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Alicia Holz 2 kids; Fond du Lac, Wisconsin 603 posts
Oct 19th '12
Quoting ☾BizzyBee♉:" 3 year waiting period for assistance? Highly doubtful. I looked it up, and there is no mention of any ... [snip!] ... else told you that, they lied to you. And what's your felony... I've seen many people hired with a felony on their record... "


burglary and whats really sad with our goverment is that i had 15 years hanging over my head..got 4 months on the braclet cause i could afford the $120 bucks a week to be on it at that time..but this girl 17 years old was driving really fast flipped her truck killed about 5 people and there talking about letting her go with a slap on the wrist cause what she has to live with every day is horriable..i can see if it was an accident black ice,deer jumped out,ect but when your going 80-85 mph thats just stupid...and i called the only apartment that goes on income based that might have openings alot of places are taking them off cause there sick of dealing with drug dealers and bad people so the owners don't want to help which is sad really..

......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
Oct 19th '12

Is there a women's shelter around you? They can help you with everything and keep you safe...they won't even tell him you're there.

Alicia Holz 2 kids; Fond du Lac, Wisconsin 603 posts
Oct 19th '12
Quoting ~Ice Princess~:" Is there a women's shelter around you? They can help you with everything and keep you safe...they won't even tell him you're there."


there full to cap theres only one in town

Turd Ferguson Bangkok, Thailand 4583 posts
Oct 19th '12
Quoting Alicia Holz:" i know i could get welfare but with this country this day and age i would rather have it go to a mom ... [snip!] ... fine leave me but what kind of life will you give the kids not even having a job and hes right..it wouldn't be much of a life.."


Let me tell you something and this isn't mean in a ignorant way but rather an eye opener.



I left my super controlling ex 3 years ago. He used to demean me so badly that I didn't want to have friends, or go anywhere. I was a slut for wanting to have a social life. He would do passive aggressive things to me when I was gone. Like cutting holes in my clothes, knowing I wouldn't wear them . No clothes, no money to buy them, that meant I didn't leave the house.



He constantly put me down for having PPD, not wanting to have sex and for being 'fat'. I quit my job to stay home with my son, and once I wanted to go back to work, it was always a song and dance about how everything would be MY responsibility and he wouldn't help me pull it off.



The night before I left him I asked him to wake up with my son, and he cheap shotted me in the face. Pulled me glasses off and stuck his fingers in my eyes until I saw stars.



You want to know something? I didn't even think twice about leaving him. I HAD to. Who knows what next time would have brought. I had no car, no money and no job, BUT I LEFT. I found a place to stay, and I hit the streets looking for a job. I applied for welfare, because it IS THERE for women like you and myself.



My children and I slept for a year in a twin bed with a space heater on an enclosed porch. I found a job, that I hated but I did it. I aggressively sought after the job I did want in this year's time. I got it.



3 years later I make MORE money. I am talking A LOT MORE MONEY than he does. I am completely self sufficient, and about to buy my first house.



Don't say you can't do it. Because you are capable, if you want it, you can do it.

......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
Oct 19th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Alicia Holz:</b>" there full to cap theres only one in town"</blockquote>




Call them. They can make room for you or get you to a different one that does have room.

Alicia Holz 2 kids; Fond du Lac, Wisconsin 603 posts
Oct 19th '12
Quoting Turd Ferguson:" Let me tell you something and this isn't mean in a ignorant way but rather an eye opener. I left my ... [snip!] ... and about to buy my first house. Don't say you can't do it. Because you are capable, if you want it, you can do it."


I quit my job to stay home with my son, and once I wanted to go back to work, it was always a song and dance about how everything would be MY responsibility and he wouldn't help me pull it off




omg my husbands the same way when it comes to this unless i work 90 hrs a week like him and make $17 and hr and about an extra $500 a week cause he owns his own company..then he will help..

......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
Oct 19th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Turd Ferguson:</b>" Let me tell you something and this isn't mean in a ignorant way but rather an eye opener. I left my ... [snip!] ... and about to buy my first house. Don't say you can't do it. Because you are capable, if you want it, you can do it."</blockquote>




!!!

