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Mutha. TTC since Jan 1995; 3830 posts
4th Oct '12
Quoting she nan igans:" Also, what would a lawyer do? It's elective, so a Dr doesn't have to do it if they don't want to."

I have friends who are under 25 with 2 or more kids & they can't get them done. Idk what a lawyer would do. I'm just saying what I've been told.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
4th Oct '12
Quoting Chelsae +1
AliG(Aidans mommy) 1 child; Texas 10774 posts
4th Oct '12

So how does paraguard work? Ive been in a relationship going on 4 years, but my SO and I talked and think he has bipolar disorder. Its hard with his mood swings to even consider having another child, even if i may want one a teeny tiny bit! lol

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
4th Oct '12
Quoting AliG(Aidans mommy):" So how does paraguard work? Ive been in a relationship going on 4 years, but my SO and I talked and think ... [snip!] ... disorder. Its hard with his mood swings to even consider having another child, even if i may want one a teeny tiny bit! lol"


It's an IUD. Copper, so no hormones. They put it in at the office, and it's a little T shaped metal device that is up into your uterus.

Captain Obvious 2 kids; Havana, Cuba 25634 posts
4th Oct '12
Quoting she nan igans:" Oh hell no. I'd be pissed and fight that tooth and nail. My husband doesn't have to give me permission ... [snip!] ... to need my husbands permission to do something to MY body. My body is not just a baby growing machine for his wayward sperm."


I don't think it's permission, it's that he has to be informed. He can't deny the procedure to her.

Mutha. TTC since Jan 1995; 3830 posts
4th Oct '12
Quoting she nan igans:" Oh hell no. I'd be pissed and fight that tooth and nail. My husband doesn't have to give me permission ... [snip!] ... to need my husbands permission to do something to MY body. My body is not just a baby growing machine for his wayward sperm."

Yeah it's stupid. She looked into it & he says she can do it after their next baby. But I guess if he wanted to go get snipped he wouldn't even have to tell her!

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
4th Oct '12
Quoting Captain Obvious:" I don't think it's permission, it's that he has to be informed. He can't deny the procedure to her."


She said permission. Even informed I don't agree with. Don't get me wrong, MY husband knew, but I don't believe I should HAVE to inform (or get permission) for something I want to do to my own body. Likewise, I shouldn't have to be informed before he can have a vasectomy.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
4th Oct '12
Quoting Chelsae +1
AliG(Aidans mommy) 1 child; Texas 10774 posts
4th Oct '12
Quoting she nan igans:" It's an IUD. Copper, so no hormones. They put it in at the office, and it's a little T shaped metal device that is up into your uterus."

hmm and it last 5 years? Any side effects?

Mutha. TTC since Jan 1995; 3830 posts
4th Oct '12
Quoting she nan igans:" See, that's what pissed me off. I doubt there would be any restrictions on men, yes we women are expected ... [snip!] ... choice. In any good relationship it would be. But I don't think it should be enforced that it MUST involved the husband at all."

That's exactly how I feel! It shouldn't matter if we're women. It's our body, we should be able to do what we want with it. It's not hurting anyone!

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
4th Oct '12
Quoting she nan igans:" See, that's what pissed me off. I doubt there would be any restrictions on men, yes we women are expected ... [snip!] ... choice. In any good relationship it would be. But I don't think it should be enforced that it MUST involved the husband at all."



exactly. someone posted before about trying to make husband's permission a law. i can't remember what state it was but everyone was like are you kidding me...?

Captain Obvious 2 kids; Havana, Cuba 25634 posts
4th Oct '12
Quoting she nan igans:" See, that's what pissed me off. I doubt there would be any restrictions on men, yes we women are expected ... [snip!] ... choice. In any good relationship it would be. But I don't think it should be enforced that it MUST involved the husband at all."


I just looked it up, there are no laws in place saying either sex has to inform or get permission from their spouse to get permanent birth control, but there are doctors who enforce the rule on a clinical level to prevent law suits.

taking a look at life Palm beach gardens, FL, United States 49093 posts
4th Oct '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting AliG(Aidans mommy):</b>" hmm and it last 5 years? Any side effects?"</blockquote>




10 years.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
4th Oct '12
Quoting AliG(Aidans mommy):" hmm and it last 5 years? Any side effects?"


I've never had it, but my Mom did and she loved it. I've heard some people have trouble with their periods being really heavy with it, and there's a risk of it implanting into the uterus or something. Honestly, I don't know a ton. I thought about getting it but ended up having my tubes tied after my 2nd.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
4th Oct '12
Quoting Captain Obvious:" I just looked it up, there are no laws in place saying either sex has to inform or get permission from ... [snip!] ... spouse to get permanent birth control, but there are doctors who enforce the rule on a clinical level to prevent law suits."


I figured there wasn't a law, but the idea still irks me because some people do believe something like that SHOULD be a law. It's insane the number of people, even women, who are so quick to be willing to tear away our rights for no good reason.