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Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
10th Oct '12
Quoting Mrs. Post-tato Head
Madi's*Mama Due November 2; 1 child; Holland, Michigan 7391 posts
10th Oct '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Back to Noob Status:</b>" Healthy relationships don't involve lying and cheating. And then there is the issue of diseases and ... [snip!] ... worry about. If I had been cheated on, I would want to know so that I could find someone who wouldn't cheat in the first place."</blockquote>



!!!!!!
If it comes out later by someone else, then there's a very good chance your dh will never get over it. At least if your honest about it you guys have a chance of saving your marriage.

K. P. Walsh Due August 5 (girl); Japan 1385 posts
10th Oct '12
Quoting Back to Noob Status:" By default, HE IS being forced to stay with a cheater through the obvious fact that he doesn't know he is with one."


:!:




I kind have to agree with this..



It's like.. if a tree falls in the middle of a forest, but no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound?
Yes. It still happened. The action is done. Not knowing doesn't make it any less real.

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
10th Oct '12
Quoting Mrs. Post-tato Head
Mrs. Post-tato Head 4 kids; 1 angel baby; 6794 posts
10th Oct '12
Quoting BG Secrets:" I promise I won't do it again but for that to happen I'll have to travel with him and stay with him ... [snip!] ... need me anymore like she used to. I don't know if I can cure this with another baby but I've been having serious baby fever."


I think a lot of women end up feeling this way in times of marital trouble. My DH and I have been really struggling for awhile now and things are looking up, but it's certainly not good timing for another baby and I get baby fever like crazy. Luckily I have an IUD, so I couldn't do anything about it even if I wanted to, but I just ignore and tell myself it's the wrong time.



Focus on yourself and your marriage hun.

MommyingWithGrace Beverly Hills, California 2427 posts
10th Oct '12

I do have some mixed feelings about this because what if down the road your DH finds out? Now you have bigger problems because not only did you cheat but you hid it from him. He will always wonder what else you are hiding. This is tricky.

TracyBee 2 kids; Centralia, Washington 301 posts
10th Oct '12
Quoting BG Secrets:" Ive looked closely at my options: I can tell him and risk losing 10 years of marriage. I've stood by ... [snip!] ... I'm ready to be there for my husband 100% again. I can deal with the guilt and therapy doesn't sound like a bad idea either."


I think your making the right choice. Good luck!

K. P. Walsh Due August 5 (girl); Japan 1385 posts
10th Oct '12
Quoting Mrs. Post-tato Head
☆º×ß¡±©µ×º☆ Due September 18 (girl); 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Centralia, Washington 45192 posts
10th Oct '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Back to Noob Status:</b>" Never said people and relationships were perfect. :lol: And don't you get there with me. My father ... [snip!] ... And I'm glad my mother FOUND OUT and was able to leave. Now she is free to find a better, faithful man who is worthy of her."</blockquote>



see if I was pissed but grateful my ex told me how many people he cheated on me with because I was able to go get tested after that

Mrs. Post-tato Head 4 kids; 1 angel baby; 6794 posts
10th Oct '12
Quoting Back to Noob Status:" Never said people and relationships were perfect. :lol: And don't you get there with me. My father ... [snip!] ... And I'm glad my mother FOUND OUT and was able to leave. Now she is free to find a better, faithful man who is worthy of her."


That's obviously a different situation than what OP is talking about. She has not cheated over and over again and isn't planning to cheat anymore.

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
10th Oct '12
Quoting regina_margot:" in other words, you'd leave? so you're telling OP to tell her husband, so that he'll leave her? that's ... [snip!] ... learnt, OP. now, try to have one good thing come of this, and be a good wife to your husband and make sure he doesn't find out!"


Not leave necessarily, but definitely in need of marriage counseling.



And she threw away ten years of marriage for a few nights of romance, not him.

GTFOGTFO 6 kids; Italy 5611 posts
10th Oct '12
Quoting Back to Noob Status:" Healthy relationships don't involve lying and cheating. And then there is the issue of diseases and ... [snip!] ... worry about. If I had been cheated on, I would want to know so that I could find someone who wouldn't cheat in the first place."


Statistically, you are way more likely to end up with someone who will cheat. Cheating is one of those things that is SO unaccepted by society but yet it happens SO often.

Mrs. Post-tato Head 4 kids; 1 angel baby; 6794 posts
10th Oct '12
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Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
10th Oct '12
Quoting Kaysay:" Statistically, you are way more likely to end up with someone who will cheat. Cheating is one of those things that is SO unaccepted by society but yet it happens SO often."


Hence why I'm single. :P



I think it is SO f**king sad that cheating is the norm. Or maybe we humans weren't meant to be monogamous, but that is for another thread.

Mrs. Post-tato Head 4 kids; 1 angel baby; 6794 posts
10th Oct '12
Quoting Back to Noob Status:" Hence why I'm single. :P I think it is SO f**king sad that cheating is the norm. Or maybe we humans weren't meant to be monogamous, but that is for another thread."


And THAT'S the real "problem". That's what people don't really understand, but again, that's another thread. :wink: