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......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
19th Oct '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Turd Ferguson:</b>" Let me tell you something and this isn't mean in a ignorant way but rather an eye opener. I left my ... [snip!] ... and about to buy my first house. Don't say you can't do it. Because you are capable, if you want it, you can do it."</blockquote>




!!!

Turd Ferguson Bangkok, Thailand 4583 posts
19th Oct '12

I would like to say too that leaving him allowed me to meet someone who truly loves me, and my children. I spent a lot of time alone and even though it sucked, it gave me my SO. All the times I spent alone, broke and trying to pull this all off was 100% worth him being in our lives.



It's one thing to make a choice based on what you believe your kids need, and it's another to settle because you don't think you can do it. You can.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42788 posts
19th Oct '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Alicia Holz:</b>" burglary and whats really sad with our goverment is that i had 15 years hanging over my head..got 4 ... [snip!] ... them off cause there sick of dealing with drug dealers and bad people so the owners don't want to help which is sad really.."</blockquote>



Just about any caregiver job will hire with a felony as long as you pee clean.



Call your state disability agency.

Phallus Cranium cocksuck, LA, Sri Lanka 108887 posts
status 19th Oct '12
Quoting Turd Ferguson:" Let me tell you something and this isn't mean in a ignorant way but rather an eye opener. I left my ... [snip!] ... and about to buy my first house. Don't say you can't do it. Because you are capable, if you want it, you can do it."

thats awesome, you are one strong woman

Turd Ferguson Bangkok, Thailand 4583 posts
19th Oct '12
Quoting .Colleen.:" thats awesome, you are one strong woman"


I appreciate you saying that. It's been tough but worth it. I would do it again. I get to be in love now, which is something I have never felt truly. I am at peace with the choice I made to leave, despite what being raised by a "single" parent may or may not do to my kids. I know I made the right choice.

Phallus Cranium cocksuck, LA, Sri Lanka 108887 posts
status 19th Oct '12
Quoting Turd Ferguson:" I appreciate you saying that. It's been tough but worth it. I would do it again. I get to be in love ... [snip!] ... I made to leave, despite what being raised by a "single" parent may or may not do to my kids. I know I made the right choice."


Absolutely true.

I was raised by a single mom and I think I can confidently say that we were all much better off without an abusive drunk as our father. Times were tough, but we were not getting the shit beat out of us.

My mother instilled independence, self worth and compassion in all of us. Our life would have been completely different had she remained married.
I will forever be proud of her for what she did for herself and us.

and your kids will too



Turd Ferguson Bangkok, Thailand 4583 posts
19th Oct '12
Quoting .Colleen.:" Absolutely true. I was raised by a single mom and I think I can confidently say that we were all ... [snip!] ... she remained married. I will forever be proud of her for what she did for herself and us. and your kids will too "


I wish I could get my sister on board with everything you just said. She's in a sad marriage. Her husband has zero initiative and frankly he's mean. To her, to the kids, etc.



She found out a few weeks ago that she has diabetes and he immediately blamed her, instead of offering support. It's just pathetic.



She thinks she is doing the kids a favor by being unhappy, so they don't have to grow up in a 'broken' home like we did. My mother left my father for the absolute most selfish reasons. My dad wasn't abusive, he was a great provider, but he was boring honestly. She left him for an out of work drug addict.



I don't fault her. She made a decision that was not desirable for us, but what's done is done. My sister doesn't see that she has a valid reason to walk away.

Phallus Cranium cocksuck, LA, Sri Lanka 108887 posts
status 19th Oct '12
Quoting Turd Ferguson:" I wish I could get my sister on board with everything you just said. She's in a sad marriage. Her husband ... [snip!] ... that was not desirable for us, but what's done is done. My sister doesn't see that she has a valid reason to walk away."


I hope your sister see's the truth before too long :(
I am sure the idea of leaving and supporting the kids on her own is scary

Staying together to avoid a "broken home" never benefits anyone, especially the kids.

There was alot of laughter and love in our "broken home" growing up and I still feel the best thing my mother did for us was divorcing my father.

My last memory of him was beating the hell out of my mother in the front yard as our neighbors watched so he could take the car and registration leaving her with no job, no money, 3 kids and no car.

Kids should never have to see that

Turd Ferguson Bangkok, Thailand 4583 posts
19th Oct '12
Quoting .Colleen.:" I hope your sister see's the truth before too long :( I am sure the idea of leaving and supporting ... [snip!] ... could take the car and registration leaving her with no job, no money, 3 kids and no car. Kids should never have to see that"


Nobody should have to see that. Your mom is a strong woman.



It just really reinforces my choices seeing people talk as adults about where they come from. I hope my children see that I made the right choice.



My son's dad has attempted to tell him that I left him, abandoned my family to have play time, etc. Everyone else knows the truth. He can tell my son that if he so chooses, but I never dog his father to him. He still has that illusion that his father is great. I let him have it.

Phallus Cranium cocksuck, LA, Sri Lanka 108887 posts
status 19th Oct '12
Quoting Turd Ferguson:" Nobody should have to see that. Your mom is a strong woman. It just really reinforces my choices seeing ... [snip!] ... if he so chooses, but I never dog his father to him. He still has that illusion that his father is great. I let him have it."


Your kids will see and understand and they will admire you for your strength

Maybe setting this example for your sister will show her that it can be done and she can be happy.

Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
19th Oct '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Alicia Holz:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☾BizzyBee♉:</b>" How is it wrong?? If the resources ... [snip!] ... to him once you become a parent thats your job forget about anything else..lose your friends..part of your family everything.."</blockquote>




Does that go for him too? He stays home all the time with you?

MyPurrrtyBabies 3 kids; Alabama 8386 posts
19th Oct '12
Quoting FroggysMommy:" This weekend Im getting a hotel room and drinking a ton with my SO. Why? Because we fucking deserve it. hell. Yes. We are oh so terrible ;)"


HAY,HAYHAY...Hay! :) Have fun Mama, have a drink for me....No drinking for me tonight,still hungover from last weekend lol, but I soooo needed last weekend, I had a awesome time with a good friend, haven't done that in yrs...shame-shame on me!

Alicia Holz 2 kids; Fond du Lac, Wisconsin 585 posts
19th Oct '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ryloonjimama:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Alicia Holz:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☾BizzyBee♉:</b>" ... [snip!] ... friends..part of your family everything.."</blockquote> Does that go for him too? He stays home all the time with you?"</blockquote>




he looks at it since he works 90 plus hrs a week and stays home i should to