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Cocobean <33 1 child; Maryland 1599 posts
3rd Oct '12
Quoting nutmeg.:" How do you get your grocery shopping and such done? I don't know what exactly his special needs are ... [snip!] ... walks with the jogger through the wetlands, backbays, boardwalk, etc. A lot of my getting out is as much for me as it is them."

he can't sit period. just all he can do is lay there and do nothing. and I don't I still live with my parents

Eden's mommy :) 1 child; Kenosha, Wisconsin 6364 posts
3rd Oct '12
Quoting MommyOfACody:" NO this is why I put it under SPECIAL NEEDS"


What other special needs does he have? How are his fine motor skills with his hands n stuff? Toddlers like to explore things. Put him in the kitchen or in the bath tub and let him play with something messy. They love getting messy.

Ole' No Name TTC since Oct 2013; 1 child; Singapore, Singapore 6244 posts
3rd Oct '12

Put him down with some toys and let him entertain himself maybe?

Cocobean <33 1 child; Maryland 1599 posts
3rd Oct '12
Quoting Just Ames:" Oh IDK, fresh air, different things to look at, change of scenery. Your outlook about your child sucks :? It's actually disgusting."

it's too cold outside for me to take him out atm and he's sick so that just adds to it

Autumn Whisper 1 child; Utah 9977 posts
3rd Oct '12

If you have a stroller or can carry him, you can take him for a walk. The fresh air would do you both good. If he cries, then he cries. But he might come to enjoy it. If a park is near enough by, then it doesn't matter if he can sit or whatever on his own. You can hold him on the swings. You can hold him and go down the slide with him.



Everyone gets frustrated, but you have people trying to help you, and they don't know the particular limitations and circumstances you and your child live with.

Cocobean <33 1 child; Maryland 1599 posts
3rd Oct '12
Quoting Ole' No Name:" Put him down with some toys and let him entertain himself maybe?"

he can't play with anything he has a muscle dystrophy. his hands are always in fists and his arms are always close to his body. he can't sit on the floor he can't crawl so he doesn't know how to entertain himself because he's not physically able to.

nutmeg. California 22281 posts
3rd Oct '12
Quoting MommyOfACody:" he can't sit period. just all he can do is lay there and do nothing. and I don't I still live with my parents"


Does he attend physical or occupational therapy?
I would try to get in touch with a therpist who can give you ideas that would work with his special needs, as well as introduce you to modifications for different activities. Surely there is a bike trailer out there that could accomodate him (just for instance) but you're not going to find it at your local bike shop.
Also, I would really consider getting your license. It would give you a sense of freedom that would be good for yours and his well being.
You've got exceptional challenges with a special needs child but the resources are out there; you just need to seek them out!

Eden's mommy :) 1 child; Kenosha, Wisconsin 6364 posts
3rd Oct '12
Quoting MommyOfACody:" it's too cold outside for me to take him out atm and he's sick so that just adds to it"


You're turning down every single idea that people are giving you. Stop making excuses and just do something. If he's sick, maybe the fresh air will do him some good. Lay him in the stroller, put a blanket on him, and go for a walk. It's not that hard. Go to the library and read him some stories. Carry him around your yard and just talk to him..talk about everything you're looking at. Let him touch the grass or flowers or anything. Sing to him. Turn on the TV for a little while (TV isn't all bad. You won't be a bad mom for letting your kid watch TV for a little bit, plus it will give you some breathing room).

EasyComeEasyGo 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Maryland 8030 posts
3rd Oct '12
Quoting MommyOfACody:" it's too cold outside for me to take him out atm and he's sick so that just adds to it"


Where in Md are you? It's 80 degrees here today. At this point, I feel like you're making excuses. You need to get your child out of the house, put him in the stroller, walk him around your block..do something instead of complaining about how much you don't like him

Cocobean <33 1 child; Maryland 1599 posts
3rd Oct '12

I'm taking my license test this friday. but I have anxiety so every time i go to take it i get an anxiety attack- therefore I fail. he's scared of going down the slide even with me. the park near me doesn't have swings. he gets physical occupational and speech therapy every week but he just won't play anything I try to do with him. he's even refusing to sit on my lap and have me hold him because he gets hot so I just don't know what to do anymore so i just put him on his high chair.

~*~ Nichole ~*~ 4 kids; Vancouver, Washington 11261 posts
3rd Oct '12

Sounds more like you need a break from him tbh. Getting out of the house would be good for both of you. If you can do it alone that'd be best for you. Otherwise perhaps put him in a stroller and go on a walk, the fresh air could be good for both of you. What about local special needs groups, or any other mommy groups that could accommodate his needs. Library time, parks, or trips to other fun places like a children's museum or something. Just sitting at home has to be the worst option for you both.

DifferentDay Due June 2; 34 kids; Tennessee 3473 posts
3rd Oct '12

if he's not confined to a bed I don't see why you can't lay with him on the floor in a living room or something and play with him that way. they make nightlights that project onto the ceiling, but I'm sure with a cheap flashlight, tape, and cardboard or soemthing you could make your own version. If he's special needs you have to just be flexible. Anything for him to look at might be interesting to him. If he can feel you could try sensory projects, flowers across his face, down his arms, drops of water same thing, etc. Make a shaker from a can and let him listen to it. There's plenty of stuff you could try, depends on how much effort you're willing to put into it. Maybe making simple faces at him funny and silly with noises would get his attention.

Eden's mommy :) 1 child; Kenosha, Wisconsin 6364 posts
3rd Oct '12
Quoting EasyComeEasyGo:" Where in Md are you? It's 80 degrees here today. At this point, I feel like you're making excuses. You ... [snip!] ... put him in the stroller, walk him around your block..do something instead of complaining about how much you don't like him"


:!:

Cocobean <33 1 child; Maryland 1599 posts
3rd Oct '12
Quoting DifferentDay:" if he's not confined to a bed I don't see why you can't lay with him on the floor in a living room or ... [snip!] ... effort you're willing to put into it. Maybe making simple faces at him funny and silly with noises would get his attention."

okay. I will try, he's just inconsolable right now. he just won't play at the moment and i dont know what else to do. and its only in the mid 60's near my house

Autumn Whisper 1 child; Utah 9977 posts
3rd Oct '12

Read to him? Sit beside him on the floor and do puzzles with him? He sounds like a child begging for stimulation and change.



There is so much you can do, you just have to be creative. The internet is a major resource. You can watch videos together. There are kids websites. He doesn't have dexterity but he might enjoy watching you play kids games. Stuff like that.