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JCGR Due October 29 (girl); Omaha, Nebraska 203 posts
6th Oct '12

Man, hopefully yours isn't infected like mine was... It
Was soooo painful even After taking the meds. :( my insicion started to leak on its own.... It was gross.. All orange and fishy odor.

Shayna Santos 1 child; Orlando, Florida 96 posts
6th Oct '12

Thank you all for the advice.
Yes, i been taking my meds on track now.
My left side has this unbearable pain that comes and goes, it feels like i pulled something, its just awful. Im going to see if it goes away or gets better if not i will go to the ER.
But as of right now i feel okay.
:)

Ravey Candyass 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Boston, Massachusetts 104951 posts
6th Oct '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Shayna Santos:</b>" Thank you all for the advice. Yes, i been taking my meds on track now. My left side has this unbearable ... [snip!] ... its just awful. Im going to see if it goes away or gets better if not i will go to the ER. But as of right now i feel okay. :)"</blockquote>




Does that pain happen more when you have to go oee? I've notice if i don't empty my bladder frequently, I get unbearable pain.

JCGR Due October 29 (girl); Omaha, Nebraska 203 posts
6th Oct '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Shayna Santos:</b>" Thank you all for the advice. Yes, i been taking my meds on track now. My left side has this unbearable ... [snip!] ... its just awful. Im going to see if it goes away or gets better if not i will go to the ER. But as of right now i feel okay. :)"</blockquote>




Goodness, I had that also, it feels like I pulled a muscle. It took a good month for it to go away... No more shooting pain.

mommy to 3 crazy boys 3 kids; Ohio 463 posts
6th Oct '12

The hospital gave me a post op support band to wear and that helped so much. Also, obviously the keeping up on the pain meds and trying to walk as much as I could. The first week I had SO home to help out, but once he went back to work I was on my own with a 5-year old and a newborn. And I had to drive my oldest to and from preschool which was a struggle to get in and out of a low riding car. I had a pain on one side too, it was more like a burning pain I guess I would say. The doctor said it was caused by the internal stitches. Wherever the Dr starts the stitches and makes a knot it often causes pain on that side. Good luck and things will get better soon.

Shayna Santos 1 child; Orlando, Florida 96 posts
6th Oct '12

Yeah, it feels like i pulled something and then this unbearable burning pain, it is def. one of the worsts pains i've ever felt, my pain meds are running out so idk what im going to do if it continues. Its seriously that bad to where i want to cry.

mommy to 3 crazy boys 3 kids; Ohio 463 posts
6th Oct '12
Quoting Shayna Santos:" Yeah, it feels like i pulled something and then this unbearable burning pain, it is def. one of the worsts ... [snip!] ... felt, my pain meds are running out so idk what im going to do if it continues. Its seriously that bad to where i want to cry."

I would look into a post op support band then. I know maternity stores sell them and posibly even like a walmart. If you cant get one right away make sure to always brace with a firm pillow anytime you go to sit, stand, or cough. Make sure if you're running low on meds call your dr office for a refill. I made sure to call on friday so I knew I was covered for the weekend.

paperduck56 Due December 11 (boy); 1 child; Adelaide, Australia 18 posts
6th Oct '12
Quoting Regina Stevenson:" I plan on being stubborn lol. Its in my nature. And like I said my Dr hasnt told me shit as to what will ... [snip!] ... for all my appointment dates and times and on Tuesday when I go in for my appointment for checkup pester as to WTF is going on."


