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BuggyBoo 2 kids; Pennsylvania 1047 posts
12th Oct '12
Quoting Kayla [:)]♥:" I don't care if people go out all the time without their kids. I used to be the one where they'd call ... [snip!] ... no reason for their kids to be in my care 5-6 days a week unless they're working, I'm not their mom, and I don't run a dayhome."


Ya, exactly.

The Doctor 2 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 59981 posts
12th Oct '12
Quoting BuggyBoo:" There is nothing wrong with them being at the bar..there is an issue with them being there all the time, ... [snip!] ... at the bar than doing anything with their kids...basically having others raise your kids while you are out....that is my issue."



Unless you are with "those people" 100% of the time, you have no idea for how long they are at the bars, and unless you are that person, you have no idea what they "care more about".




And I take issue with this "other people raising your kids", as someone who has my child in preschool because I work. Don't you have your older child in daycare/preschool? What does that qualify as? I'm simply curious based on what you are saying about others raising your kids.

Kimber's Mommy 1 child; South Carolina 4272 posts
12th Oct '12
Quoting The Doctor:" Unless you are with "those people" 100% of the time, you have no idea for how long they are at the ... [snip!] ... daycare/preschool? What does that qualify as? I'm simply curious based on what you are saying about others raising your kids."


!!!!!

BuggyBoo 2 kids; Pennsylvania 1047 posts
12th Oct '12
Quoting K.MarieAnnette:" well maybe if this woman is so neglectful, she should have her kids taken away by her mother, who is obviously RAISING them. duh. *rolls eyes*"


Well, no shit. Obviously she will not. She is not abusing them. She works and her ex is a doctor who pays her bills and their care so that have nothing to want for...except a Mom. That was the exact point I was making the whole time that you felt the need to spend trying to fight me on.

The Doctor 2 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 59981 posts
12th Oct '12
Quoting BuggyBoo:" And also, it does not just pertain to single people....I see married people who do it as well all the time, sometimes together and sometimes one parent who does it."


So. If they're married and just that one person goes out-- great. The other PARENT is with that child.



If both of them go out, again... why do you give a shit just because you don't feel like going to a bar?



You are way too judgemental for something that effects you in zero way. You are making up hypothetical people to judge.... kinda silly.

Kimber's Mommy 1 child; South Carolina 4272 posts
12th Oct '12
Quoting BuggyBoo:" Well, no shit. Obviously she will not. She is not abusing them. She works and her ex is a doctor who ... [snip!] ... for...except a Mom. That was the exact point I was making the whole time that you felt the need to spend trying to fight me on."


oh the kids aren't being hurt by their mother going out? YA DON'T SAY?!
let the woman be. she has shit to cope with. you don't know what all is going on and i'm sure she doesn't leave her kids every single day to go get wasted.



bottom line: you don't f**king know, they're not your kids, you don't even know if they're being "damaged", and they ARE being taken care of.

BuggyBoo 2 kids; Pennsylvania 1047 posts
12th Oct '12
Quoting The Doctor:" Unless you are with "those people" 100% of the time, you have no idea for how long they are at the ... [snip!] ... daycare/preschool? What does that qualify as? I'm simply curious based on what you are saying about others raising your kids."


I have a child in preschool. Preschool is to ready them for Kindergarten and teach them how to socialize with kids their age. My child goes to preschool 3 days a week for 2.5 hours. Isn't it normal for a child to go to preschool? Is my child in daycare? No, my child is not in daycare...I am a work at home Mom. I have two children and I take care of them along with my small business from home while my husband works and sure I need time to myself but I also am a parent. Where is the argument in that as oppose to people who go out drinking all the time? My child is learning for a few hours with other kids her age to ready her for school next year. I drop her off and I pick her up those 3 days...not sure how this would qualify as anything even remotely the same.



And as far as people who have their kids in daycare go...people have their kids in daycare because they HAVE to work...they do not HAVE to go out all the time to the bars or wherever else they go that keeps them constantly from spending time with their children. If you have your kids in daycare and sit at home...Um ya, that is kinda weird to me, because why would you be paying for daycare when you have nowhere to be or an excuse to not be caring for your kids?



As far as not knowing when these people go out and come home. I don't really care. I am talking about people who specifically neglect their children and would rather be doing anything other than raising them themselves.