Turd Ferguson Bangkok, Thailand 4583 posts
Oct 19th '12

I would like to say too that leaving him allowed me to meet someone who truly loves me, and my children. I spent a lot of time alone and even though it sucked, it gave me my SO. All the times I spent alone, broke and trying to pull this all off was 100% worth him being in our lives.



It's one thing to make a choice based on what you believe your kids need, and it's another to settle because you don't think you can do it. You can.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42788 posts
Oct 19th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Alicia Holz:</b>" burglary and whats really sad with our goverment is that i had 15 years hanging over my head..got 4 ... [snip!] ... them off cause there sick of dealing with drug dealers and bad people so the owners don't want to help which is sad really.."</blockquote>



Just about any caregiver job will hire with a felony as long as you pee clean.



Call your state disability agency.

Turd Ferguson Bangkok, Thailand 4583 posts
Oct 19th '12
Quoting .Colleen.:" thats awesome, you are one strong woman"


I appreciate you saying that. It's been tough but worth it. I would do it again. I get to be in love now, which is something I have never felt truly. I am at peace with the choice I made to leave, despite what being raised by a "single" parent may or may not do to my kids. I know I made the right choice.

Turd Ferguson Bangkok, Thailand 4583 posts
Oct 19th '12
Quoting .Colleen.:" Absolutely true. I was raised by a single mom and I think I can confidently say that we were all ... [snip!] ... she remained married. I will forever be proud of her for what she did for herself and us. and your kids will too "


I wish I could get my sister on board with everything you just said. She's in a sad marriage. Her husband has zero initiative and frankly he's mean. To her, to the kids, etc.



She found out a few weeks ago that she has diabetes and he immediately blamed her, instead of offering support. It's just pathetic.



She thinks she is doing the kids a favor by being unhappy, so they don't have to grow up in a 'broken' home like we did. My mother left my father for the absolute most selfish reasons. My dad wasn't abusive, he was a great provider, but he was boring honestly. She left him for an out of work drug addict.



I don't fault her. She made a decision that was not desirable for us, but what's done is done. My sister doesn't see that she has a valid reason to walk away.

Turd Ferguson Bangkok, Thailand 4583 posts
Oct 19th '12
Quoting .Colleen.:" I hope your sister see's the truth before too long :( I am sure the idea of leaving and supporting ... [snip!] ... could take the car and registration leaving her with no job, no money, 3 kids and no car. Kids should never have to see that"


Nobody should have to see that. Your mom is a strong woman.



It just really reinforces my choices seeing people talk as adults about where they come from. I hope my children see that I made the right choice.



My son's dad has attempted to tell him that I left him, abandoned my family to have play time, etc. Everyone else knows the truth. He can tell my son that if he so chooses, but I never dog his father to him. He still has that illusion that his father is great. I let him have it.

Ryloonjimama Australia 18873 posts
Oct 19th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Alicia Holz:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☾BizzyBee♉:</b>" How is it wrong?? If the resources ... [snip!] ... to him once you become a parent thats your job forget about anything else..lose your friends..part of your family everything.."</blockquote>




Does that go for him too? He stays home all the time with you?

MyPurrrtyBabies 3 kids; Dothan, AL, United States 8386 posts
Oct 19th '12
Quoting FroggysMommy:" This weekend Im getting a hotel room and drinking a ton with my SO. Why? Because we f**king deserve it. hell. Yes. We are oh so terrible ;)"


HAY,HAYHAY...Hay! :) Have fun Mama, have a drink for me....No drinking for me tonight,still hungover from last weekend lol, but I soooo needed last weekend, I had a awesome time with a good friend, haven't done that in yrs...shame-shame on me!

Alicia Holz 2 kids; Fond du Lac, Wisconsin 603 posts
Oct 19th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ryloonjimama:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Alicia Holz:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☾BizzyBee♉:</b>" ... [snip!] ... friends..part of your family everything.."</blockquote> Does that go for him too? He stays home all the time with you?"</blockquote>




he looks at it since he works 90 plus hrs a week and stays home i should to