Yeah, okay.. Stubborn is good to a point. (And believe me, I have a massive stubborn streak! Lol!) But at the end of the day, it's not about you, it's about getting your little person out happy, safe and healthy! :)
The Doctor is probably under the impression that he's the one doing the surgery
so you don't need to know what's going to happen, aside from your responsibilities (ie. showing up on time, fasting, etc). It's not a fantastic attitude when you want to know what's going on, but trust me.. They've done this before -- several times, in fact! -- they'll look after you and do what needs to be done.
And to be perfectly honest, they'll let you know what you need to do at each step along the way, but they'll take care of the c-section.. That's not your worry, all you need to worry about is when they hand you that little bundle and what you're going to do from then on! :)
With my first son, I didn't even have a birthing plan. The midwife asked me what my birthing plan was and I said "do whatever you guys tell me to do until I get my son out safe and healthy". She told me it was the best birthing plan she'd ever heard! The way I see it, this was my first child, they deliver them every day FOR A LIVING! Even this time around with my second son, they still have more experience than me at delivering babies, so I'm still going to follow what they tell me to do. Obviously I know more of what to expect this time around, but every birth is different, just like every child is different. Listen to your body, listen to your medical team, TRUST your medical team, and you'll be handed a little package of pee, poop and insomnia in no time at all! :D
Best of luck!

Regina Stevenson Due November 29 (twins); 1 child; Michigan 388 posts
6th Oct '12
Quoting paperduck56:" Yeah, okay.. Stubborn is good to a point. (And believe me, I have a massive stubborn streak! Lol!) But ... [snip!] ... TRUST your medical team, and you'll be handed a little package of pee, poop and insomnia in no time at all! :D Best of luck!"

I only plan on being stubborn to get my questions answered. I do trust my medical team and I know it is to get my boys (Yes ID Twin boys so not one bundle of joy but 2) out safe and sound that is why we opted for the c-section in the first place. Baby A has a half on half off insertion placement of his umbilical cord so if he snagged it on the way out (even though they are both head down and I could try) I would start to hemmorhage and everything like that. SO I know it is what is best for me and my boys I just want to get my questions answered because damnit I am not dumb I do have a Medical Assistant degree but they dont go into things about performing c-sections and stuff when you are only an MA so I would like to know what is going to happen for what needs to be done (apart from fasting and being there on time) just the general layout of things. You know the order things are gonna go in and then what is gonna happen afterward and everything. I am more worried about what is going to happen throughout (the layout) than anything else. I havent been told anything and damnit I deserve to atleast know how things are being planned to go (even if something happens and they have to do a quick switchup on the plans I will atleast have a basic idea of whats gonna happen). I want to know the do's and dont's prior to going into the c-section (not the recovery just what I can and cannot do before hand and who/how many people are allowed and I would like 2 but have settled on 1 if only allowed 1)
I just have things that every person should know like how many people will be allowed and whether I walk myself or if I have to have a Cath and things like that. I hate how my Dr treats me and she treats me like I am dumb until I pester her and show her I have done reserch and what you tell me isnt going to scare me I just need to be informed kinda thing they she actually answers my questions. I honestly think she gets alot of moms pregnant with twins that their phylosiphy is the less I know the better. Not in my case the more I know the better. And hell if I wouldnt have known about Baby A Valmentous insert (the funky cord placement) since I was 18 weeks along and she only just realizes the insert problem from the high risk OB at 28 weeks along I would have been all for going natural for these guys. Hell I had been telling her about the cord placement but she didnt beleive me till I was 28 weeks and read it (again) in the report form the high risk OB. I asked her what it meant because the high risk OB only told me what it was not anything about how it would affect L&D or anything and she finally told me that if I didnt have a c-section and he got the cord wrapped around his foot and pulled it out I could hemmorage and they may not be able to get his brother out in time. So I finally got her to schedule a date that day and said if this is the way it has to be then fine lets do it but dont keep leading me on thinking I can do vaginal when it is safer for all 3 of us to do is by section. So we picked a date and the boys will be here the 19th of Nov. All because I told her to stop fucking me around and tell me what I need to know. The more informed I am the more relaxed I am the less informed the more stressed. Think it is finally starting to click with her and I only have like 6 weeks till these guys get here lol.

paperduck56 Due December 11 (boy); 1 child; Adelaide, Australia 18 posts
8th Oct '12
Quoting Regina Stevenson:" I only plan on being stubborn to get my questions answered. I do trust my medical team and I know it ... [snip!] ... the more stressed. Think it is finally starting to click with her and I only have like 6 weeks till these guys get here lol."


