years older than me(and saw his picture), they told him no. But they let me date this other guy before him who was the SAME age, all because he looked like a little boy. That guy was weird, really mean, pressured me, forced me, was bi polar and a total schizo. DH pretty much rescued me from that guy.



I think, I hope... that if my parents could do it over again, they would have handled things differently. But I think they were both raised in a funky way that made them weird about sex, dating, the opposite sex..in general.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42775 posts
25th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting mjgonz:</b>" Lol if you're pro-choice, you can't FORCE your daughter to abort. Kind of being a hypocrite for being so pro-choice."</blockquote>




That's like saying you can't be pro-choice if you vaccinate.



Parents can make medical decisions for their CHILDREN and still support a WOMAN'S right to choose.

Destinite 1 child; 2 angel babies; Paradise, FL, United States 31323 posts
25th Sep '12
Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" "She fucked up her life... not my fault. She better pull her big girl panties up and if she cannot ... [snip!] ... kept her legs closed." Yeah, people are screwed up. I honestly think some women say this stuff on here to get rise out of us!"


I could never turn my back on my kid. Like ever. If he murdered a shit load of people, he'd still be my son & I'd still stand by him.
I guess, some people are capable of unconditional love & some people aren't.

I wouldn't be thrilled if my hypothetical daughter came home pregnant, but I'd get over it & do whatever she wanted. I would expect her to do most of the work, though.