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*Amo a Mis Nenas* 3 kids; Birmingham, Alabama 8838 posts
11th Oct '12
Quoting Stacey30:" I did use protection. It's not always 100% effective especially when it breaks. I did get an std and I did give it to my husband."


if my DH was messing around with other women and brought home a STD, i'd be f**king pissed off.



now, in my case i have a viral STD - that i will never be able to get rid of. BUT my DH knew this beforehand. so he opted to take the risk of contracting it. we have been together over a yr, and he still does NOT have it. but for you to go f**k other people and bring one home to your DH?? no, no acceptable.



if you can't respect your husband, you need to divorce him and let him be happy

Spyro 1 child; Japan 1142 posts
11th Oct '12
Quoting Andi+Andy=Marley+1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Stacey30:</b>" It was kind of the risk we both took when we ... [snip!] ... a man your husband said you needed to stop seeing. How dare you use him for financial needs. Stop being so f**king selfish"

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where the hell are your kids during all this?

Spyro 1 child; Japan 1142 posts
11th Oct '12
Quoting *Amo a Mis Nenas*:" if my DH was messing around with other women and brought home a STD, i'd be f**king pissed off. now, ... [snip!] ... bring one home to your DH?? no, no acceptable. if you can't respect your husband, you need to divorce him and let him be happy"


do you mind me asking what you have?

*Amo a Mis Nenas* 3 kids; Birmingham, Alabama 8838 posts
11th Oct '12
Quoting Spyro:" do you mind me asking what you have?"


herpes simplex virus



my BD was cheating on me - and i contracted it after the birth of our first daughter. i've also been through a second pregnancy, and given birth vaginally and haven't passed it onto my second daughter.



i also take medicine every day to help the virus stay inactive, so making chances for DH to get it slimmer - but he knows that at any point in time, it's possible for him to get it



i also havent had an outbreak in almost 4 years - and it's more likely to pass it on when the virus is active...




and we do not use condoms - his choice.. so like i said, he knows the risks he is taking

*Amo a Mis Nenas* 3 kids; Birmingham, Alabama 8838 posts
11th Oct '12

so in my case - my BD was cheating one me, brought home a STD - and now i have to suffer the consequences for the rest of my life for him being a douche.



OP - what if you bring home something your DH will never be able to get rid of? or have you already brought home a STD like this??

Spyro 1 child; Japan 1142 posts
11th Oct '12
Quoting *Amo a Mis Nenas*:" herpes simplex virus my BD was cheating on me - and i contracted it after the birth of our first daughter. ... [snip!] ... it on when the virus is active... and we do not use condoms - his choice.. so like i said, he knows the risks he is taking"

i hate cheating ass holes. my ex husband gave me chylmidia (cant spell worth shit)

*Amo a Mis Nenas* 3 kids; Birmingham, Alabama 8838 posts
11th Oct '12
Quoting Spyro:" i hate cheating ass holes. my ex husband gave me chylmidia (cant spell worth shit)"


yeah. i've come to terms with it. bc i know its something i can never change. but sometimes i wonder why it had to happen to me. i was 17. he was like the 3rd guy i had ever been with. and i didn't sleep with more than one person any given point of time.. sometimes i wonder why the slutty girls who f**k a shit ton of people dont get STD...



this is also a reason i never really dated, i've been with two guys since getting HSV - a guy i work with, which also knew beforehand. and my DH. mostly bc i just don't want to be that person who gives it to everyone..



now i had a lot of guys want to have sex with me. and even though they were super sexy, i just couldn't bring myself to do it... kwim??



but on a side note - at least yours could be treated and cured with meds.. i think i'll forever hate my BD for giving me this, plus all the other shit he put me through..

Lotusmama Due March 31; British Columbia 1672 posts
11th Oct '12
Quoting *Amo a Mis Nenas*:" okay. so when everyone agreed on an open relationship, it's fine to see other people if both parties ... [snip!] ... me out. but it was all in the moment. he was sweet outside of that, and him choking me actually turned me on a little..."



Wow. Okay... where to start with this. Domestic Violence is not okay. Period. Full stop. He put his hands on her to hurt her because he was angry. That is domesitc violence - it is abuse!



If two adults have talked about adding some rough play or S&M into their relationship and consented to doine something (like choking in your case) then that is a totally different situation and has nothing to do with abuse.



Also, she didn't cheat on him. They agreed to have an open relationship. They were both naive enough to think that there wouldn't be emotional complications or STD's but there were. They made a bad decision together.

She is not the problem. He is. He set her free and then changed his mind. That is fine - people can change thier minds! When you change the rules, again, they need to discus what happens next like adults. If he feels like her continued relationship is cheating then he can leave her - but he can not abuse her! There is NEVER an excuse for abuse!

Spyro 1 child; Japan 1142 posts
11th Oct '12
Quoting Lotusmama:" Wow. Okay... where to start with this. Domestic Violence is not okay. Period. Full stop. He put his ... [snip!] ... her continued relationship is cheating then he can leave her - but he can not abuse her! There is NEVER an excuse for abuse!"


good thing no one said that what he was doing was acceptable :roll:

JΔS Georgia 72695 posts
11th Oct '12
Quoting Lotusmama:" Wow. Okay... where to start with this. Domestic Violence is not okay. Period. Full stop. He put his ... [snip!] ... her continued relationship is cheating then he can leave her - but he can not abuse her! There is NEVER an excuse for abuse!"


She's cheating on him now. He asked her to end the relationship which right there indicates that he doesn't want an open relationship anymore. She refused. She's cheating. Not only is she cheating but she gave him an STD. That's nasty.

Lotusmama Due March 31; British Columbia 1672 posts
11th Oct '12
Quoting Spyro:" good thing no one said that what he was doing was acceptable :roll:"


You're implying that it is okay. The question was did he cross the line and all you do is talk about how mad you would be if you were him!

uəəๅๅoƆ fuknutz, NM, Togo 105368 posts
11th Oct '12
Quoting Lotusmama:" Wow. Okay... where to start with this. Domestic Violence is not okay. Period. Full stop. He put his ... [snip!] ... her continued relationship is cheating then he can leave her - but he can not abuse her! There is NEVER an excuse for abuse!"


you need to read the thread before spouting shit off.

JΔS Georgia 72695 posts
11th Oct '12
Quoting .Colleen.:" you need to read the thread before spouting shit off."


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Lotusmama Due March 31; British Columbia 1672 posts
11th Oct '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" She's cheating on him now. He asked her to end the relationship which right there indicates that he ... [snip!] ... want an open relationship anymore. She refused. She's cheating. Not only is she cheating but she gave him an STD. That's nasty."

The sexual issues and std's have nothing to do with it. There is no excuse for what he did!

Lotusmama Due March 31; British Columbia 1672 posts
11th Oct '12
Quoting .Colleen.:" you need to read the thread before spouting shit off."


read it.