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nursemaya mom to 3! 3 kids; 5 angel babies; Minnesota 16003 posts
14th Oct '12
Quoting MommyingWithGrace:" Some guys are just funny weird about stuff like that. Honestly...6 yrs and he feels you cheated on him? ... [snip!] ... together? People in this day and age dont normally have words to make it official. You just "know" when you are a couple."


right! How old are these people that need to talk about titles officially. Last time I asked if someone would be my boyfriend I was in 7th grade. Seems really immature- well the OP seems really immature all around so I guess it fits

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
14th Oct '12
Quoting MommyingWithGrace:" Some guys are just funny weird about stuff like that. Honestly...6 yrs and he feels you cheated on him? ... [snip!] ... together? People in this day and age dont normally have words to make it official. You just "know" when you are a couple."


That's exactly what happened. At time we were dating he was too old for since I was a minor (he's 7 years older) so I didn't think he wanted anything serious and I didn't think my family would approve. Apparently, I was wrong and he did want something serious. I got with some close to my age and had a child, to him that is when I cheated.

nightshaderebel 1 child; 1 angel baby; Houston, Texas 240 posts
14th Oct '12

just tell the guy how you feel about the situation. if hes still wanting to move to be with ya, sounds like he wants to be with ya. but its easier to just ask than assume.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
14th Oct '12
Quoting nursemaya -mommy to 2:" right! How old are these people that need to talk about titles officially. Last time I asked if someone ... [snip!] ... be my boyfriend I was in 7th grade. Seems really immature- well the OP seems really immature all around so I guess it fits"


How does she sound immature? Because she wants to make sure the guys is committed to her and not sleeping around with other women before she has sex with him?

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
14th Oct '12
Quoting nightshaderebel:" just tell the guy how you feel about the situation. if hes still wanting to move to be with ya, sounds like he wants to be with ya. but its easier to just ask than assume."


That's what it is, I don't want to assume and I'm really bad with talking about stuff like this but we have to touch the subject. My friends all love him, they know he is a good guy.

nightshaderebel 1 child; 1 angel baby; Houston, Texas 240 posts
14th Oct '12

then go for it honey. and good luck!

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
14th Oct '12
Quoting Sweetie-Pie:" How does she sound immature? Because she wants to make sure the guys is committed to her and not sleeping around with other women before she has sex with him? "


Thank you! I don't really expect him to ask like we're kids, I just want him to make it clear. I'm trying to think about all of this before I see him in a few days so I know exactly what to tell him.

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
14th Oct '12
Quoting nightshaderebel:" then go for it honey. and good luck!"


I will probably have a drink before doing it lol, thanks!

nursemaya mom to 3! 3 kids; 5 angel babies; Minnesota 16003 posts
14th Oct '12
Quoting Sweetie-Pie:" How does she sound immature? Because she wants to make sure the guys is committed to her and not sleeping around with other women before she has sex with him? "


oh yeah and instead she sleeps with other guys and gets pregnant, oh yes I see what you mean, very mature.

MommyingWithGrace Beverly Hills, California 2427 posts
14th Oct '12

OP, if getting an "official confirmation" is important to you, just tell him. Then ask him where you guys stand. tell him how you feel and then go from there. You guys have wasted 6 yrs already. Time to either make it official or move on. That is 6 precious years you will never get back.

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
14th Oct '12
Quoting nursemaya -mommy to 2:" oh yeah and instead she sleeps with other guys and gets pregnant, oh yes I see what you mean, very mature."


Umm I didn't sleep around when I got pregnant. We were together for a few months before we even had sex. I was sexually abused, I can't have sex with just anyone...

nursemaya mom to 3! 3 kids; 5 angel babies; Minnesota 16003 posts
14th Oct '12
Quoting BG Secrets:" Umm I didn't sleep around when I got pregnant. We were together for a few months before we even had sex. I was sexually abused, I can't have sex with just anyone..."


oh but I thought you wanted to be with this 6 year guy? You were the one that said you "cheated" on mr. 6 year and go pregnant. Seriously I don't know why this guy would wanna be with a woman that he thinks "cheated" (if in fact he wants to be with you)

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
14th Oct '12
Quoting nursemaya -mommy to 2:" oh but I thought you wanted to be with this 6 year guy? You were the one that said you "cheated" on ... [snip!] ... Seriously I don't know why this guy would wanna be with a woman that he thinks "cheated" (if in fact he wants to be with you)"


Because I did say we have been on and off, never said of long the "off's" or "on's" were. I didn't say I cheated, I said he considers it cheating but we were never officially together or spoken about being monogamous

Mrs cree Due November 23; 33 kids; Ontario 1907 posts
14th Oct '12

I'm sorry to say this but if this man has not committed after six years he never will time to move on find yourself someone who will be up front he maybe so passive because he really doesn't care good luck

nursemaya mom to 3! 3 kids; 5 angel babies; Minnesota 16003 posts
14th Oct '12
Quoting Mrs cree:" I'm sorry to say this but if this man has not committed after six years he never will time to move on ... [snip!] ... will time to move on find yourself someone who will be up front he maybe so passive because he really doesn't care good luck"


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