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user banned 3 kids; Florence, South Carolina 39499 posts
7th Oct '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" And I also said that some kids are just simply not ready, regardless of being SN or not. Yet you still ... [snip!] ... child is ready but when another parent does it, if their child is older, they waited too long? You keep running in circles."


her child wasn't ready though. i think she may be feeling guilt over that and justifying it as the right thing to do by judging moms who PT'd "too late"

user banned 3 kids; Florence, South Carolina 39499 posts
7th Oct '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" I did."


lmfao! I skim :lol:

You and me + 4 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4113 posts
7th Oct '12
Quoting Epic Big Head:" her child wasn't ready though. i think she may be feeling guilt over that and justifying it as the right thing to do by judging moms who PT'd "too late""


No guilt i dont regret my decisions on what i did with my children. I was asking the average time age for a child to be potty trained and apparently with the votes its more people that have PTed around the time that i have. I havent had any issues with me PTing early some moms might. Thats why the question was asked. I never stated that my child was not ready. Now whos jumping to conclusions and judging?

You and me + 4 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4113 posts
7th Oct '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" And I also said that some kids are just simply not ready, regardless of being SN or not. Yet you still ... [snip!] ... child is ready but when another parent does it, if their child is older, they waited too long? You keep running in circles."


bc in some cases if the child isnt SN its a sign of laziness. My children may or may not have been fully ready but i was ready so i began and it was successful. Not saying force the child but introduce them to it at the very least and some moms do not at all. They just say "Oh he/she will tell me when she/he is ready." When the child may already be ready and doesnt know how to communicate it.

JΔS Georgia 70894 posts
7th Oct '12
Quoting Epic Big Head:" her child wasn't ready though. i think she may be feeling guilt over that and justifying it as the right thing to do by judging moms who PT'd "too late""


Oh really? I must have missed that.

Addi's Momma TTC since Jul 2012; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Florissant, Missouri 4976 posts
7th Oct '12
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user banned 3 kids; Florence, South Carolina 39499 posts
7th Oct '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" Oh really? I must have missed that."


she said that she forced the issue because her kids were close together in age and diapers became expensive.

JΔS Georgia 70894 posts
7th Oct '12
Quoting proudlypreggers:" bc in some cases if the child isnt SN its a sign of laziness. My children may or may not have been fully ... [snip!] ... say "Oh he/she will tell me when she/he is ready." When the child may already be ready and doesnt know how to communicate it."


Maybe you shouldn't make such general statements. Being a lazy parent is one thing. Having a child that is simply not ready, regardless of being SN or not, is not the same as being lazy.



By the way you were in this thread, I'm sure that if a parent tells you that their 5 year old isn't potty trained, you probably judge right off the bat and assume she's lazy. It wasn't until people pointed out special circumstances that you started to change your opinion so you wouldn't sound so judgmental.

You and me + 4 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4113 posts
7th Oct '12
Quoting Epic Big Head:" she said that she forced the issue because her kids were close together in age and diapers became expensive."


I also stated i had no problems or issues with them training so why would i feel guilty?

You and me + 4 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4113 posts
7th Oct '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" Maybe you shouldn't make such general statements. Being a lazy parent is one thing. Having a child that ... [snip!] ... until people pointed out special circumstances that you started to change your opinion so you wouldn't sound so judgmental."


No my opinion isnt based off of special needs kids as ive stated ive worked with 14 year olds that i had to change their diapers. Certain things dont apply to certain people. I meant the average child that has no issues and is just not trained at 5 bc mommy wont teach him.

JΔS Georgia 70894 posts
7th Oct '12
Quoting proudlypreggers:" No my opinion isnt based off of special needs kids as ive stated ive worked with 14 year olds that i ... [snip!] ... apply to certain people. I meant the average child that has no issues and is just not trained at 5 bc mommy wont teach him."


Then why didn't you say that in your OP?

You and me + 4 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4113 posts
7th Oct '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" Then why didn't you say that in your OP?"


Certain things dont have to be stated it was implied especially after ive said for the 100th time what i said doesn apply to SN children.

* Sara * 2 kids; Texas 18864 posts
7th Oct '12
Quoting proudlypreggers:" Actually i just looked at your post tbh. I was asking myself bc my SOs "daughter" will be four in December ... [snip!] ... in December can walk and talk and is not potty trained and him and i were discussing it. Dont make stuff about you that isnt."


:?

user banned 3 kids; Florence, South Carolina 39499 posts
7th Oct '12
Quoting proudlypreggers:" Certain things dont have to be stated it was implied especially after ive said for the 100th time what i said doesn apply to SN children."


10% of all children have some type of special needs. Most people don't realize that though. I didn't realize it either when I had my first child, who was totally typical and thought all other kids were too. I judged. A lot. I didn't even realize I was doing it. That kid screaming in the grocery store? Might have had autism and was having a sensory melt down. You never know what another kid's situation is.

You and me + 4 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4113 posts
7th Oct '12
Quoting ☾BizzyBee♉:" :? That's an incredibly general statement. I hope you never have a kid who's tough to potty train. "


I hope i dont either but with an average child imo it is not that difficult. You start with the day then do the night. Put the potty in the bathroom, have them go when you go, encourage them, praise them, reward them, and at night I would stop my childrens intake an hour and a half to two hours before bed and made them go before bed. It takes time and extreme patience bc accidents are bound to happen but to me its not difficult.