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Crazy one 3 kids; California 17049 posts
25th Sep '12
Quoting O ♥ G:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Crazy one:</b>" & you might say why didn't I seek help?.. ... [snip!] ... Gotcha, I understand now. I wasn't judging you. I thought you meant someone tried to force you at first."


I think it's hard for people to understand how dumb I was back then and how lost I felt.. good thing my siblings are smarter than me so they know they have options. I was dumb and scared because I used to get hit all the time and my dad tried to kill me in a car wreck before on purpose so I never fought back. Anytime I said I'd call the cops.. I'd really get my ass kicked then =/..

KissMeFinnNelson<3 1 child; 2 angel babies; Glasgow, Scotland, UK, United Kingdom 5389 posts
26th Sep '12

No not at all, I don't regret it and never have since the day it happened. I am someone who actually cannot believe how well I have dealt with the situation and I imagined it would haunt me forever. I'll try not to go into too much of a story or I will be here forever but it was just over 2 years ago now and I was 8 weeks and 6 days pregnant. I have never been against abortion but I never ever thought I would be in a position of having to consider it and I didn't think it's something I could cope with. My son was 3 years old at the time my Husband and I had literally no savings in the bank and we had just lost a considerable amount of our income so we were already in a horrible financial situation and that was the reason. We just couldn't afford it, not in a we would be down some money no we would have lost our home and everything and have been on the streets. I sat for days going through all our finances from morning to night, I screamed, I cried, I cancelled appointments, I wanted to figure out how we could do this, I desperately wanted this baby. The whole experience was horrific, I had the abortion pill but it it is different here you have to remain in the hospital from 9am to 5am sitting in a cold room with all diff females going through the same thing just sitting on recliner chairs you are allowed no one in with you so no support. I have no right to say this but I felt like I was having my child ripped away from me. I never thought I would ever get through it but from the minute it was all over I just moved forward. I don't really know how and it may sound strange but for me it's because I wanted my baby so much that I don't regret it. It's like I know if I could have I would have had my child in a second and my reasons were not selfish. I didn't take the decision lightly, I didn't think oh I just can't be bothered I have better things to do with my life no I done it because I needed to do what was best for my family and it was a selfless act. It would have been selfish for me to keep that baby and have my whole family on the streets and bring that baby into that life just because of my own wants so yes that is why I have no regrets and you shouldn't either. Just to add I have no issues with anyone having an abortion for any reason wether it be rape, financial or they just aren't ready I'm just sharing how I was able to cope and why I personally don't regret it. If it was the right choice for you at the time, if you were doing what was best for your family or just doing what was right for you then please don't regret it. I never believed women who could say 'I don't regret my abortion at all', I always thought they must have some but no I am one of them I don't regret it and I never have. Don't pay attention to those people, you will be ok.

supermommy☠ 49 kids; California 6967 posts
26th Sep '12

i had one almost a month ago, and its something i regret every single day :(
worst mistake i ever made.