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so why can't any therapist explain what's wrong? justamom3loves Due December 3; Japan 14 posts
24th Sep '12

Well my son is 14 and like things have gone pretty bizarre. I've got two daughters who are grown that I raised and weren't like this. They were both kids still. My oldest daughter was still pretty much a child and innocent. But since he was 10 he's been so different. He started cutting and drawing sexually violent pictures... He started backmouthing me. He's been hospitalized 3 times and takes medication. He never says much. Like he only says a few words here and there. But he won't talk in therapy I found his diary he kept years ago when he was 11 and it had pretty much descriptions of situations in writing or pictures of like rape. He's gotten in fights and brought a weapon to school...He's been caught shoplifting or just not coming home at all. He's out of control when I try to ground him he just smiles and flips me out or says f**k you b***h in a like cheerful voice with a smile. He's even said once he wished I got raped and murdered and that he could see a tape of it. He never really talks to the therapist. And he seemingly just won't listen or change no matter the years of proffessional help nothing works.. He just recently got an std and spread it throughout the school. He denies he's gay yet he has seemingly slept around with guys. He has had complaints at school for this and it's why I'm making him change schools.He mostly is though emotionless all i see is him with such a blank expression. its like he built up a wall against anyone connected to me. I don't have mental illness in my family at all. Also the few times he says anything in therapy. The therapist can only gather something negative about me or vulgar he says in general. Sometimes I feel he just does things to get a reaction. I'm fed up...

Tikaytasha 17 kids; New York 11503 posts
24th Sep '12

oh my god :( thats scary. I hope you get some answers soon

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 18508 posts
status 24th Sep '12

Sounds like someone needs boot camp!

Chibs 2 kids; Missouri 12147 posts
24th Sep '12

He needs professional help.he needs to be hospitalized until whatever issues he has is worked out.
I hope he gets better soon

Mama2B&M 19 kids; Clovis, California 293 posts
24th Sep '12

Im sorry, but to me it sounds like he is over sexualized. Maybe had some type of sexual abuse when he was younger, possibly by a male. Maybe a new doctor to have a fresh opinion on him.

MamaCass{+JOE} 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Pennsylvania 42360 posts
24th Sep '12

Sounds like he may have been sexually assualted at some point.



I'm sorry mama...I hope you get some answers, and he gets some help.

Gone 17 kids; Miami, FL, United States 15414 posts
24th Sep '12

Drawing pictures of rape that young would be a huge big red flag for me. I work with kids and use art therapy often with them and they often draw things that have happened to them, although I do work with younger children.

Gone 17 kids; Miami, FL, United States 15414 posts
24th Sep '12
Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:" Sounds like someone needs boot camp! "


Which could possibly be the worst thing to do if something happened to him

OGTattedmama2007 16 kids; Texas 32426 posts
24th Sep '12

Counseling paired with medication!!

And it definitely sounds like there might have been abuse, and if he had any kind of mental illness, that abuse could have aggravated it to make it as bad as it is now.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 18508 posts
status 24th Sep '12
Quoting Anthony's Mommy ♥:" Which could possibly be the worst thing to do if something happened to him"


Wouldn't a therapist rule that out though if it did happen?

✰ Mrs. B ✰ 2 kids; Texas 2640 posts
24th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:</b>" Wouldn't a therapist rule that out though if it did happen? "</blockquote>




I dunno since she says he pretty much won't talk to the therapist, ya know? So if he's not talking & opening up, I doubt he'd share info like that. Hope that makes sense.

Gone 17 kids; Miami, FL, United States 15414 posts
24th Sep '12
Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:" Wouldn't a therapist rule that out though if it did happen? "


No. Kids sometimes go through a couple therapists before they find one that they trust, or one that is doing their job, or one who knows what to look for.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 18508 posts
status 24th Sep '12
Quoting Anthony's Mommy ♥:" No. Kids sometimes go through a couple therapists before they find one that they trust, or one that is doing their job, or one who knows what to look for."


Ah.

✰ Mrs. B ✰ 2 kids; Texas 2640 posts
24th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Anthony's Mommy ♥:</b>" No. Kids sometimes go through a couple therapists before they find one that they trust, or one that is doing their job, or one who knows what to look for."</blockquote>



Oh, that's even more in depth & better points :)



OP, maybe try another therapist or counselor? Have him help pick one (or even a few to try) maybe?

Gone 17 kids; Miami, FL, United States 15414 posts
24th Sep '12
Quoting ✰ Mrs. B ✰:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Anthony's Mommy ♥:</b>" No. Kids sometimes go through ... [snip!] ... depth & better points :) OP, maybe try another therapist or counselor? Have him help pick one (or even a few to try) maybe?"


I'm a therapist :) I know there have been kids who won't talk to me but will talk to one of my co-workers or vice versa :)