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so stressed about court tomorrow stevies*mommy 2 kids; Washington 189 posts
25th Sep '12

i'm so stressed and anxious i feel sick... tomorrow they are gonna try to enter the parenting plan...there is one thing missing i want put in it was there before but ex's lawyer must have taken it out...i feel like the lawyers are rushing and my lawyer doesn't think it's a big that if it gets fixed its only one holiday...but it would give him DD for 5 days straight on thanksgiving and DD is breast fed so we have a 3 step plan to keep her visits under 24 hours until she is 1yr for this reason... they are also arguing over her last name and no matter what way it goes it's gonna cause a huge fight between me and ex. i am expecting we won't be going out of our way to accommodate each other anymore. if this doesn't get fixed he'll take her for the 5 days to get back at me for fighting the name change. i feel like 5 days will wean her :( i'm so nervous i feel like it they shouldn't be entering it yet...

taking a look at life Palm beach gardens, FL, United States 49034 posts
25th Sep '12

U can pump for these 5 days, also they most likely wont change her name my SO ex wife fought that but they told her she cold only go back to her old last name but the child would keep my SO last name.

snglemama 4 kids; Georgia 11958 posts
25th Sep '12

don't sign it.. you can make last minute changes. We did.. minutes before signing the paper.

stevies*mommy 2 kids; Washington 189 posts
25th Sep '12

okay i won't...and ex is trying to change her name not me.

stevies*mommy 2 kids; Washington 189 posts
25th Sep '12

will they just cross it out and change it or will they continue the court and redo all the papers?

taking a look at life Palm beach gardens, FL, United States 49034 posts
25th Sep '12
Quoting stevies*mommy:" will they just cross it out and change it or will they continue the court and redo all the papers?"


Oh here u got to medation and if that does not work then u go to court and the judge will decide.

snglemama 4 kids; Georgia 11958 posts
25th Sep '12
Quoting stevies*mommy:" will they just cross it out and change it or will they continue the court and redo all the papers?"



they cross it off... you both initial it.. and they send the paperwork through.

stevies*mommy 2 kids; Washington 189 posts
25th Sep '12

okay...i am almost certain he will give me the stipulation back...or just switch years. i'm so confused on how the name thing works... ex slipped it in the parenting plan on the final papers under other provisions that her name is to be changed to his or hyphenated on the end.

snglemama 4 kids; Georgia 11958 posts
25th Sep '12
Quoting stevies*mommy:" okay...i am almost certain he will give me the stipulation back...or just switch years. i'm so confused ... [snip!] ... the parenting plan on the final papers under other provisions that her name is to be changed to his or hyphenated on the end. "


if you don't want to sign.. tell them no unless it's fixed

stevies*mommy 2 kids; Washington 189 posts
25th Sep '12

i told them no i wouldn't sign anything saying i will change her name...but i wonder if the judge is gonna decide tomorrow or send us to mediation.

snglemama 4 kids; Georgia 11958 posts
25th Sep '12
Quoting stevies*mommy:" i told them no i wouldn't sign anything saying i will change her name...but i wonder if the judge is gonna decide tomorrow or send us to mediation."


if you haven't been to mediation yet.. the judge will usually send you.

we did mediation first... because we were told the judge always sends you.. so why pay for a day in court before mediation.. and again afterwards

taking a look at life Palm beach gardens, FL, United States 49034 posts
25th Sep '12
Quoting snglemama:" if you haven't been to mediation yet.. the judge will usually send you. we did mediation first... ... [snip!] ... because we were told the judge always sends you.. so why pay for a day in court before mediation.. and again afterwards"


here it was judge in a mediation room first time then mediation then a shard parenting class as in how to parent together when ur not together and then they went to court. yah stupid IMO.

stevies*mommy 2 kids; Washington 189 posts
25th Sep '12

that's what i don't get...why the lawyers are rushing to enter it... when we aren't agreeing to it.. we haven't been to mediation. we have agreed to everything else...the holiday thing we agreed to before and it was in the last one we almost agreed on until we decided to change a few things. it wasn't something that was supposed to be taken out. but this name thing is truly a deal breaker...i'm not signing the parenting plan with it in there and he won't sign it if it's not in there.

stevies*mommy 2 kids; Washington 189 posts
25th Sep '12
Quoting Click Me Click Me!!!:" here it was judge in a mediation room first time then mediation then a shard parenting class as in how to parent together when ur not together and then they went to court. yah stupid IMO."


we did the parenting class. we have been to court 4 times already and it has always been continued... because we are not ready yet. but this is the first time they want to try to enter papers even tho we don't agree on the name change.

snglemama 4 kids; Georgia 11958 posts
26th Sep '12

how did it go mama??