Oh thank goodness! It always worries me when women say they're being stubborn! Lol! How did you go getting answers from your doc in the end?
And 2!! My goodness! Well, congratulations, and you are definitely a braver woman than me, I think I'd die if I scored twins! ... I'm having enough trouble with an extremely active 2 year old and a low-iron pregnancy! Lol! :D
I think you're smart not to take the risk, just in case Baby A does get snagged.. It's very worrying, and if you are a medical assistant, then it would be so frustrating not to be told anything.. The doc is probably used to your average run-of-the-mill Mums who wouldn't understand much more than she's told you. At this point, fingers crossed she's told you more, but if she hasn't, take in a list of all the questions you have and get her to give you answers. She might be surprised at some of the questions you're asking and realise you can handle much more information. Fingers crossed, anyways!
Gosh, 19th of November, that is getting close! My eldest turns 2 on Oct 19th, and then our second little man is due to make his arrival on Dec 12th.. But I've got a funny feeling we're going to be incredibly lucky if he hangs on long enough to be a December baby! Lol!
I hope things go well for you, and that you get the answers you need.. Just tell her, it's stressing you out and if she doesn't answer these questions you're not going to be relaxed enough on the day and it could endanger the babies.
You'll have to let us know how you go with everything! :) It's exciting, even tho it's a little scary if you think about everything that could go wrong! :S
Like I said tho, just corner your doc and demand answers! It's yours and your babies' health. She HAS to answer you! :)

Regina Stevenson Due November 29 (twins); 1 child; Michigan 388 posts
8th Oct '12
Quoting paperduck56:" Oh thank goodness! It always worries me when women say they're being stubborn! Lol! How did you go getting ... [snip!] ... :S Like I said tho, just corner your doc and demand answers! It's yours and your babies' health. She HAS to answer you! :)"

Yea I know she has to answer me. Tell ya the truth she has to answer anyone that asks. But I plan on getting my questions answered even if it is pestering the hell out of her. But there have been a few times I asked questions and she looked at me like WTF why are you asking this no other mom ever asked me and its because I am a MEdical Assistant. I may not be in that specific field (which one day I hope to get there) but I still know how to get the information I need and Dr.s are supposed to answer your questions. She just likes to take a roundabout way of answering them so you need to phrase the question just right in order to get a direct answer. Like it took me finally telling her well if a c-section is the safest then lets pick out a date so that we can get things set and I can get the notion for natural childbirth out of my head and start planning for the c-section. And then she hemmed and hawed around about setting a date because if they come early and stuff I would have to deliver somewhere else (because my reg ob doesnt do high risk deliveries before 37 weeks) and I was like I doubt I am gonna have a problem keeping them in because of how stubborn DS was to get here and he was only 3 days early. And even if they did come early it isnt like you wouldnt have time to go in and take it off the books. So she finally let me pick a date and we set it and its done.
Yes the 19th of Nov is creeping up on me fast and I still feel like I am missing some crucial things. Guess we will just figure those out after the boys get here. I was scared out of my mind when I found out at 8 weeks that I was having twins but I have grown used to it (to the point I accept it but still dont quite know how I am going to handle it on my own since their dad left me). So all is good just getting a little more stressful than when your expecting your second baby and know what to expect. I know what to expect care wise its just going to be trying to figure out how to do it on my own once we leave my moms.
My DS is actually turning 4 here this coming weekend on the 13th of October so I know how you feel about active kid and then pregnancy on top of it. I may not have a low iron pregnancy but dangit I can hardly do anything cleaning wise or playing with my son because my tummy got so big. I do what I can though and my mom helps alot. She wants me to keep these boys baking till their arrival date of the 19th and not a day before so I have a great support system in my mom and friends. The twins dad well thats another story so....