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Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 17288 posts
2nd Oct '12
Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:" They wouldnt be step children unles she married the guy for one. And for too, yes you can be a family ... [snip!] ... you can be a family w/o being married, but cheating on your GF and having been together only a year does not a family make. "


Family by definition is a fundamental social group in society typically consisting of one or two parents and their children.



Your idea of a family differs with how someone else sees it. It is not up to the ex to say whether their family is legit.

Tash+1 1 child; Canton, Ohio 7839 posts
2nd Oct '12
Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:" Family by definition is a fundamental social group in society typically consisting of one or two parents ... [snip!] ... Your idea of a family differs with how someone else sees it. It is not up to the ex to say whether their family is legit. "


Two parents and their CHILDREN. They have NO children together, and from the sounds of it, she has no kids, so she isnt a parent. SO in your view, they arent a family either.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 17288 posts
2nd Oct '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" You're one to talk. Really. and your brain must be mooshier than usual today because I don't see how ... [snip!] ... how anyone could think that a dysfunctional 1 year relationship could make someone family and a MOTHER FIGURE to someone's son."


It's not up to anyone to decide whether their relationship has issues or not. It is just a picture. It isnt going up in YOUR house.

user banned 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4666 posts
2nd Oct '12

His "kids" have spent the night at my house. I have fed them. Treated them as my own and braided his daughters hair a couple times. I loved his kids but then the BM got mad and told my SOs mother i threatened the kids and how i didnt like them and they stopped being able to come around me.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 17288 posts
2nd Oct '12
Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:" Two parents and their CHILDREN. They have NO children together, and from the sounds of it, she has no kids, so she isnt a parent. SO in your view, they arent a family either."


one or two parents....



When that little boy is staying over with him, that is his family. He also must be fond of his current girlfriend, or he wouldnt want to spend money getting pictures and including her in them. They work together in the same household, problems or not.

Mommy2Kay Due April 20; 1 child; Florida 4230 posts
2nd Oct '12
Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" Why do you let your kid go? I think no dad would be better than that a*****e."


Honestly because my son wants to see him. He came last week for about a week and only saw him once. We went shopping and my son was crying when he walked away to look for clothes for himself. My son misses him and since we live in a different state I guess now, he will think his dad is not always around because h lives far instead of because he is an ass.

JΔS Georgia 74551 posts
2nd Oct '12
Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:" It's not up to anyone to decide whether their relationship has issues or not. It is just a picture. It isnt going up in YOUR house. "


Its not up for you to decide a lot of shit but you still throw your uneducated opinion on it. Pot, meet kettle.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 17288 posts
2nd Oct '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" Its not up for you to decide a lot of shit but you still throw your uneducated opinion on it. Pot, meet kettle."


...okay. :roll:

Mommy2Kay Due April 20; 1 child; Florida 4230 posts
2nd Oct '12
Quoting proudlypreggers:" My SO and i have been together for a year and a half. He had his cheating phase in the beginning but ... [snip!] ... is far from the truth. BMs stretch the truth a lot when its not something they want done. Ive experienced this first hand. "


I have to disagree with you. I haven't even said everything about my D here. I have done nothing but try to make him be there for his son. I do know for a fact, that men pretend to be amazing dads but they just talk shit about their BMs to make themselves look good to their gfs. My BD used to tell me his BM was horrible and a liar and didn't let him see his kid and turns out he was a cheating, abusive man that didn't care for his child, I had to find this out first hand by him cheating on me multiple times, hitting me and not being there for his child.

Mommy2Kay Due April 20; 1 child; Florida 4230 posts
2nd Oct '12
Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:" It's not up to anyone to decide whether their relationship has issues or not. It is just a picture. It isnt going up in YOUR house. "


And I actually much rather come to my house than go behind my back to get "family pics"

user banned 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4666 posts
2nd Oct '12
Quoting Mommy2Kay:" I have to disagree with you. I haven't even said everything about my D here. I have done nothing but ... [snip!] ... child, I had to find this out first hand by him cheating on me multiple times, hitting me and not being there for his child."


I agree that some men are like this but not all. At the time my SOs bm wanted him back and was tryna get rid of me. She is actually who he cheated with and i guess when she realized we werent breaking up she didnt want the kids around me anymore so she made up lies about me. Not saying this is true in your case. Trust me ive been there with trying to make a my bd be there and he wouldnt but i know some bms stretch the truth sometimes. I am sorry you had to go through this after reading what you wrote.

Mommy2Kay Due April 20; 1 child; Florida 4230 posts
2nd Oct '12
Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" I'm honestly sorry you have to deal with that. "


thank you! It really sucks so I'm really just trying to make the best out of this situation but when he goes ahead doing things that can make things worse.

Mommy2Kay Due April 20; 1 child; Florida 4230 posts
2nd Oct '12
Quoting proudlypreggers:" I agree that some men are like this but not all. At the time my SOs bm wanted him back and was tryna ... [snip!] ... he wouldnt but i know some bms stretch the truth sometimes. I am sorry you had to go through this after reading what you wrote."


Thanks, there will always be people that stretch the truth but not everyone is like that. I don't blame the girl because she is probably very innocent to all of this and he is probably just doing this to gas her up and make her think their relationship is good. I have known BD for way too long and this is just typical of him. I just wish things were different...idk if that will ever happen.

user banned 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4666 posts
2nd Oct '12
Quoting Mommy2Kay:" Thanks, there will always be people that stretch the truth but not everyone is like that. I don't blame ... [snip!] ... known BD for way too long and this is just typical of him. I just wish things were different...idk if that will ever happen."


Me too but some "men" arent meant to be fathers. Lucky for me someone else actually stepped up and is dad to her now. I hope things get better for you and your LO

Mommy2Kay Due April 20; 1 child; Florida 4230 posts
2nd Oct '12
Quoting proudlypreggers:" Me too but some "men" arent meant to be fathers. Lucky for me someone else actually stepped up and is dad to her now. I hope things get better for you and your LO"


Thank you.