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Tash+1 1 child; Canton, Ohio 7839 posts
2nd Oct '12
Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:" So you wouldnt consider your future step child family? "


UNLESS THEY WERE MARRIED. If they are STEP CHILDREN, then they would be MARRIED, so they would be family :roll:

Mommy2Kay Due April 20; 1 child; Florida 4235 posts
2nd Oct '12
Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" YEah, I'm typing slow today,.... I did read it after I posted my last post. Well, OP has to decide ... [snip!] ... a relationship with his kid, though, he needs to pay CS and have freedom to take pictures. If not, don't let the kid go..... "


He doesn't pay child support. I took him off when he owed $20,000 because he promised to pay once he had a job that was offered to him but that he need his license. it was good for a few weeks and it ended quickly.

♥Mj&Daryl♥ (boy); 2 kids; Spokane, Washington 2392 posts
2nd Oct '12
Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:" ! This. I would also be happy that she loved my son enough to include him a family picture of them. ... [snip!] ... his life right now and she is obviously fond of him. Would you rather have that or a woman that wants nothing to do with him? "

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Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 17656 posts
status 2nd Oct '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" I agree. I would never take family pictures with just a boyfriend. Especially one that I have only been ... [snip!] ... one that I have only been with for a year. And you say your BD cheats on her? Their relationship is a joke, they aren't family."


Again, that isnt any of your business how their relationship is.

drunk faith1 1 child; Alabama 10081 posts
2nd Oct '12
Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:" Because he doesnt do shit for HER son. He may have fathered him, but he ISNT a father figure unless its convenient for HIM."

Couldn't have said it better. Some people don't seem to understand that just because you helped create the kid doesn't mean you're a real father/mother.

Grniz 2 kids; Illinois 45669 posts
2nd Oct '12
Quoting FaithLovesBaby:" Couldn't have said it better. Some people don't seem to understand that just because you helped create the kid doesn't mean you're a real father/mother."


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Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 17656 posts
status 2nd Oct '12
Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:" UNLESS THEY WERE MARRIED. If they are STEP CHILDREN, then they would be MARRIED, so they would be family :roll:"


I said future step children...even if they didnt get married. You don't have to be married to be a family.



If I were to date anyone, they better be treating my child like their own. Married or not.

JΔS Georgia 75254 posts
status 2nd Oct '12
Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" YEah, I'm typing slow today,.... I did read it after I posted my last post. Well, OP has to decide ... [snip!] ... a relationship with his kid, though, he needs to pay CS and have freedom to take pictures. If not, don't let the kid go..... "


She got sole custody for a reason and he has no visitation. Court order or not, he cannot be walking in and out of this kid's life. That is psychologically damaging and its not right. If he wants to be in his child's life, permanently, he needs to prove it to OP and her son. OP is the mother here and whether you or anyone else agree, she rightfully has the upper hand.

JΔS Georgia 75254 posts
status 2nd Oct '12
Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:" Again, that isnt any of your business how their relationship is. "


You think someone who cheats on their girlfriend constantly is an actual serious relationship, one that she should be considered family? You are a nut.

Tash+1 1 child; Canton, Ohio 7839 posts
2nd Oct '12
Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:" I said future step children...even if they didnt get married. You don't have to be married to be a family. ... [snip!] ... to be married to be a family. If I were to date anyone, they better be treating my child like their own. Married or not. "


They wouldnt be step children unles she married the guy for one.
And for too, yes you can be a family w/o being married, but cheating on your GF and having been together only a year does not a family make.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 17656 posts
status 2nd Oct '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" You think someone who cheats on their girlfriend constantly is an actual serious relationship, one that she should be considered family? You are a nut."


It doesnt matter if he cheats. If they want to be together, it is none of the mother of child's business what they consider their family.



Also, I don't know why you have to constantly throw in a name, but it makes you look severely juvenile.

JΔS Georgia 75254 posts
status 2nd Oct '12
Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" She shouldn't let the kid even go to visit him since he obviously doesn't want to be a dad except for ... [snip!] ... she should give him some freedoms (I'm not saying take the kid to China on vacation or anything).... it's just an opinion. "


It seems like she's trying to give her douchebag BD a chance. If she didn't let him see him, you all would still have something smart to say. So either way, it wouldn't matter. He has proven that he's a shit father so nope. If he wants to do something that involves their son, he needs to run it by her first.

JΔS Georgia 75254 posts
status 2nd Oct '12
Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:" It doesnt matter if he cheats. If they want to be together, it is none of the mother of child's business ... [snip!] ... their family. Also, I don't know why you have to constantly throw in a name, but it makes you look severely juvenile. "


You're one to talk. Really.



and your brain must be mooshier than usual today because I don't see how anyone could think that a dysfunctional 1 year relationship could make someone family and a MOTHER FIGURE to someone's son.

Mommy2Kay Due April 20; 1 child; Florida 4235 posts
2nd Oct '12
Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:" So you wouldnt consider your future step child family? "


Of course, I just wouldn't want to disrespect the child's mother if we weren't married. BD and I took pics with our son but we didn't include his other son because his mom didn't want to. Idk why he doesn't think it would be the same now.

user banned 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4666 posts
2nd Oct '12

My SO and i have been together for a year and a half. He had his cheating phase in the beginning but we got past that and my daughter calls him dad bc hes the only father figure that she knows. I consider us a family, we arent married and have a child on the way in December. His bm on the other hand tells ppl hes a bad dad and puts me before his kids and he doesnt do anything which is far from the truth. BMs stretch the truth a lot when its not something they want done. Ive experienced this first hand.