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Mama Lizzy :] 1 child; Texas 5575 posts
Oct 12th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting K.MarieAnnette:</b>" that's totally fine, too. if you don't feel like you need/want a break, then more power to you. personally, ... [snip!] ... people where if i can't take care of myself every once in a while, i won't be able to take care of others, including my baby."</blockquote>




Yeah you do need to have a healthy mind :)...I get the opposite comments..some of my family tells me my son and I need time apart everytime we visit...I just think it depends on the person..what works for one person wont always for another...I do kinda get jealous of some moms that go out a lot...because I miss the old times with my some of my old friends ...BUT I get jittery and anxious without my son..I can't enjoy it if I'm away too long

The Master Due September 8; 2 kids; Perth, Australia 20023 posts
Oct 12th '12

One of SO's friends is like this. She has her son in full time daycare from 6:30am - 6:30pm her dad takes him Tuesday and Wednesday nights so she can go to the gym/personal trainer, and then her dad also takes him from friday night - monday morning so she can spend the weekend doing whatever she wants. This happens every week and has been since her son was born.

Kimber's Mommy 1 child; South Carolina 4272 posts
Oct 12th '12
Quoting Mama Lizzy :]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting K.MarieAnnette:</b>" that's totally fine, too. if you don't ... [snip!] ... old times with my some of my old friends ...BUT I get jittery and anxious without my son..I can't enjoy it if I'm away too long"


i was never the "go out" kind of type. but being a mostly SAHM (i work like nine hours a week right now, going to school but on a break, looking for a new job), i'm home alot and with my teething baby alot. lol. i need to have time to reorganize myself or i'm worthless. i like going out and like just going to the park and walking or taking a drive, going to the mountains, river, whatever. doesn't take much to keep me happy. but part of me staying happy is having some time away from DD. :)

Mama Lizzy :] 1 child; Texas 5575 posts
Oct 13th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting K.MarieAnnette:</b>" i was never the "go out" kind of type. but being a mostly SAHM (i work like nine hours a week right ... [snip!] ... river, whatever. doesn't take much to keep me happy. but part of me staying happy is having some time away from DD. :)"</blockquote>




I'm a STAHM too... I don't like staying in the house all day everyday...makes me crazy..My son and I have to go out more often then not during the week or I get depressed. He gets bored too staying inside all day he gets frustrated. Usually just go to the park or long walks or the store...or visit friends or family. When my fiance is off we do a lot more :). I wish I had mountains nearby and a river that sounds gorgeous!

Kimber's Mommy 1 child; South Carolina 4272 posts
Oct 13th '12
Quoting Mama Lizzy :]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting K.MarieAnnette:</b>" i was never the "go out" kind of type. ... [snip!] ... friends or family. When my fiance is off we do a lot more :). I wish I had mountains nearby and a river that sounds gorgeous!"


the beach is only 3 1/2 hours away from me too. lol.
DD is only six months old right now and i think i just need to find a better way of lugging all her stuff around to take her out more. lol.

Turd Ferguson Bangkok, Thailand 4583 posts
Oct 13th '12

The funny thing is so many women justify allowing their working mate extra time away to relax, pursue hobbies, etc. because they work out of the home and 'need a break.' I've been a single parent for years. I do what you and your husband do collectively with one body. I am not a partier but you're damn right if I needed some R and R once a week I would be taking it. Some people fish, some go to the gym, some want to spend their free time drunk. NOT my business. Nobody comes home to relieve me of my duties, and thats true for a lot of parents. Remember that.

* Sara * 2 kids; Texas 18864 posts
Oct 13th '12
Quoting Turd Ferguson:" The funny thing is so many women justify allowing their working mate extra time away to relax, pursue ... [snip!] ... time drunk. NOT my business. Nobody comes home to relieve me of my duties, and thats true for a lot of parents. Remember that."



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Mama Lizzy :] 1 child; Texas 5575 posts
Oct 13th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting K.MarieAnnette:</b>" the beach is only 3 1/2 hours away from me too. lol. DD is only six months old right now and i think i just need to find a better way of lugging all her stuff around to take her out more. lol. "</blockquote>




I usually put my son in my beco sling and then put all his stuff in a backpack that has a lot of compartments :)...I take the back pack everywhere...diaper bags suck..I need more room! I'm jealous...the only cool thing here is a lake that's pretty much nasty anyway but there is a wild life sanctuary that's pretty!

MyPurrrtyBabies 3 kids; Dothan, AL, United States 8386 posts
Oct 13th '12
Quoting O ♥ G:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Momma Snell:</b>" It's not something I understand, or could ... [snip!] ... of course when it's done too much that's a different story, but everyone has a different opinion on how much is "too much"."


Agreed with ALL of this. Sometimes takeing time for yourself is what keeps you sane.

MyPurrrtyBabies 3 kids; Dothan, AL, United States 8386 posts
Oct 13th '12
Quoting ☾BizzyBee♉:" Why is every weekend too much time, when there are grandparents who want to take the child so the mom and dad can have some peace and quiet?"


Exactly.



ALSO at the time when parents want to go out, the kids are sleepy or already in bed...so are we suppose to stay home and stare at them sleep?

MyPurrrtyBabies 3 kids; Dothan, AL, United States 8386 posts
Oct 13th '12
Quoting .Colleen.:" I am over here picturing "Bubble Boy" :lol: I never realized how much of a difference the occasional ... [snip!] ... adult night out (or even in) can keep a marriage happy and make the demands and struggles of parenting less overwhelming."


So true!

MyPurrrtyBabies 3 kids; Dothan, AL, United States 8386 posts
Oct 13th '12
Quoting BuggyBoo:" Oh please, I am not a hermit. I am out every single day. Because I am not out at a bar every single ... [snip!] ... family, but I am not living in some basement with no windows simply because I am not out "clubbing it" Friday through Sunday."


I see nothing wrong with clubbing. I see nothing nothing wrong with clubbing EVERY weekend.....kids are already in bed at that time anyways, so what's the big deal? Am I suppose to watch them sleep? There is nothing my child needs/wants when they are sleeping. They usually fall asleep between 9-930 and me and DH will leave around 1030. I don't go out every weekend, its more like a few times a year but thats bc I am so worn out from work.....if I wasn't so tired , I'd be going out a lot.

Kimber's Mommy 1 child; South Carolina 4272 posts
Oct 13th '12
Quoting Mama Lizzy :]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting K.MarieAnnette:</b>" the beach is only 3 1/2 hours away from ... [snip!] ... jealous...the only cool thing here is a lake that's pretty much nasty anyway but there is a wild life sanctuary that's pretty!"


we're starting pretty young with the day trips to places with water (she looooooves water) lol



haha, here's her first time at the beach



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and her first time at the river :)



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Mama Lizzy :] 1 child; Texas 5575 posts
Oct 13th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting K.MarieAnnette:</b>" we're starting pretty young with the day trips to places with water (she looooooves water) lol haha, here's her first time at the beach and her first time at the river :) "</blockquote>




That is so precious!! She's so beautiful <3

Kimber's Mommy 1 child; South Carolina 4272 posts
Oct 13th '12
Quoting ☾BizzyBee♉:" Psh, didn't you know? We're supposed to stand and hover over our babies and watch them sleep. "


if you don't, you're a terrible part-time neglectful parent that deserves to have your kids taken away from you!