Quoting .Colleen.:" I know that. But a break is a break. So what if one mom uses it to take a nap and another uses it to drink a 6 pack? Everyone needs a break"
If it is abused, its not a break, its being irresponsible. But yes, everyone does need a break. Agreed.
Quoting FroggysMommy:" If I knew you were that uptight I wouldnt use you as a caretaker at all. When I left Lilys father I ... [snip!] ... are things called cabs or designated drivers. Its not as if there is NO WAY you could get to your child if something happened."
You misunderstood my post.
Some people honestly abuse the fact they have a nice parent to watch their child. Seriously, Ive seen it, been one of those children, and I dont care for drinking anymore now that Im a mom. If that is what helps a parent, then okay, but they better be able to handle anything tossed into their face if the situation presents itself. Going out three nights a week and having a break, is okay as long as you know your child needs you when she wakes up, or even if you are out still.
Quoting K.MarieAnnette:" yes :) i think she's confusing going out a couple of nights a week with actual alcoholics. like the ... [snip!] ... make white russians and spend their last dollars on liquor and are constantly drunk around their kids! she's f**king dense :)"
No, I talking about people that go out and get wasted and abuse the situation.
Quoting *-PoisonIvysMama-*:" You read my post wrong. I hate repeating myself, but here goes. I would report neglect of any child, ... [snip!] ... pick your child up and you know they are safe, etc that is not what I am commenting about. CPS would do more than you think..."
JUST to make sure i wasn't being an idiot myself, i went ahead and re-read your post :)
you were not talking about parents coming home to their kids high and drunk. AND that wasn't even the point of this post. if a parent wants to go out and "party" on the weekends while their child is being RESPONSIBLY taken care of, then that's fine. your kids staying overnight with someone is ALOT different than you trying to take care of your child while you're drunk or "high". soooo, if you called CPS and told them "my kids are leaving my grandkids with me on the weekends and going out and getting drunk, but then have them all week like parents while they're sober and functioning! this is child neglect! i demand you take my grandkids away from my children!"
also, someone watched DD yesterday evening for me.
someone is taking her today, also.
know what i did last night? WHATEVER THE f**k I WANTED.
know what i'm going to do today? SAME f**king THING.
maybe someone on here should call CPS and go ahead and have my daughter taken away from me since i'm NEVER with her.
Quoting ☾BizzyBee♉:" VWS. When my daughter needs a break from her kids after she's grown up... I'll be more than happy to ... [snip!] ... the child is cared for by a responsible adult, then CPS would laugh you off the phone and call the person calling a dipshit. :D"
my mom has offered to babysit multiple times so i could have a break. she told me to smoke a joint while i was alone to relax too. f**king GASP.
<blockquote><b>Quoting *-PoisonIvysMama-*:</b>" No, I talking about people that go out and get wasted and abuse the situation. "</blockquote>
and you made it very clear you believe all parents who go out every weekend are "abusive" regardless of how the people watching the kid feel.
Again... What the f**k ever, dude :lol:
Welp...<<< Bad Mama right hurrr!
Saturday night I went out and got WASTED! It was the 2nd time I have went out and got drunk(1st time I was with my DH and it was a few yrs ago). I got verrry drunk, the kinda drunk where you'll say hello to EVERYONE, lol :) I had me a awesome time with my bff. DH was at home with the kiddos. Yelp, I def needed that.
If the fact that I went out and got WASTED makes me terrible, Ohhhhhhhh Well!
Quoting MyPurrrtyBabies:" Welp...<<< Bad Mama right hurrr! Saturday night I went out and got WASTED! It was the 2nd time ... [snip!] ... home with the kiddos. Yelp, I def needed that. If the fact that I went out and got WASTED makes me terrible, Ohhhhhhhh Well!"
This weekend Im getting a hotel room and drinking a ton with my SO. Why? Because we f**king deserve it.
We are oh so terrible ;)
I would just like to say I went out for a girls night for the first time in a long time and it was f**king fabulous. I should go out more often. I'm jealous of these b***hes who go out every weekend.
Quoting Raptor Jesus (TTC):" I would just like to say I went out for a girls night for the first time in a long time and it was f**king fabulous. I should go out more often. I'm jealous of these b***hes who go out every weekend. "
i am too. lol. if my mom didn't work on the weekends, i'd DEFINITELY go out every weekend. well... not even necessarily go out. SO and i could just chill and watch movies and have a few drinks. that's what we used to do. lol. go have some sushi, have some beer (him) and wine (me), watch a movie, have some sex, wake up super early, have some more sex, get something to eat, go back to bed for hours. ahhh, that was the life. LOL.
Quoting JoAnna &hearts's Jett:" I do. Especially this one girl I know that leaves her 5 year old at home by herself while she goes out and drinks all night."
Now that's fucked up and something to angry about.
I don't want to go out every weekend, but if someone else does and they have someone responsible giving care to their child/ren then whatever.
Meh, my parents partied every weekend when they had us. They were amazing parents and still are. If I could party believe me I would. But I can't. I just sit here out of jealousy when I think of the parents who do have fun.
I go out every weekend but my youngest goes to dads and the 2 oldest go to their grandmother's because my 2 oldest dad lives in another state their grandmother like to see them as much as possible so I don't feel bad at all because they get to see family