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Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 18494 posts
status 2nd Oct '12
Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" I think what everyone is trying to say is that you are going to have your family and your BD is going ... [snip!] ... to have his.... You don't have to (by the court) send your LO to BD, but if you do, then you have to let him have his family. "


! This.



..and that is pretty sad for that other little boy you wouldnt allow in your family pictures. :(



Whether you like it or not, that is the woman that plays mommy to him when he visits. Taking a family picture or not isnt going to change that. You should be happy she is so accepting of him, even though you wouldnt the other way around.

Mommy2Kay Due April 20; 1 child; Florida 4247 posts
2nd Oct '12
Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" I think what everyone is trying to say is that you are going to have your family and your BD is going ... [snip!] ... to have his.... You don't have to (by the court) send your LO to BD, but if you do, then you have to let him have his family. "


And what I am trying to say is that, if he wants to spend time with his son, he needs to respect my wishes. I don't tell him where to go or ask him what he is doing with him and I think that is all the freedom he needs. I also wanted to me the girl before my son met her but he never made it happen and I just let it go. I respect his wishes too, I let him know about all the extra curricular activities that I put DS in and if he doesn't like it, he won't do it. I don't have to do all that, he needs to appreciate it or take me to court and start paying child support, it's that simple.

Mommy2Kay Due April 20; 1 child; Florida 4247 posts
2nd Oct '12
Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:" ! This. ..and that is pretty sad for that other little boy you wouldnt allow in your family pictures. ... [snip!] ... not isnt going to change that. You should be happy she is so accepting of him, even though you wouldnt the other way around. "


I don't think you have read everything I said, his other son is not hers and he wasn't in the pics because his other BM didn't want him to be in them.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 18494 posts
status 2nd Oct '12
Quoting Mommy2Kay:" I don't think you have read everything I said, his other son is not hers and he wasn't in the pics because his other BM didn't want him to be in them."


Damn, sounds like he picks the insecure ones, eh?

sweetbea Z&D my loves 1 child; Houston, Texas 3252 posts
2nd Oct '12

I am sorry but I have to agree with the others I know I am late but um yeah its just pictures,me and my SO aren't married and if we decide to take pictures with his kids its our house our rules. It sounds like he wants her to be in his life whether they have been together 6 months or a year.

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 27791 posts
2nd Oct '12
Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:" Damn, sounds like he picks the insecure ones, eh?"


This, right? Seriously, it's a fucking picture. Im sorry but I think it's asinine to only want to allow pictures if they are married or have a kid. Seriously... asinine as fuck.

3plus1 Due October 20 (boy); 3 kids; Suisun City, California 255 posts
3rd Oct '12

Girl i.feel you i wish my bd would.hve some family pics with his gf and my kids ha hell na...idk what i would do how i would handle that.