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*Turtles* Due July 27; 1 child; Someplace, UT, United States 6083 posts
14th Oct '12

My Mom would go to the bars A LOT and she would bring strangers home with her.
I don't see anything wrong with going out every weekend as long as your child is being taken care of & you're not just pawning them off to random people all the time then there's really nothing to worry about.



Just mind your own business.

Turd Ferguson Bangkok, Thailand 4583 posts
14th Oct '12

The OP would totally not approve of my life. My SO and I spend every Saturday after work alone. We shop, go on dates, sometimes stay home and do the diddy all night long. EVERY weekend.



Sunday through Friday I work, put a hot meal on the table every night, keep up with my home, take care of the kiddos, ALONE. My SO and I are both in the transportation industry. We work opposite shifts, so we don't see eachother but twice a week. One night alone together, one night with the kids.



If you are genuinely concerned for how well my kids are taken care of, I would gladly trade places with you. I bet you interact with your husband daily. I bet you spend atleast a half hour every day doing absolutely nothing.



As I said before, different people, different needs. As much as my SO loves my kids, they are not his. We also need time to allow our relationship to grow.

Diana plus 2 2 kids; Norfolk, Virginia 3576 posts
14th Oct '12
Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" Yeah, i just hate when people say that parents who go out on weekends are not being responsible or are pawning their kids off on their parents or whatever... "


:!:
My ex huaband was deployed and I had a 7 month old and a 2 year old, and running everything by myself. I was overwhelmed and a good family friend forced me to go out a couple times while he was deployed because my sanity depended on it. Went out and had a great time and posted a pic of me and my friend on Facebook one night. What's the first thing people ask? OMG WHAT ABOUT YOUR KIDS? ...wow, really? :roll: Me working my ass off and taking care of the two babies and one of the only nights I do go out.. people talk shit. Awesome!

*-PoisonIvysMama-* 2 kids; Alaska 6593 posts
15th Oct '12
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*-PoisonIvysMama-* 2 kids; Alaska 6593 posts
15th Oct '12
Quoting O ♥ G:" <blockquote><b>Quoting *-PoisonIvysMama-*:</b>" Yes!! I am very annoyed by this behavior. ... [snip!] ... are responsible and work hard all week and spend time with their kids DESERVE nights out to do whatever the hell they want to."



I've seen it. A child gets pawned off to mom or dad (grandpa/grandma), and the mom goes out and gets drunk. She will call and say she cannot pick up the LO because she is, or is hung over or is having too much fun.

Sure a parent deserves some time off, I'm not saying they don't. I am saying that a parent needs to understand that you now have a little person that looks up to you and needs you even when you plan to go out.

If you got a call from your mom saying your LO wanted you to come get her, would you? What if your babysitter had a heart attack?

I don't think we think about these situations when we go out and drink.
I'm not talking about a beer with dinner or simple glass of wine. I'm talking about getting buzzed or drunk when I comment.

Yes, I would report them if they continued to abuse the substance and use me as a caretaker. Obviously a child does not need to be around someone that continues to try to get away. Once a week, maybe, but not every night. This is what I am referring to.

Your child looks up to you in all you do.

☆º×ß¡±©µ×º☆ Due September 18; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Centralia, Washington 44154 posts
15th Oct '12
Quoting *-PoisonIvysMama-*:" I've seen it. A child gets pawned off to mom or dad (grandpa/grandma), and the mom goes out and gets ... [snip!] ... away. Once a week, maybe, but not every night. This is what I am referring to. Your child looks up to you in all you do. "


So you would waste CPS time because someone wasnt spending the amount of time you thought was right with their children

*-PoisonIvysMama-* 2 kids; Alaska 6593 posts
15th Oct '12
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☆º×ß¡±©µ×º☆ Due September 18; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Centralia, Washington 44154 posts
15th Oct '12
Quoting *-PoisonIvysMama-*:" Re-read the post. "


i read it just fine

Alicia Holz 2 kids; Fond du Lac, Wisconsin 535 posts
status 15th Oct '12

as long as you can pay the bills and food with your own money have fun and go out as much as you like

......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
15th Oct '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting *-PoisonIvysMama-*:</b>" I've seen it. A child gets pawned off to mom or dad (grandpa/grandma), and the mom goes out and gets ... [snip!] ... away. Once a week, maybe, but not every night. This is what I am referring to. Your child looks up to you in all you do. "</blockquote>




Idk what kind of relationship u have with your parents or whoever but when I go out to drink my mom/grandma know that's what I'm doing. Plus there's always two adults there and they wouldn't call me simply because my kids wanted them to. They let me have "me" time.

MyPurrrtyBabies 3 kids; Alabama 8386 posts
15th Oct '12
Quoting ~Ice Princess~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting *-PoisonIvysMama-*:</b>" I've seen it. A child gets pawned ... [snip!] ... there's always two adults there and they wouldn't call me simply because my kids wanted them to. They let me have "me" time."


this. !

Kimber's Mommy 1 child; South Carolina 4272 posts
15th Oct '12
Quoting ~Ice Princess~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting *-PoisonIvysMama-*:</b>" I've seen it. A child gets pawned ... [snip!] ... there's always two adults there and they wouldn't call me simply because my kids wanted them to. They let me have "me" time."


um, yep!



:)

The Bear and The Bird 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42577 posts
15th Oct '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting *-PoisonIvysMama-*:</b>" Good for you. I just see it differently. I am very cautious and if for some reason my LOs needed me while I was out, I better be able to come to their rescue. "</blockquote>




I'm sad that you don't have the kind of relationship with your family that I do, where you can trust them to "rescue" your kid just as well as you would.

Phallus Cranium fuknutz, NM, Togo 103283 posts
15th Oct '12
Quoting *-PoisonIvysMama-*:" Yes!! I am very annoyed by this behavior. It is also the grandparents fault for saying yes to watching ... [snip!] ... sacrificed time and their life for you, it is only right you do the same for your child. Otherwise, what are you teaching them?"


I think you're being ridiculous.

Parents that go out are not necessarily 'pawning their kids off".

I dropped my kids off and went home.
and enjoyed the QUIET.

I sincerely hope you reexamine your thought process behind attempting to call cps for babysitting your grandkids

*-PoisonIvysMama-* 2 kids; Alaska 6593 posts
15th Oct '12
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