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*L's Mommie* 17 kids; Abilene, Texas 367 posts
8th Oct '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting *Turtles*:</b>" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CTm95A7_4HQ&feature=relmfu This is a great video, watch it!"</blockquote>




I got the idea., I am going to re adjust myself, but yet try to work on things. Thank u. Your just what I needed tonight

*Turtles* Due July 27 (girl); 1 child; Someplace, UT, United States 6090 posts
8th Oct '12

It's not easy, but just work on yourself and your situation. If you can't handle it and you have tried then I suggest ending the relationship.

can111 1 child; Michigan 1005 posts
8th Oct '12
Quoting *Turtles*:" He's being unfaithful. He isn't respecting your guys relationship and if I were you I would dump his ass."


:!::!:

O ♥ G 2 kids; Pride, Louisiana 10723 posts
8th Oct '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting saageex3:</b>" The fact that he feels the need to lie to you and say its a guy and talks to them when you already stated that it bothered you to me says something is going on."</blockquote>




This.



I would think if the conversations with the girls are innocent then he should have no issue being honest with you. The fact that he felt the need to lie is a red flag IMO. I mean I can KINDA understand him not straight out being like "hey I'm gonna go talk to a girl, okay?" But if you ASK him about it then he needs to be honest with you especially since you told him it makes you uncomfortable.

O ♥ G 2 kids; Pride, Louisiana 10723 posts
8th Oct '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting *Nov.13*:</b>" I didn't say flirting. Just that he talks to girls that he just met saying " how is she, where does she ... [snip!] ... was " how have you been? I have been rocky with things." " I haven't talked to you in awhile, I have been thinking about you""</blockquote>




Wow. Really?! The only thing that I can see that you might thinking is toeing the "line" is where he said "I've been thinking about you" and only because that can be misconstrued for you to think he is talking about thinking about someone romantically.



Everything else is normal acquaintance conversation and if that really bothers you then YOU are the one with an issue: insecurity.

Lin Brown 2 kids; Tunnel Hill, Georgia 1797 posts
8th Oct '12

I would agree, she wasn't being rude she was just being honest and the truth hurts sometimes. With my husband and I, we tell each other things, not because we feel we have to, but because we WANT to. If he feels the need to hide it from you, then he probably feels that he doesn't want to tell you and get bitched at or anything for it. Let him do his things because it does sound like you have major trust issues and you either need to leave or get some help and let him breath. Respect him and he would to you and give him some space.

can111 1 child; Michigan 1005 posts
8th Oct '12
Quoting ☾BizzyBee♉:" Keep reading. The man's not flirting with anyone, and he drinks 2 beers a week. She has an issue when ... [snip!] ... he's talking to. She's also snooping his facebook, that's how she found anything out. He's not in the wrong here. She is. "


Lying to her and saying he was talking to a dude when really he was talking to some girl, would honestly, make me want to snoop too. There should be no reason to lie about who he is talking to if there is nothing going on.

can111 1 child; Michigan 1005 posts
8th Oct '12
Quoting ☾BizzyBee♉:" She even SAID later in the thread nothing was going on! He was probably not telling her to keep her from blowing her gasket at him... "


I could see how she would be insecure about the one night she said about him talking to other women he just met telling them that their relationship is rocky, he doesn't need to say anything to anyone about their relationship and saying how he's been thinking about them. That's a little off to me. Even if it was the one night and I saw that I'd be a little cautious myself about who he is talking to and what he is talking about with them.

can111 1 child; Michigan 1005 posts
8th Oct '12
Quoting ☾BizzyBee♉:" He was talking to friends... How does SHE know he JUST met them? He could be talking to an old friend ... [snip!] ... She has some serious trust issues, she should not be snooping his shit, and she should not be trying to control him like this."


I'm going off of what she has said on this thread not off of what could be happening. Yeah, she does need to talk to him about her trust issues and maybe if they can't figure things out try couples counseling. & if they can't come to some sort of compromise and try to work things out then I say they need to split.

can111 1 child; Michigan 1005 posts
8th Oct '12
Quoting ☾BizzyBee♉:" She also said in the thread that he wasn't doing anything more than friendly conversation and that she ... [snip!] ... I feel bad for him... no one should feel like they need to sneak to have friendly conversation with someone, male or female. "


I agree with the controlling part. She shouldn't have control of who he talks to. There must be something more to this like maybe a problem that has happened in the past that has caused her to be insecure about him talking other women.

can111 1 child; Michigan 1005 posts
8th Oct '12
Quoting ☾BizzyBee♉:" Someone else said she's been on here before with the same controlling attitude, and nothing in the past ... [snip!] ... the past as far as anyone is aware of. It's sad. He shouldn't have to worry about talking to his friends just to appease her."


That is sad. Sad for him and sad for her.