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Bently'sMommy♥ 1 child; Batavia, IA, United States 106 posts
1st Oct '12

The truth hurts. but he deserves to know. what you did was wrong and selfish and i don't have to be married to know it. if you're unhappy, leave. don't go behind his back. you're suppose to be able to trust the person you marry. like i said if you're unhappy leave. cheating is wrong. no matter the reasoning.

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
4th Oct '12

Just an update. I talked to my husband and we decided to separate, but stay married for a few reasons. The two main ones being his BAH and my health insurance. We are still going to live with eachother until I find another place and we will be doing joint custody so I can have some time alone.

I spoke with my therapist a few times the past couple days and have had a realization. I might not be marriage material. I may be mistress material. She had me write down (with no names) the past relationships I have been in. As I stated before, my husband was the only person even close to my age that I have seen. I have slept with, including X, 3 married men that are twice my age. The rest were un-married, but also almost twice my age.

I like older men. I am attracted to 50 year old men in positions of power. It's my type. I like being the subordinate in a relationship and I like the sneaking around. I like being bought gifts and being persued. I like that either of us could break it off with no regrets.

I like the thrill and adrenaline of doing something you aren't supposed to do: sleeping with married men, having sex in semi-public, persuing an affair, being with someone who is seemingly unavailable.

X and I have talked on the phone a few times since that night. We are going to continue how we are. We are going out this weekend in another town where no one knows either of us. He bought plane tickets so we can go on vacation next month. Separate flights so that no one knows.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 18075 posts
status 4th Oct '12
Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" It's good that you were honest. Hope you two can stay civil for the kids. Just be careful and try ... [snip!] ... to be hurt by your and your "sugar daddies'" actions. (Sorry, I couldn't think of a better word, so I went with sugar daddy!""


This.



Don't be surprised when one of those women find out and track you down. It won't be a pretty site.

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18298 posts
4th Oct '12
Quoting BG Secrets:" Just an update. I talked to my husband and we decided to separate, but stay married for a few reasons. ... [snip!] ... no one knows either of us. He bought plane tickets so we can go on vacation next month. Separate flights so that no one knows."


:?
I'm glad you were honest with your husband... But really? You can't find a thrill any other way?
How shitty for those women.

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
4th Oct '12
Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:" :? I'm glad you were honest with your husband... But really? You can't find a thrill any other way? How shitty for those women."


I do get thrills other ways. I sky dive, free climb (rock climbing without ropes), bareback ride, bungee jump, and I have travelled to one of the most dangerous countries for single women. I'm an adrenaline junkie and having an affair is an adrenaline producing situation.

I'm not going to make excuses for my behavior, but I don't see myself changing any time soon. Maybe I'll finally settle down when I hit 40 and my looks start to fade.

Kiss Kiss Bang Bang 2 kids; Toronto, Ontario 1984 posts
4th Oct '12
Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:" :? I'm glad you were honest with your husband... But really? You can't find a thrill any other way? How shitty for those women."


sooo sooo shitty for those women :cry:
I don't know whats worse, that her husband is a pos cheater or that his mistress gets a thrill out of her hurt.

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
4th Oct '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jessy Ann:</b>" sooo sooo shitty for those women :cry: I don't know whats worse, that her husband is a pos cheater or that his mistress gets a thrill out of her hurt."</blockquote>




Who said I get a thrill out of her hurt? The thrill comes from the risk of getting caught. X also moved out before I slept with him.

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
4th Oct '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Just Ames:</b>" Why does looks start to fade at 40 :lol: Anyway, if you are knowingly sleeping with married men, well ... [snip!] ... when people are rotten to the core they will one day pay for their lifetime of bad decisions. You'll likely end up all alone. "</blockquote>




I'm fine with being alone. I'm happiest when I'm by myself or with just my animals.



And, 40 was just an arbitrary number I threw out there.

user banned (boy); 2 kids; Fucking, Austria 36337 posts
4th Oct '12
Quoting BG Secrets:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Just Ames:</b>" Why does looks start to fade at 40 :lol: Anyway, ... [snip!] ... being alone. I'm happiest when I'm by myself or with just my animals. And, 40 was just an arbitrary number I threw out there."

you have a child/children?

user banned (boy); 2 kids; Fucking, Austria 36337 posts
4th Oct '12
Quoting Just Ames:" Seems she has one child. "

Oh okay I thought that's what I read before, but wasn't sure. The way she talks it's like she is single with no kids. :/

Kiss Kiss Bang Bang 2 kids; Toronto, Ontario 1984 posts
4th Oct '12
Quoting BG Secrets:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jessy Ann:</b>" sooo sooo shitty for those women :cry: I don't ... [snip!] ... I get a thrill out of her hurt? The thrill comes from the risk of getting caught. X also moved out before I slept with him."

The risk of getting caught by a hurt/upset/angry/devastated wife?
I'm in no way judging you btw, but all I could think about is the pain being caused to those wives. But it's not your fault, it's the husbands that can't say NO and be faithful. If it's not you, then it will be some other woman anyways.

Bently'sMommy♥ 1 child; Batavia, IA, United States 106 posts
4th Oct '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting BG Secrets:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jessy Ann:</b>" sooo sooo shitty for those women :cry: I don't ... [snip!] ... I get a thrill out of her hurt? The thrill comes from the risk of getting caught. X also moved out before I slept with him."</blockquote>




It must not bother you too bad if messing with married men makes you feel good.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 18075 posts
status 4th Oct '12
Quoting Just Ames:" Yeah.....I've noticed."


Well, now she is broken up with her DH, she is splitting custody of her kids 50/50 ((I think thats what she said)) so I guess she is becoming closer to her goal. :/

Petra and Toria TTC since Apr 2012; 1 child; South Gate, California 3381 posts
4th Oct '12

WHY DO YOU GUYS CARE!?
as long as she isnt stealing your man, why does it bother you guys?
sometimes you can control your emotions/ feelings. Heck, if i were in her position i wouldnt feel THAT bad either. If my man didnt show me affection I would most likely do the same thing. Of course telling the truth is always better. But, you become so accustomed to a certain lifestyle or person that you do not want to jeopardize it at the moment. Something that is prohibited always intrigues people.

user banned (boy); 2 kids; Fucking, Austria 36337 posts
4th Oct '12
Quoting Petra and Toria:" WHY DO YOU GUYS CARE!? as long as she isnt stealing your man, why does it bother you guys? sometimes ... [snip!] ... lifestyle or person that you do not want to jeopardize it at the moment. Something that is prohibited always intrigues people."

Umm, I don't give a fuck, first off. and OP doesn't seem like she does either.