BuggyBoo 2 kids; Pennsylvania 1047 posts
12th Oct '12
Quoting ☾BizzyBee♉:" She should NOT lose her kids when they are being cared for and are healthy and not neglected as in no ... [snip!] ... as in no food shelter clothes etc. :? Have you EVER dealt with CPS? Like, risked losing your kids? That shit is no joke. "


Well I never said she should have CPS called on her. I said I think she's a shitty parent, along with the rest of the people around her. SHe left her husband because he did not agree with her wanting to be out all the time. Boo Hoo for her. The kids are being raised by her Mom who should be enjoying he retired years and instead is raising her kids kids because she is afraid of who would be caring for them if she was not.....I guess she should just constantly vent and get Mother of the year simply because she left her husband to re-live her early 20's because she "needs a break" from parenting, while bitching that she wants more kids lol. She's an example of what I am talking about. Like it or not...my opinion.

The Doctor 2 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 59981 posts
12th Oct '12
Quoting BuggyBoo:" I have a child in preschool. Preschool is to ready them for Kindergarten and teach them how to socialize ... [snip!] ... about people who specifically neglect their children and would rather be doing anything other than raising them themselves."



Okay. So, then, I again re-iterate my question.



How do you know when these parents are out at the bars?




"As far as not knowing when these people go out and come home. I don't really care. I am talking about people who specifically neglect their children and would rather be doing anything other than raising them themselves."




Unless you are with these people 100% of the time... you are just making up hypothetical people to judge and make yourself feel better about.... something. I wouldn't give a shit if a parent went out every damn night to the bar after their child was asleep (assuming they are not leaving the child unattended). Unless you have a child that is awake 24 hours per day... most babies and toddlers I know sleep, and most mothers I know would (wisely) use that time doing something they enjoy (and for sleep, hopefully).



Again. I will say it until I'm blue in the face YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT THESE WOMEN ACTUALLY DO, nor how they think, or what they think about. I'm sorry, you don't.

BuggyBoo 2 kids; Pennsylvania 1047 posts
12th Oct '12
Quoting The Doctor:" Okay. So, then, I again re-iterate my question. How do you know when these parents are out at the ... [snip!] ... in the face YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT THESE WOMEN ACTUALLY DO, nor how they think, or what they think about. I'm sorry, you don't."


I don't know everyone who goes out all the time but I do know some and those are not hypothetical people, they are people I know and who talk about what they do and post about it quite frequently so you easily know what they are doing. The one I spoke about specifically to make my point of the time of person I am talking about I happen to know well, as well as my other friends who know her, so she is not hypothetical at all.

BuggyBoo 2 kids; Pennsylvania 1047 posts
12th Oct '12
Quoting ☾BizzyBee♉:" You said "Well, no shit. Obviously she will not. She is not abusing them." As a reply that she should lose her kids. When, no, she really shouldn't lose her kids. "


The "no shit" was in response to saying she was neglectful, which was the point I was trying to make from the very beginning. Her kids aren't going to be taken away because her kids have what they need and are clothed and she provides food and care for them...she just neglects them emotionally which is't a crime, but isn't the best thing to do either in my opinion. I guess some people are all for it here, but I'm not. Her husband is a doctor, he gives her the money to provide for the kids, and her parents do "daycare" or "nightcare" for them so to each their own, I guess.

The Doctor 2 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 59981 posts
12th Oct '12
Quoting BuggyBoo:" I don't know everyone who goes out all the time but I do know some and those are not hypothetical people, ... [snip!] ... person I am talking about I happen to know well, as well as my other friends who know her, so she is not hypothetical at all."


Haha. Okay.



Whatever makes you feel better about yourself, keep ranting and raving.



I know you've never been in the situation where you've been a single parent, so keep on judgin' and ASSumin'.

Phallus Cranium cocksuck, LA, Sri Lanka 109072 posts
12th Oct '12
Quoting The Doctor:" Haha. Okay. Whatever makes you feel better about yourself, keep ranting and raving. I know you've never been in the situation where you've been a single parent, so keep on judgin' and ASSumin'."

Op doesn't do logic, don't waste your time :D

The Doctor 2 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 59981 posts
12th Oct '12
Quoting .Colleen.:" Op doesn't do logic, don't waste your time :D"


Bwahaha. That's why I said just keep goin'.



Good times, good times.

Phallus Cranium cocksuck, LA, Sri Lanka 109072 posts
12th Oct '12
Quoting The Doctor:" Bwahaha. That's why I said just keep goin'. Good times, good times."

I don't have the attention span :lol: