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BMG 1 child; Kentucky 129 posts
30th Sep '12

I got dirty looks when I was pregnant. I even heard people make comments about me not being old enough to have a child and I was 25 when I was pregnant. I just think it is kind of sad when people judge like that. How do you know someone's life, their situation? I have known teen moms who turned out to be great parents and others, not so much. So I would have to say we are all moms regardless of age. Although I'm sure it is a lot harder the younger you are, it is hard at any age.

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
30th Sep '12

Semantics, semantics. Really, you are teen who happens to be a mom. Teen. Mom. Anything nineTEEN and younger is considered to be a Teen...mom...



I never understood these debates. Being a teen and an adult are not mutually exclusive.

user banned 2 kids; Indiana 12251 posts
30th Sep '12
Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" in the public hospital here they will not give a child under 15 her baby until she turns 18 unless she is legally married... her kid goes into foster care. "


that is amazing, actually. i think it should be like that everywhere.

Gir! 2 kids; Ohio 7504 posts
30th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Back to Noob Status:</b>" Semantics, semantics. Really, you are teen who happens to be a mom. Teen. Mom. Anything nineTEEN and ... [snip!] ... is considered to be a Teen...mom... I never understood these debates. Being a teen and an adult are not mutually exclusive."</blockquote>



It's not precisely all about meaning. It's simply personal opinions. This isn't philosophy lol
This isn't a debate about the meaning of the word "fuck" now and comparing it to the meaning it was in 1600. Yes, There is a very fine line between semantics and personal opinions

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18298 posts
30th Sep '12
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Gir! 2 kids; Ohio 7504 posts
30th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:</b>" Meeehhhhh. The American foster system is fucked so hard. So many kids get treated like complete dirt ... [snip!] ... sexually abused. While I don't agree with kids under 17 parenting, I would never wish them into a foster home in America."</blockquote>




I wish they would take the check out of the equation and just give them food and whatever else they need. Kids would be better off with their blood relatives; more likely to have a secure life no matter the mothers age, in comparison to shit like that.

Bangtail 50 kids; Katy, Texas 7752 posts
30th Sep '12
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Gir! 2 kids; Ohio 7504 posts
30th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Bangtail:</b>" Way to bring us back to the 50's."</blockquote>




:!: it was a very ignorant and cold comment

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 18186 posts
30th Sep '12
Quoting Gir!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:</b>" Meeehhhhh. The American foster ... [snip!] ... off with their blood relatives; more likely to have a secure life no matter the mothers age, in comparison to shit like that."


I agree. I do believe there should be wellness checks once in a while to make sure baby is getting everything they need, etc. However, I am glad nobody took me away from my mother. She was only 16, but my grandmother gave her plenty of support and I had an awesome childhood. I couldnt imagine if I didnt have them in my life because of a stupid law like that and having to live with a random family just because they are over the age of 18.

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44071 posts
30th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:</b>" in the public hospital here they will not give a child under 15 her baby until she turns 18 unless she is legally married... her kid goes into foster care. "</blockquote>



Not even her parents can take it?

Crazyhazel89 1 child; Erie, Pennsylvania 3994 posts
30th Sep '12
Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:</b>" in the public hospital here they will ... [snip!] ... 18 unless she is legally married... her kid goes into foster care. "</blockquote> Not even her parents can take it?"


I was wondering the same thing....im sure they could....that would just be ridiculous if they couldn't

Layla-and-Faith 2 kids; Nova Scotia 656 posts
30th Sep '12

What? lol.. you make it sound like being a "teen mom" is something to be proud of lol. I think anything under 19 is considered a teen mom. I don't understand why people need to label themselves as being a certain kind of mom, I just call myself "mom" and that's all that's to it. I was 21 when my first was born, I feel it was a good age as I want to be "done" before 30 :)

......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
30th Sep '12
Quoting Gir!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:</b>" Meeehhhhh. The American foster ... [snip!] ... off with their blood relatives; more likely to have a secure life no matter the mothers age, in comparison to shit like that."


How would they be able to provide for them then? Like as far as their portion of utilities and such? And fun activities, clothes, trips, etc.? Everything that a family would normally do costs more when you have extra kids.
We're relative foster parents and without the per diem, we wouldn't be able to keep them. I'm VERY grateful for it b/c I don't want them going to a stranger.

......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
30th Sep '12
Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:" I agree. I do believe there should be wellness checks once in a while to make sure baby is getting everything ... [snip!] ... in my life because of a stupid law like that and having to live with a random family just because they are over the age of 18. "


They do check in with us once a month here. Plus, there's therapy once a week and every few weeks, a child advocate comes over.
I'm not sure they do that everywhere, but they should.

Gir! 2 kids; Ohio 7504 posts
30th Sep '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~Ice Princess~:</b>" How would they be able to provide for them then? Like as far as their portion of utilities and such? ... [snip!] ... without the per diem, we wouldn't be able to keep them. I'm VERY grateful for it b/c I don't want them going to a stranger. "</blockquote>




There are many many families that are fortunate enough to bare the burden of those extra babies and have the ability to do so. So what you are saying is that you'd support a movement to take away babies from those young parents who are either willing and perfectly able to support their babies OR whose families can support the child? There absolutely are many teenagers, and even full grown adults, who shouldn't have the chance to have children and their children MIGHT have been lucky enough to go to a GOOD foster home. However, it would be silly to rip away every baby born to a teen younger than 18 simply because of their age. It's better to do that case by case.



*i'm not trying to dog you btw. I'm just trying to get a better idea of what you are saying about this. There are horror stories like my oldest brothers' story. There are good ones, too. But there is no such thing as one size fits all. Society will never be able to fix it all with one solution