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Mommy2Kay Due April 20; 1 child; Florida 4303 posts
Oct 2nd '12
Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" I'm curious, could this girl be the one setting him straight? I mean, if you ask a lot of BG moms they'll tell you that if their SOs had kids they would make sure they paid/visited/stepped-up/etc. "


I doubt it, he has actually gotten worse in his personal life. He has bought him clothes but it has only happen a few times (I can count with one hand). Everything is always a roller coaster with him, he is bipolar.

Mommy2Kay Due April 20; 1 child; Florida 4303 posts
Oct 2nd '12
Quoting FroggysMommy:" I don't think someone needs to be married or have kids to be a family. I take pictures with my SO's ... [snip!] ... We are a family though. I'd laugh at Wesley's mom if she got pissed about a picture... seriously, it's a freaking picture."


Regular pics aren't really a big deal to me, profession "family" pictures are. These pictures are hung up on the wall in his mom's house, it's a tradition. Since, it means so much and he has yet to prove that things are different with her, I will keep putting my foot down.

Bad Things Blacksburg, SC, United States 21224 posts
Oct 2nd '12
Quoting Mommy2Kay:" Regular pics aren't really a big deal to me, profession "family" pictures are. These pictures are hung ... [snip!] ... Since, it means so much and he has yet to prove that things are different with her, I will keep putting my foot down. "


Are you mad because she is in the picture, or mad that you arent?

user banned 1 child; Golden, Colorado 28482 posts
Oct 2nd '12
Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:" Are you mad because she is in the picture, or mad that you arent?"


That's what I'm thinking.... that the answer is the latter.

Mommy2Kay Due April 20; 1 child; Florida 4303 posts
Oct 2nd '12
Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:" Are you mad because she is in the picture, or mad that you arent?"


I'm mad at her being in the picture. I'm disgusted that he would do this knowing I wouldn't agree and find it disrespectful.

Bad Things Blacksburg, SC, United States 21224 posts
Oct 2nd '12
Quoting Mommy2Kay:" I'm mad at her being in the picture. I'm disgusted that he would do this knowing I wouldn't agree and find it disrespectful."


So..just wondering...when would she be able to take professional pictures with your LO included?

Mommy2Kay Due April 20; 1 child; Florida 4303 posts
Oct 2nd '12
Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:" So..just wondering...when would she be able to take professional pictures with your LO included? "


When they married or have a child together. I think that if I get married or I am having a child with someone else I would want my son included, before that there is no need.

Bad Things Blacksburg, SC, United States 21224 posts
Oct 2nd '12
Quoting Mommy2Kay:" When they married or have a child together. I think that if I get married or I am having a child with someone else I would want my son included, before that there is no need."


So she can only love your child as family if she gets knocked up or get married?

Mommy2Kay Due April 20; 1 child; Florida 4303 posts
Oct 2nd '12
Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:" So she can only love your child as family if she gets knocked up or get married? "


Did you not get that they don't have a relationship? We live in FL, they live in NY. My son barely knows her, she is not family to him. My BD's other son called me Titi (aunt) and was VERY attached to me, we still didn't include him in our family pics...BD should know better.

Bad Things Blacksburg, SC, United States 21224 posts
Oct 2nd '12
Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" I think what everyone is trying to say is that you are going to have your family and your BD is going ... [snip!] ... to have his.... You don't have to (by the court) send your LO to BD, but if you do, then you have to let him have his family. "


! This.



..and that is pretty sad for that other little boy you wouldnt allow in your family pictures. :(



Whether you like it or not, that is the woman that plays mommy to him when he visits. Taking a family picture or not isnt going to change that. You should be happy she is so accepting of him, even though you wouldnt the other way around.

Mommy2Kay Due April 20; 1 child; Florida 4303 posts
Oct 2nd '12
Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" I think what everyone is trying to say is that you are going to have your family and your BD is going ... [snip!] ... to have his.... You don't have to (by the court) send your LO to BD, but if you do, then you have to let him have his family. "


And what I am trying to say is that, if he wants to spend time with his son, he needs to respect my wishes. I don't tell him where to go or ask him what he is doing with him and I think that is all the freedom he needs. I also wanted to me the girl before my son met her but he never made it happen and I just let it go. I respect his wishes too, I let him know about all the extra curricular activities that I put DS in and if he doesn't like it, he won't do it. I don't have to do all that, he needs to appreciate it or take me to court and start paying child support, it's that simple.

Mommy2Kay Due April 20; 1 child; Florida 4303 posts
Oct 2nd '12
Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:" ! This. ..and that is pretty sad for that other little boy you wouldnt allow in your family pictures. ... [snip!] ... not isnt going to change that. You should be happy she is so accepting of him, even though you wouldnt the other way around. "


I don't think you have read everything I said, his other son is not hers and he wasn't in the pics because his other BM didn't want him to be in them.

Bad Things Blacksburg, SC, United States 21224 posts
Oct 2nd '12
Quoting Mommy2Kay:" I don't think you have read everything I said, his other son is not hers and he wasn't in the pics because his other BM didn't want him to be in them."


Damn, sounds like he picks the insecure ones, eh?

sweetbea Z&D my loves 1 child; Houston, Texas 3252 posts
Oct 2nd '12

I am sorry but I have to agree with the others I know I am late but um yeah its just pictures,me and my SO aren't married and if we decide to take pictures with his kids its our house our rules. It sounds like he wants her to be in his life whether they have been together 6 months or a year.

user banned 1 child; Golden, Colorado 28482 posts
Oct 2nd '12
Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:" Damn, sounds like he picks the insecure ones, eh?"


This, right? Seriously, it's a f**king picture. Im sorry but I think it's asinine to only want to allow pictures if they are married or have a kid. Seriously... asinine as f**k.