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♥♬♡ 2 kids; Pennsylvania 10385 posts
3rd Oct '12
Quoting Just Ames:" That's what I was thinking. I mean, my Son prefers his Mommy for a lot of stuff but he also knows Daddy is quite capable of caring for him or comforting him the way I do. "

He would do it if I asked him too with out a doubt. But I like to do it, I am just as attached to her as she is to me.

The Icebox {MBRD} 17 kids; New Mexico 18558 posts
3rd Oct '12
Quoting Lil princess and Bambino:" No, I prefer to do it. I like to do it..and a lot of the times he comes home from work, spends time with us, and while im putting her to bed he has other clients computers to work on."


Still, did it not ever cross your mind that child was solely dependent upon you? What were you planning on doing for kindergarten?

♥♬♡ 2 kids; Pennsylvania 10385 posts
3rd Oct '12
Quoting The Icebox {MBRD}:" Still, did it not ever cross your mind that child was solely dependent upon you? What were you planning on doing for kindergarten?"


She will be fine going to kindergarten, she loves interacting with other children and learning..she probably won't even notice I am gone.
I came here to ask what other moms did in this situation, and you pretty much turned this around on my parenting.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
3rd Oct '12
Quoting Lil princess and Bambino:" I am a SAHM of an almost 3 year old. I can count on one hand how many times she has had a sitter, so ... [snip!] ... a similar situation get through this? how did it turn out? what things did you do to make it better?? she will be home with SO."


My 14 month old stayed with her grandparents while I had the other baby, then stayed at home with her father. She did fine.



Kids adapt better than us parents IMO.

The Icebox {MBRD} 17 kids; New Mexico 18558 posts
3rd Oct '12
Quoting Lil princess and Bambino:" She will be fine going to kindergarten, she loves interacting with other children and learning..she ... [snip!] ... I am gone. I came here to ask what other moms did in this situation, and you pretty much turned this around on my parenting."


And I'm sure she'll be fine while you're gone. I just can't imagine raising a child like that, jmo, I'm allowed to share it. *shrug* I'm always a huge advocate for the mom to at least have a part time job out of the house. Being that attached can't be healthy for mom or baby... independence, ftw!

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
3rd Oct '12
Quoting The Icebox {MBRD}:" And I'm sure she'll be fine while you're gone. I just can't imagine raising a child like that, jmo, ... [snip!] ... to at least have a part time job out of the house. Being that attached can't be healthy for mom or baby... independence, ftw!"


children of SAHM's can be just as independent.

♥♬♡ 2 kids; Pennsylvania 10385 posts
3rd Oct '12
Quoting The Icebox {MBRD}:" And I'm sure she'll be fine while you're gone. I just can't imagine raising a child like that, jmo, ... [snip!] ... to at least have a part time job out of the house. Being that attached can't be healthy for mom or baby... independence, ftw!"



Yea, I enjoy being a SAHM. When my kids are in school, then I will be going to school and starting to work. I don't want a part time job, I just hope that I can work one day period..I have severe anxiety and don't do well with a lot of people sometimes.

~*~ Nichole ~*~ 4 kids; Vancouver, Washington 11261 posts
3rd Oct '12

My kids have always gone to their grandparents house when we go to the hospital to have the baby. They do great and have a fun vacation away from us. We make it a positive thing and that's how they view it. Of course we get away each year at least twice for a weekend alone to be a couple, and have a date at least every other month if not usually more often so they are used to being away from us for short periods of time. Sounds like it is a good time for you to have daddy start taking a more pro-active role and take a deep breath and put on a smile for your child. Your child will pick up on your anxiety and discomfort about being away from them more then you think!

The Icebox {MBRD} 17 kids; New Mexico 18558 posts
3rd Oct '12
Quoting A❤T=P+[It's a Girl:" children of SAHM's can be just as independent."


Maybe, if you let them. This is obviously not the case.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
3rd Oct '12
Quoting The Icebox {MBRD}:" Maybe, if you let them. This is obviously not the case."


Agreed.



OP. Maybe this should be a key that she's too dependent on you. Maybe try and do some "mommy time" when your husband gets home until the new baby gets here. It might help her adapt to the idea of Mommy not being there.



I'm a SAHM and we do very little babysitting, but my almost 3 year old can spend the night at the grandparents house no problem. Even my son who is SUPER attached to me. I think maybe your anxiety is feeding into her?



I mean, if YOU have no faith in her ability to be without you, how can she have faith? I'd start talking to her now about it. "Mommy is going to stay at the hospital for a few days, and you'll get to spend the night here, just you and Daddy!"



Make it exciting. If she gets upset, calmly tell her she's a big girl, and it'll be lots of fun with Dad. If you feel anxious and upset then she'll feed off of that and not feel confident since YOU aren't confident.

The Icebox {MBRD} 17 kids; New Mexico 18558 posts
3rd Oct '12
Quoting she nan igans:" Agreed. OP. Maybe this should be a key that she's too dependent on you. Maybe try and do some "mommy ... [snip!] ... of fun with Dad. If you feel anxious and upset then she'll feed off of that and not feel confident since YOU aren't confident."


:!:

Much more eloquent then I could ever put it lol

~*~ Nichole ~*~ 4 kids; Vancouver, Washington 11261 posts
3rd Oct '12
Quoting she nan igans:" Agreed. OP. Maybe this should be a key that she's too dependent on you. Maybe try and do some "mommy ... [snip!] ... of fun with Dad. If you feel anxious and upset then she'll feed off of that and not feel confident since YOU aren't confident."


Totally agree!

♥Mj&Daryl♥ (boy); 2 kids; Spokane, Washington 2392 posts
3rd Oct '12

I don't know, I'll never have to deal with this because LO is used to baby sitters have has plenty of time away from us. He stays over night with Grandma a lot (usually a couple times of a month) and he's stayed over with baby sitters also.



But maybe she'll handle it like a champ and do well!

♥♬♡ 2 kids; Pennsylvania 10385 posts
3rd Oct '12
Quoting she nan igans:" Agreed. OP. Maybe this should be a key that she's too dependent on you. Maybe try and do some "mommy ... [snip!] ... of fun with Dad. If you feel anxious and upset then she'll feed off of that and not feel confident since YOU aren't confident."


The thing is, If I had somewhere to send her for a night, I would. But SOs father, he disabled and just...not someone i would leave DD with for a night..his house is not fit for a child, and he would let her play with anything she wanted to. He would let her get away with EVERYTHING!
his mother works constantly and takes care of her great granddaughter, and anytime we ask just for her to watch DD for a few hours, while we go shopping, she trys to complain a little.
My mom is not alive, my father is a crack head, and I live 5 hours from my home state..so there is not really anyone that she is able to spend time with...SO gets home at all different house because of his job. So really its hard for her to get out and go with other people.

Fairy [God] Mother Due February 23 (girl); 17 kids; Stratham, New Hampshire 7085 posts
3rd Oct '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lil princess and Bambino:</b>" The thing is, If I had somewhere to send her for a night, I would. But SOs father, he disabled and just...not ... [snip!] ... with...SO gets home at all different house because of his job. So really its hard for her to get out and go with other people."</blockquote>



we are in a very similar situation mu husbands parents are in elderly community 6 hours away and all my family lives in Florida and we just moved here last January. I'm sure it will all work out but it's normal to worry about it