Cast Your Vote:

    • Midwife who has had children is better -- Votes: 10
    • No, both are the same -- Votes: 8
....................... Dr. Elliot Reid ; 1 child; New Zealand 8933 posts
status 1st Oct '12
user banned (boy); 2 kids; Fucking, Austria 36337 posts
1st Oct '12

I think it depends on how many births they have attended and nothing to do with if they had children..

LumpySpacePrincess 2 kids; New Zealand 17060 posts
1st Oct '12

I think that a midwife who has a better chance of having empathy for the women in labour... BUT it is completely dependant on the midwife his/herself. Some midwives have attended 100+ births but they are still uppity b***hes (from experience, my sisters midwife was a total cow that said no one but her knew what they were doing, not even the mother) and some women/men just fit into the role perfectly.

user banned 3 kids; Ontario 10942 posts
1st Oct '12

Nothing to do with having kids.

My first midwife was.21 no kids and amazing. My second one was older had kids and.a bitchy b***h lol and I thought she lacked the skills my.first one had....who happened to be her assistant when she first started out but was better imo

Dr. Elliot Reid ; 1 child; New Zealand 8933 posts
status 1st Oct '12

I just ask because we were watching something the other day where a midwife was having her first baby and SO goes "ok so now she can be a real midwife" lol, thats male mentality for ya.

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
1st Oct '12

Nope. Having kids doesn't automatically make one an expert on labor and delivery and childcare.

hobbit* 3 kids; New Zealand 44783 posts
2nd Oct '12

One born every minute?
I think a midwife who has children can be more understanding than one who hasn't. They know what it's like. But at the end of the day it's the qualification and personality that makes a good midwife.
I've had 2 different midwives and they've both had children and were wonderful, my last Mw I had was working with a 3rd student when I had aura. I don't know if she had children or not, I don't think so, but she was lovely as well. You need to have the right personality to be a midwife I think because its such a HUGE job.

Emmybean 1 child; Plymouth, United Kingdom 1649 posts
2nd Oct '12

Oh god women who have had children are generally far more unsympathetic than those with no children! But in saying this midwives who have children know when to tell you to stfu and get on with it - even though you probably don't want to hear that but she is generally right.

Anja[VBA2C GRADx2!] 5 kids; Illinois 3576 posts
2nd Oct '12

I would say it is no different. Mostly because if they've experienced enough births, it really is no different. My midwife is old and near retirement (Like hopefully once I have my next one I won't have more since she plans to retire sometime after next year) and she has kids, but I think her experience in general with delivering babies matters more. She has a wonderful assistant (well more than one midwife working with her and like 2-3 assistants but I like one in particular lol) who's in school to be a midwife and will be taking it over for her when she retires who does not have any kids and probably won't for a while, but I feel she's also extremely compassionate and helpful so I think she'll do fine.