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*L's Mommie* 17 kids; Abilene, Texas 367 posts
8th Oct '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting FroggysMommy:</b>" That's bullshit that all he is doing is friendly conversation and you expect him to tell you when he ... [snip!] ... this, no one should be all "Hey hun, I talked to my female friend today. Just so you know!" when it's just shooting the shit."</blockquote>




I'm looking for advice not for you to put me down! So move on from this.

*Turtles* Due July 27 (girl); 1 child; Someplace, UT, United States 6090 posts
8th Oct '12
Quoting *Nov.13*:" He used to drink every day until he found out about the fatty liver. His doc says not to drink AT ALL! ... [snip!] ... to party hard and drink liquor . I tell him not to because I have to deal with him arguing over something. He picks fights"


2 beers a week?! I don't think 2 beers would even do much.. I know you mentioned his doctor said to not have ANY, but 2 beers shouldn't really do much harm. .I don't think so anyway.




I am going to be straight with you and I don't mean to sound rude or harsh, but you seem to be very controlling in every aspect of his life.

*Turtles* Due July 27 (girl); 1 child; Someplace, UT, United States 6090 posts
8th Oct '12
Quoting *Nov.13*:" <blockquote><b>Quoting FroggysMommy:</b>" That's bullshit that all he is doing is ... [snip!] ... it's just shooting the shit."</blockquote> I'm looking for advice not for you to put me down! So move on from this."


I don't think she's trying to be rude, she's just being straight with you.

*L's Mommie* 17 kids; Abilene, Texas 367 posts
8th Oct '12

I not. It's like when I just look to see what he has been up to. Not trying to find something... Out of couriousty I do find stuff that I'm not happy with. Like I said I wanted to message my bro, and there was unread message from a girl...

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 27055 posts
8th Oct '12
Quoting *Turtles*:" 2 beers a week?! I don't think 2 beers would even do much.. I know you mentioned his doctor said to ... [snip!] ... be straight with you and I don't mean to sound rude or harsh, but you seem to be very controlling in every aspect of his life."


This. And yet I am here trying to tell her that it's complete crap that she's wanting to dictate who he talks to.... and she tells me to move on? She only wants support?



Well now we know why she has issues. If things don't go her way she throws a hissy fit. Blows things out of proportion. Controls the situation until its to HER liking. That's how I see it.



I mean seriously, her SO talking friendly to a girl? As a FRIEND and not flirting, and not liking it? Controlling. Saying 2 beers a week is too much? Controlling. Dictating what can be said in her thread? CONTROLLING! lol

*Turtles* Due July 27 (girl); 1 child; Someplace, UT, United States 6090 posts
8th Oct '12
Quoting FroggysMommy:" This. And yet I am here trying to tell her that it's complete crap that she's wanting to dictate who ... [snip!] ... it? Controlling. Saying 2 beers a week is too much? Controlling. Dictating what can be said in her thread? CONTROLLING! lol"


In the beginning I was confused, but now that she has said he's not flirting made me change my mind. I still think she should leave either way since she doesn't trust him.



OP you need to be able to trust your SO. You need to either leave or work on your issues with the lack of trust going on.

*L's Mommie* 17 kids; Abilene, Texas 367 posts
8th Oct '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting *Turtles*:</b>" 2 beers a week?! I don't think 2 beers would even do much.. I know you mentioned his doctor said to ... [snip!] ... be straight with you and I don't mean to sound rude or harsh, but you seem to be very controlling in every aspect of his life."</blockquote>




Yeah I don't have a problem with two beers. I just have a problem with him drinking too much and fighting with me. I don't command or demand that he cat do this or that. I ask him nicely and suggest that I am not happy with it, and he tells me " okay I won't do it." Or " sorry" or something in that catagory. I on the other hand get told off if I talk to another guy and asked a million questions. I don't ask details about the convos. He tells me and that is that.

*L's Mommie* 17 kids; Abilene, Texas 367 posts
8th Oct '12

I'm done, I have decided on what to do, thank you turtles! And pm me the guys name off of youtube please;)

*Turtles* Due July 27 (girl); 1 child; Someplace, UT, United States 6090 posts
8th Oct '12
Quoting *Nov.13*:" I not. It's like when I just look to see what he has been up to. Not trying to find something... Out ... [snip!] ... I do find stuff that I'm not happy with. Like I said I wanted to message my bro, and there was unread message from a girl..."


I would have not clicked into that unread message. You need to respect his privacy. I don't snoop into my SO phone at all, I don't see the point. My SO doesn't have FB and even if he did I wouldn't bother to snoop.



Coming from someone whose SO lacks trust. I don't like that he goes through my FB or text messaging without my consent. I don't care that he does now because I have nothing to hide. I am not allowed to talk to people of the opposite sex because my SO does not trust me. I find it annoying that he acts this way, but we're working on it. I have faith that he can cut the shit and build up to trusting me again. I am going to link you to a video that I hope enlightens you.

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 27055 posts
8th Oct '12
Quoting *Nov.13*:" I not. It's like when I just look to see what he has been up to. Not trying to find something... Out ... [snip!] ... I do find stuff that I'm not happy with. Like I said I wanted to message my bro, and there was unread message from a girl..."


So you snoop in his stuff because you are curious to see what he's up to!?!?!? REALLY?!?!?! Why don't you just TALK to him?



Now I remember you... you are the girl that got mad that her SO was up late playing X-Box because he had work and had to work on his insurance. You wanted him to go to bed and not play with your brother. I honestly think you need to step back and see that if you are wanting to control who your SO talks to... when he can play video games.... when he goes to bed.... well it's time to either end it or let the poor guy breathe on his own. Im sorry but no wife/SO should dictate a mans life like that. If he is just being friendly and wanting to play games with your brother and you have his entire schedule all planned out and then try to control who he can talk to.... hun you need to STEP BACK, be alone for a bit, and realize that the way you are going about a relationship is not healthy. You snoop in his stuff to see what he's been up to... seriously, you have a huge control and lack of trust problem.

*Turtles* Due July 27 (girl); 1 child; Someplace, UT, United States 6090 posts
8th Oct '12
*L's Mommie* 17 kids; Abilene, Texas 367 posts
8th Oct '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting FroggysMommy:</b>" So you snoop in his stuff because you are curious to see what he's up to!?!?!? REALLY?!?!?! Why don't ... [snip!] ... healthy. You snoop in his stuff to see what he's been up to... seriously, you have a huge control and lack of trust problem."</blockquote>




Lmao!!! Please next time I vent or rant just leave it alone. Thank you for your help, you are just a rude person.

*Turtles* Due July 27 (girl); 1 child; Someplace, UT, United States 6090 posts
8th Oct '12

Type in iamj ford into YouTube search.

*Turtles* Due July 27 (girl); 1 child; Someplace, UT, United States 6090 posts
8th Oct '12
Quoting *Nov.13*:" <blockquote><b>Quoting FroggysMommy:</b>" So you snoop in his stuff because you are ... [snip!] ... Lmao!!! Please next time I vent or rant just leave it alone. Thank you for your help, you are just a rude person."


OP really..she's not being rude. She's actually being quite pleasant compared to how others would react.

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 27055 posts
8th Oct '12
Quoting *Nov.13*:" <blockquote><b>Quoting FroggysMommy:</b>" So you snoop in his stuff because you are ... [snip!] ... Lmao!!! Please next time I vent or rant just leave it alone. Thank you for your help, you are just a rude person."


Im not rude, it's called being real. If you think it's rude, maybe you should take a deep look at yourself and your situation and see why I am saying what I am.



Also, I can comment wherever I please. Just as you may.